Why Are American Women so Hung up on Age Long Term Relationship

  • View author's info Posted on Aug 10, 2012 at 06:43 PM

    Age at least in my view is a number. I have met 28 years old women more mature than 50 and also found 40 year olds that havent figured anything in life about. What puzzles me is most women outside the US seem to be much more concerned about the inner world of the man than the numeric number. I will add, i have no issue with a woman that wants children, but i have found and also would guess there are just as many women that if they had the man of their dreams, they would be open to a life full of daily adventure, fun, no games, honesty and be willing to focus her life on the partnership. I guess i continue to be surprised by women that think a man thinks and acts in every way half his numeric age, and just might find some men take care of their body so that number again means nothing. I am in better shape than i was when i was 20. I guess I would love to hear feedback from american women, but also from others outside the US, that confirm my views and maybe give the US women some feedback why a 60 years old may be actually only 30 if you look past the number!!!!
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  • View author's info Posted on May 25, 2019 at 09:53 PM

    I am 70 and don't want to get involved with a man who is my son's age. It doesn't feel right to me. That said, some men morph into Santa Clauses with white beard and motorcycle. I don't seek that either.


    As the body ages, it changes. I am aware that I take no medications. I didn't used to even think about that years ago. I'm aware of my balance. I'm aware of avoiding falls. I still get up and move about, yet I am just more aware of what my body does.


    I know I'm viewed as a grandmother--an older woman, and many assumptions are made by those younger. They don't understand, and probably won't until they are older. I didn't until I became the oldest surviving member of my family.


    For me age doesn't correlate to more experience as I pretty much went to work and came home, repeat. That's not true of many though. Lifestyle affects outlook.


    Am I interested in a younger man? All I can say is I'm interested in a man, who despite age, is strong, active, kind, and has experienced enough disappointments and happinesses to continue in a positive manner and for whatever reason, wants me.

  • View author's info Posted on May 25, 2019 at 09:16 AM

    I feel like age matters, because my own conscious would say, "Hey, this guy is too young. He is like dating your son," or, "This guys is as old as my dad, if not older." I would just feel insecure with the relationship. I wouldn't want the older gentleman thinking I was dating him for his money...if he had money like that. If I found a man who I connected with though, and he knew I was into him for who he was, and not what's in his wallet, I would give it a shot. 

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 19, 2014 at 09:12 AM

    I can speak for myself, a man in 60's is more likely to get sick than a man in his 40's. Nobody dies healthy and there is an underlying fear that we may fall in love with someone only to have them get sick or die...Fear is always the common denominator in every situation...

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 05, 2014 at 01:04 AM

    Everyone in my family dates younger. Usually no one my age can keep up and I'm not into wasting time.

  • View author's info Posted on Dec 10, 2013 at 11:49 AM

    If you bake something at 450 degree for 10 minutes, is it the same as baking at 350 degree for 20 minutes?

    If you marinated meat with stronger salt for one hour, is it the same as less salt for two hours?

    I don't think age is absolute, but I do think there are things only time can do.

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 02, 2013 at 12:31 PM

    i am single mom but i want a real man that is romantic and believe in love , want to get merry . no matter how old is he . 

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  • View author's info Posted on Jul 28, 2013 at 04:45 PM

    WOW! 79, what was the attraction?
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 29, 2013 at 07:21 PM

    I was married to someone 26 years younger. Face it who knows when they are going to die.I have seen men much older loose their wifes first.
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 18, 2013 at 06:00 AM

    Well, I am of a slightly different view.  I think that age is a somewhat subjective thing.  I am 58, but I have been very active all my life, am a little bit less mature than many 58 year olds because I have not have the life experience of having my own kids, so I tend to get on better with people that are abut 10 - 15 years younger thqn me.  Also, because the average woman has a longer life expectancy than the average man (although this is beginning to change) I would rather find someone slightly younger who will last as long as me!
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 11, 2013 at 06:13 AM

    It is my belief that the best age difference is 5 years plus or minus ones age if one is interested in a successful long-term relationship.  An older guy with a younger woman seems creepy to me in these modern times, however an older woman with a much younger man can be quite interesting for a short time.  :)
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 02, 2013 at 07:59 PM

    I totally agree... i"m 53 but fell much better then when i was 30... the inner part of a person is more important
  • View author's info Posted on May 26, 2013 at 04:19 PM

