Times have changed. Both men and women don't know what they really want from a relationship. What are the roles for today. Independence is the buzz word, but independence and living on your own at 60 is not quite the same as 21.
Woman do have expectations in finding her prince. A woman wants to live a lifestyler of her dreams. If a man can come close to that fantasy and make it as close to a reality then the interest is stimulated. A woman doesn't look at a man so much in looks as men do with woman. A woman wants to feel her prince will be able to take care of her and "their family they create together". If a woman feels that a man cannot, then she will most likely pass you up. It is just the same in the animal kingdom, in a species of birds, the male bird creates the nesting home for his mate, if she doesn't like it then she has him tear it down and rebuild a new one until he get's it right. So, the famle is particular in her needs. The best man wins the prize! Then she rewards him with her love and their life together. Women want a secure man within himself, and with someone she can trust. A man isn't happy being a man if he is not where he wants to be financially. If he is happy then his lady will be happy too "Because he is happy HE will make her feel like his princess".
Without the need or desire to become or remain a couple for the sake of having children and perpetuating a marriage, there really is very little that can attract and hold a woman or a man in a stable monogomous relationship, if they don't have a passion to be in one.
Most men and women are simply more in love with themselves than they could ever be with someone else. Read the profiles. Women describe themselves as if they were glamourous movie stars in search of other glamourous movie stars. I just had a date Saturday night with a pudgy 50 year old woman who wrote in her profile that her friends thought she was like Audrey Hepburn. Really?
The reality is that most of us are just refugess from multile failed relationships.
Narcissim is a prescription for starring in mirror adoring yourself while life passes you by.
I tend to think that beauty is in the eye of the beholder . That being said I can only speak for myself I feel that the older, smarter and more assertive I get i just scare the sh** out of a lot of guys...hahaha... It´s the duality of things they want sexy but not to sexy..they want smart but not to smart ...they want independent but not to independent . It just seems like I cant get that middle ground ;)
i would consider myself pretty and im now single because my ex husband cheated and im not willing to stay in an untrusting relationship with a man who would do that so here i am single...the reason? i am a single mom! i dont have a lot of time to go out so we have to do it online...doesnt mean we dont do things that ugly women do nor does it mean our expectations are higher!
They are too busy sorting through inappropriate guys. Higher expectations on their side - guy has to be better than they are - and a lot of good guys not hitting on them as those girls "are not available" when, in fact, they just might not appear to be.
In translation, if girl is the wait to be picked type, she will not initiate the contact.
Meantime she will be busy being polite and trying to know better the people who hit on her. A lot are not the right kind.
So, two ingredients:
1. higher expectations (maybe)
2. fear of failure on behalf of the guys which are an appropriate fit.
To be too smart, or too beautiful, or both, might be a curse in disguise.
___________ This is the good case, but there are also other reasons for which good looking women are alone.
ooooooooooohhhhhh my the question i love to answer it seems i did a survey and men told me ugly women do more things than pretty women which i felt is not true because i do everything and i mean everything also some men said they dont have to worry about other men looking at they women but i feel thats crazy because if she have a nice body and she ugly men still look some men that is some men dont have standards and some men do my situation is that men feel threatened by me being smart and high maintenance thats my problem sorry a lot of pretty women dont like to be looking any kind of way.
Back in the days of the Kinsey report (early '50s) men were found to cheat about 4 times as often as women. That has changed considerably. The number of women who cheat today has become almost equal to the number of men.
If you expect someone to cheat, they will--it will just become a self-fulling prophecy. Not saying one should go into a new relationship without open eyes, but don't start with negative expectations.
Question of the millenneum (sp? I never peg that word correctly.)! Firstly, there are far more women in the world than men. That means when it's time to pair-up, a lot of us have to be left out. That's just how it goes. Then of late, I notice so many men around my age have so much emotional baggage they carry with them from one flitting relationship to the next without having given themselves time and introspection to process it all and reflect on it, other than licking their wounds and giving themselves an empty pep talk before hitting the scene again with someone new. This isn't a good situation the guy or for the new girl, or the ten girls after that. Humans have to do some introspection before moving on to the next entanglement, or they are just spreading poison, in my opinion. That's not to say women don't have their variety of counterproductive issues, too, 'cause we've all got *some* emotional hang-ups.
Besides the emo-baggage... There's still hope that two paths will cross at just the right moment, and chemistry, timing and such will do their parts to bring two beautiful people together. I'm still hopin' and open! Best to you all in your searches! :)
Ok Im open to all opinions. I want to know why ladies who are mainly 25 to 45 and are above average in the looks dept., are still single and can't seem to find a guy to settle down with. Many are looking here and other personals sites. From my dating experience they seem to have higher than average expectations for men. Men on the other hand, such as myself tend to avoid these women once they are figured out. I want to know from both sexes what you think these expectations are and why women dont want to accept the character of guys that are attracted to them?
Maybe because she's not attracted to him. It has to work both ways, no? Why won't you accept the charater of women who are attractd to you? Surely there are some?
I am finding out that men tend to assume that if they are interested, and the women must be interested as well. Am I wrong here?