I joined MM in spring 2012. I am a 54-year-old professional woman with an advanced degree and a global technical/marketing position at a major corporation. I also live in a very remote, small town and I have three teenagers. I work from home via internet, or I travel internationally. I am NOT a cougar...I am an alpha female who was seeking a super-alpha male. But with my children and my remote location (not to mention my age) it wasn't going to be easy. I was very, very uncomfortable with the idea of using an online service. I felt awkward writing the profile. I felt even more awkward when I began to get replies and I felt like I'd placed myself on display at a meat market. I remained very wary when making the first tentative phone calls or meetings.
From June through August, I had a gold membership. I never "wink" at anyone. If I am interested, I write an e-mail. I write easily and well, and that was how I began all interaction. If I received a wink or e-mail from someone who was interested in a "cougar lady", I always responded with a kind "not interested" reply if I wasn't interested...I didn't ignore them. I was disappointed in the number of contacts from 20-30 year old young men who were interested in finding a cougar. I thought the site specified that members should have a minimum income or asset level (which often indicates a professional career base). I didn't expect so many contacts from men half my age.
In most cases, potential matches and I corresponded by e-mail frequently...often daily...to get to know a little more about each other. I only liked to correspond to one individual at a time. I was always very nervous about offering my phone number. It was usually after about a month of e-mail contact.
Next, we would speak by telephone. In one case, I picked up a potential problem when a gentleman couldn't remember anything from the conversations the day before. We never met. I made one serious mistake: I'd met a gentleman from several states away. The first one that I really "clicked" with. The first that I met in person. A respected professional who could be verified with recognition in Wikipedia. We corresponded by e-mail and talked every night for 3 months. We got along extremely well. Then I stopped over to meet him on a coast-to-coast flight. He lived in a remote summer resort town, and he had a B & B. He invited me to stay at the B & B because the area hotels were all fully booked for summer. I agreed. I'd talked to him for 3 months. Despite my up-front declaration that this was to MEET, and not to be physical, he became somewhat aggressive. Not felony-aggressive, but he made me very uncomfortable. I was confused because he pressed me hard after I said "no". I left in a very upset state: this was not what I expected from a man that I'd communicated with so well for so long. The meeting ended the courtship. He told me that it was the only way to discover if we had "chemistry". I told him that I preferred chivalry.
I was lucky. I'd put myself into a very dangerous position, thinking that 3 months of communication and a wiki check were sufficient. I was wrong. From that point forward, I was very, very careful. (As it was, before I went to the B & B, I'd left lots of contact information with friends and checked in frequently). I met another man after that who has become a hiking friend, but was not a match. He showed me that chivalry was really the norm. The other experience was as abnormal as it had felt to me.
I was disappointed in the remaining contacts. I was getting a lot of winks from guys who were seeking cougars, and the men that I contacted were not interested in dealing with a woman with teens.
I was about to cancel my membership. I was at the end of the 6-month period. I was prepared to look at a different route, like Kelleher International matchmaking service.
But I looked one last time at new profiles. There was a highly-educated professional man who seemed to be looking for someone like me. I took a chance and renewed the gold membership for another 6 months, just to send an e-mail. He replied. He'd been on Match for a while, but just joined MM looking to increase the education and professional level of the people on the site.
This time, we only e-mailed for a couple of weeks before speaking by phone. And we met within a week after that for lunch. We were both working around travel schedules, and that put some restriction on our meeting...now or much later. We chose to meet right away.
It has been 4 months. We live at the edge of our search distance (4 hours apart). We have advanced from lunches to dinners to my visits to his town, or his visits here on weekends (he stays at a hotel) to meet and interact with my children. The relationship is growing with proper slow and methodical growth. He is the super-alpha individual that I sought. He wants a partner, and so do I. He is clearly working to build a relationship, not to hook up. We talk daily...and sometimes multiple times during the day. We are getting to know one another and each day we grow a bit more. He is normal. No addictions, no mental health issues. They do exist.
I am not looking any longer, for I have found a true match. There is no guarantee that we will be a forever-couple. But we are growing, and that's all that I can ask. I would like to remove my profile from MM and I would like to thank you for providing this opportunity. We couldn't have met without it.
with my best regards,
I am ending my subscription because I have met a wonderful person on this site and I am currently in a relationship with her. This is a great online dating site. This is an excellent online dating site
I believe I have!!! I dated some crazy people, but one special man found me, we winked and he never gave up on me. We are talking, just had our first date and I believe hes my last one!!!! I'm exausted dating!
I found someone from the site!! I have been on the site now for almost 3 months. I have met at least 8 men and spoke to around 20 by telephone. The people I was meeting were not people I could ever see myself with. I began feeling quite skeptical of dating websites like this one.
I began conversations by phone with a guy named Jim who lives in California. I live in Texas. We spoke on the phone only for about a week before meeting in person. He flew me out to California and took me on several dates. We hung out the whole time. The first night I had stayed in a hotel just to feel safe. After that night, I ended up staying with him at his house for the rest of my visit.