    I kind of agree too. Your message did put an empathsis on age. It's not just women who are concerned about the age of the men that they date, but men too.
    I am glad that you mentioned that you don't mind having kids. However, there are men in your age group that already had the marriage and the kids (And don't want to go through it again), but they still want to date the 18 to 25 year old women. And yet those 18 to 25 year old women do want the marriage and kids.
    But I also think that the reason why people, like myself, put an emphasis on age is because I want someone that I can relate to. I cannot relate to any man, right now, who is 18 years old. At the same time, I can't relate to any man who is in his 60s.
    That's my point of view anyways.
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  • View author's info Posted on May 15, 2013 at 01:52 PM

    I was in a relationship with a 79 year old. I met him when I was 26. I'm 35 now. He taught me so much. That was my best relationship ever. Unfortunately he had a heartattack and passed away. Age has never been a deterant for me. I prefer older than younger

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  • View author's info Posted on May 11, 2013 at 01:13 PM

    Quoting author:

    Dating or marrying someone within a certain age is a societal issue in America.  There is actually a formula: (Current Age/2) + 7 = Minimum age to date/marry.  Anything below that number gets societal disapproval, raised eyebrows, labels, and talk.  It could be one doesn't care, but peer and family pressure can be great.

    Yes ORLANDO--
    I'm certain if I had an 80 year old boyfriend, no one would bat an eye and say, "GOLD DIGGER!" LOL.. 

    OR, if I had a 30 year old man, no one would blink and say, "Why would a woman date a man only a few years older than her son?" OR, "Why do youngmen like those older broads?" 

    Nobody goes by that number equation, unless they date people ridiculously out of their age range!

    It is very seldom such age ranges SURVIVE long term. Not saying it can't happen or hasn't; just that it is very unusual.  WANTING CHILDREN is the MAJOR factor.

    60/2 = 30 + 7 = 37....

    37 year old woman can still "safely" have babies... 
    60 year old men, should NOT have children. The risk of health and birth defects doubles when a man hits 50....
    It's really simple... 

    Very few women desire a man "that much older," if she isn't seeking his wallet! And everyone bear in mind, the OP is 62 and seeking 32-48? (and "claims" to be wanting "love") Bwahahahahaha! 

    I'll say it straight up---

    The OP's sole purpose for this post, since he is NOT using the forum to blog or respond, (2 posts), is a paid member who can contact women) etc... 

    Well, my brilliant advertising deduction makes it clear to me, he only used this post to direct young gold-digging traffic his way. It's his billboard! ;)
  • View author's info Posted on May 09, 2013 at 02:45 PM

    i just wonder, how did you came up with this equation??? :)
  • View author's info Posted on May 05, 2013 at 08:59 PM

    I am a 37 yr old america female; personally for myself it is not about specific number, but what I am attracted too. I prefer older I have not dated many, but the handful has always been at least ten years older. I don't think is about age, but knowing what one wants in life as well I have come across many who are very shallow in their expectations. however, this just my personal opinion and observations that I have encountered. As for women not wanting children after late 30's-40 I am turn 38 and have no children. Yes, I would love one, but never been married so unfortunately have not had.that blessing. It was just my preference in not to have a child out of wedlock and family atmosphere. If settle down at my age I am ok in having as well not having a child. interesting thread though as well great points mentioned.
  • View author's info Posted on May 05, 2013 at 11:21 AM

    Dating or marrying someone within a certain age is a societal issue in America.  There is actually a formula: (Current Age/2) + 7 = Minimum age to date/marry.  Anything below that number gets societal disapproval, raised eyebrows, labels, and talk.  It could be one doesn't care, but peer and family pressure can be great.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 25, 2013 at 08:59 AM

    I beleive that men put more of an emphasis on age than women.  In most profiles, I see men requesting girls, 18-25 when they are 45-60 in age and to be honest, not capable of fullfilling anything an 18 year old needs other than a piggybank.  It isn't really a venue women in their 30-40 age range can compete with, nor do most want to.  If you cannot even order these girls a glass of fine wine at dinner, why would you want to date them? 

    It is very rare of ever that I see a profile of a woman asking for an 18-25 year old man.  Age isn't just a number, it reflects on changes in our lives and the character we have been able to build.  At 18, you haven't built anything, so why would you ask to date someone that age?  Could it be you do not care or are truly not intersted in any actual relationship beyond the physicality but will not admit it publicly?