I posted about this in the Newbie forum and thought it would be a good fit here as well. I am on a career path towards scientific research and undergraduate education. I'll be receiving my Ph.D. in Genetics this spring. It seems like the "higher" I climb the less potential partners I see around me. The more distanced I seem to get from the crowd, the more people view me as a stranger they cannot relate to. I consider myself a pretty down to earth person, and others thing the same when they first meet me. But after they find out more and more about what I do, they get put off, I think.
I'd like to meet someone I find attractive...someone I can level with. Is finding both in the same person impossible?
Its not the degree that is the problem. It's where you are hanging out or working. Don't expect to meet your mate at the local bar, drunken/drug party, McDonalds, etc. I worked with thousands of people with degrees or advanced knowledge and so meeting intelligent people at work was not a problem. Unfortunately, most were either married, or too busy to have a serious relationship. Being too busy is probably the most serious problem for both parties.
Congratulations on your upcoming degree! What a fantastic accomplishment! And yes, you will find the romantic field narrowing. I have been told many men find accomplished, successful women intimidating. It's a shame, but I for one celebrate that you have pursued higher goals! I own a small lab, but have no advanced degree (YET!) and have been told that my self assurance was considered daunting by the men around me. I found a guy who wasn't intimidated, and he was great, but I think began to see the situation as some kind of competition. My buoyant character has been eroded by someone who began to constantly criticize me, judge me, put me down... all in an effort, I surmise, to make himself feel more successful. Unnecessary, he was already more successful than me financially, but that's how it played out. So BEWARE! Strong women can become susceptible to the one they fall in love with and it can be disastrous! Rejoice in your success, your self-reliance, your wonderful and unique position in life and society! You have done well, and if anyone sees fit to join his future to yours I hope you ensure that he deserves the pleasure of being associated with you.
KHaynes...congratulations on your new degree! It is impressive. I've worked as an analytical chemist in the pharmaceutical field for the last 20 years and I've never had a problem getting dates. As a matter of fact, my job tends to impress most everyone I meet. So, take heart, you'll find many men who will be fascinated by what you do.
khaynes, As difficulty as it might be, wait for the right one. Dating occupies time and may satisfy the soul, temporally, but long term must be more than sack time. Good wishes on your new changes, just do what you love to do and you may be you will find someone doing what they love to do.
Hi Larry. I definitely see your point. My specific interests even made my recent job search pretty difficult. However, when I was honest about what I wanted and stuck to my career ideals (the most important ones) I found a terrific position! Once I move, hopefully my love life will follow suit.
While being your normal self, you understand and think different than most people, if others are not confident in them selves ,their fear or need to control could dominate. Example : I attended a BBQ with one of the top geneticist in the country, I asked him if he saw the ?Passion of the Christ? he said No it was to bloody but he really enjoyed ?The Chain Saw Massacre? he could see the different between reality and fantasy. He could enjoy fantasy.
When I was a youngster I became confident being around psychologist when I met a lady at a dance and we shared that common interest, over time she became a friend then more. Try a evening photography,cooking or gardening class.
Not impossible but difficult.While being your normal self, you understand and think different than most people, if others are not confident in them selves ,their fear or need to control could dominate. Example : I attended a BBQ with one of the top geneticist in the country, I asked him if he saw the ?Passion of the Christ? he said No it was to bloody but he really enjoyed ?The Chain Saw Massacre? he could see the different between reality and fantasy. He could enjoy fantasy.
When I was a youngster I became confident being around psychologists when I met a lady at a dance and we shared that common interest, over time she became a friend then more. Think about taking evenng classes in something your interested in,like photography,gardening,cooking.