Since then I have flown out there one other time. He will be coming here to visit me in Houston next Wednesday. We both decided that we want to be exclusive with one another and we plan to travel back and forth on a regular basis. I am a student and I don't graduate until December 2013 otherwise I would move in with him in a heartbeat. He also has a career that keeps him in California for at least 14 more months.
As soon as we met there was an instant connection. I can't really even explain it. Maybe love a first sight? He is an incredible person and the sweetest man I have ever met. I can't wait to see what our future holds and I will definitely keep you guys updated.
It is my desire to terminate my listing on MillionaireMatch.com at this time. I have met a significant other at this time through the site and plan to pursue this relationship. I certainly appreciate the professionalism of your site and the fact that it allowed me to meet someone when I had almost given up on Love.
Every morning when we wake up, we look at each other and just think..."I can't believe I found you!". We are soulmates in every sense of the word. We are best friends, mentors, and passionately in love.
My fiancé and I are getting married August 2013 in a Castle in Europe with our closest friends and family... it will be the most beautiful day of our lives.
My man is successful, well established, and that allows me to be a woman and live out my dreams of becoming a mother and freelance artist.
Shortly after we are going to plan a family... well more like add to our family of 4 dogs! haha.
I'm currently speaking with one Gold Member right now. In our initial emails nearly 18 months ago and recent chats, we discovered that we share many of the same experiences and cultural backgrounds. It has taken a long time for both of us to find partners but we seemed to magically click instantly when we first wrote to one another despite the long distance.
I am here in White Rock, BC [West Coast] and he is based in Manchester, CT [East Coast]. We are making plans to see each other soon to spend some quality time together and he has even asked me to consider moving to CT - not only for work opportunities, but that he wants to catch up on the 50 years that he missed and have 50 plus more with me.
A very romantic statement to make, but feel very positive of my connection with him. We are discussing hiding our profiles from others to give our friendship and pending relationship some time to grow and flourish.
Good night and thanks for the advice.
We corresponded by email for about 6 weeks then talked on the phone for 3 weeks and then met for lunch. He flew me in his private plane to Harris Ranch for an amazing early dinner then we flew back and roamed one of our mutually local towns giving us more time to get to know one another. We then spent the next afternoon going to a movie, watching the Green Bay Packers Game and then he took me to dinner at the Cheesecake Factory.
We have an amazing chemistry with lots in common.
Thanks for the help!
I have only been on the site a short while but I have met someone wonderful! I hope to have a lasting relationship with him we will have to wait and see I will keep you posted.
I can be a handful and work to much so wish me luck . Thank you.
Hello, I am dating someone from this site. I feel overwhelmed to have to respond to many other emails when I am dating one person. I really like my very first date. I think he is my perfect match. Thank you for allowing me to join your site.
I met somebody on your site and I am crazy about her and suspect it may go all the way to marriage.
We met last weekend after about two weeks of communicating. Geana and her son flew out to meet myself and my daughter in Los Angeles last week and we are spending Thanksgiving together. They are also joining my daughter and I in Cape Town during the Christmas Holidays..
Just some feedback. I would have used your site more if the IPad app was better. It really has a LOT of room for improvement and actually makes you look bad the way it is right now.
We emailed each other for two weeks before meeting. The emails became increasingly more more playful, deeper and a bit romantic. She did not have a picture online but sent one after a week, and I was stunned with her beauty.
We met in a very classy restaurant bar for a couple of drinks. We both felt this was feeling very good already and were ready for something more than the "coffee shop meeting." I personally felt this could be a very good match and wanted my first memory of her to be in a special place, which it was. We went to my home afterward, listened to soft music, danced, held each other and talked about the wonderful feelings we'd been having. Since then, we've come together to listen to music often, walk along the lakefront, view the beautiful gardens in the city, tour a romantic small town and enjoy getting to know each other. After two short weeks, we continue to fall more deeply in love with each other and both have the strong sense that the other is the "one!" We quite literally cannot keep our hands off of each other.
This comes for me after about five months of time online with millionaire match and about 10 months on another site and only one "set up" by a friend. Though there were many brief connections and about eight dates, none were anywhere close to being the "one," until now. I'm overwhlemed, really, with joy that I've met this woman.
Thanks much for potentially changing the entire course of my life in such a profound and beautiful way.
Dear Sir:I just had a phone call that someone I have been communicating with since July is coming here from Singapore and I am waiting for him for some time and finally got word that
he is definitely coming to meet me finally. Thank you so much....
We are talking and our relationship is quite intense so far he is lovely we talk every day and he has asked me to stop being available on the web site. If things change I would like to come back to your site thank you for letting me join.
Yes I would be very happy to tell you of my experiences. I was on and off your site for maybe 9 months and met several nice men some which have become very good friends and business associates. But in the end I met and fell in love with my current partner and soul mate!
Thank you for an amazing and very classy dating site. I will and have recommended it to many of my single girlfriends.