Why are men that are my age interested in meeting women that are from 28-40 or 25-38? "Nothing against you ladies in that age bracket." But you will discover that when you become my age 51, the selections are slim. There are only few select men that are my age or a little younger that will gave us a chance."
When you go out with a younger woman, you get someone who want's to get out and do things. They're typically not stuck in a rut and they don't whine and complain about everything under the sun. They can do tequila shots all night long and get up at 6a and go jogging with you. You get exposed to new music, try new foods and experience new trends. They still enjoy sex... daily... in every room in the house. They're usually quite a few years from menopause. They don't complain about going to the beach on a work night because "they'd have to wash their hair and it would take hours!" They don't wear mom jeans. They make you think differently, try harder, be better, laugh harder and the result is that, yes, we feel younger.
In exchange, they get experiences and access to places that people in their age group can't afford or haven't achieved.
Now, if they found a young guy who could offer the experiences and access, he's most likely a player and these younger ladies don't want to be just another notch.
Don't worry, those men return when they hit 50! The part they are thinking with, is not like it was during their youth. Very sad! Women that age want babies and those men vigor can not keep up with them.
Some men date older women with pleasure and for money or other privileges in life, they can even pretend if they are in love and act like this, but it all finishes as soon as a woman stops supporting these “men “. Same as in a case with younger woman towards older men, in most cases it’s a sale, nothing in common with love. There are a few exceptions of this rule as always.
ha!!! They only sex he's going to get from a younger girl is fake sex!! And he'll have to pay for that, whether it be gifts, trips, etc. Don't fool yourself. As women get older, they get better in bed - Europeans respect that, and they're right. Older men usually get more selfish - usually can't perform as well and expect the women to do all the work.
What the guys don't realize is that the women are not dating you for you, but only for your money and as soon as she finds a guy cuter, more generous and younger - you are history!!
Plus you have nothing in common - no intellectual stimulation - BORING!!!
Don't feel sad, I am 61, and have been told by one man on this site that I should get a Pomeranian..... Unfortunately, it is a double standard. My older brother is also a widow and he has no problems finding dates. It seems that an older man can get a younger woman, but an older woman is not allowed to find a younger companion. Social pressure? I do not believe the "luggage" theory....
It's a general indication that the profile you describe is that of an immature man, often lacking grown-up, adult skills in relationships. Instinctively they choose younger women, as a younger woman is more of an emotionally appropriate match. Most often than not, these chaps may have experienced a trauma at right at the time of adolescence and as a result, the individualization process that occurs naturally at adolescence, has been thwarted.
They're not the Alpha man you and I are most likely attracted to, these guys are little boys and preferring younger women not to have their own voice to put it quite crudely, but with respect to these guys, they often will not have developed sufficient self awareness (i.e., boast about younger women and objectify women in general to justify their choices).
I disagree with the generalisation, that said I am not at the receiving end of messages from men. Thank God. However, there are men who are looking for genuine relationships and want to grow old graciously and peacefully with someone they care for and love. I have reached the conclusion that this site attracts a lot of bogus men and women-- it's a wonderful trap for vulnerable types who somehow believe that the site's name denotes people of calibre and substance. Quite the contrary, I have been inundated with 20 to 30 year olds looking for an " older man" -- what a joke-- you should see the near " playboy" magazine type pictures-- so much for their quality control. And there are those women in their 40s or so that are looking for someone as a retirement plan, bank account, meal ticket etc-- what a desperate world !!!! Best wishes
Unfortunitely Nader appears to be the typical, cynical older man who shouldn't bother speaking of much younger women when he is 58 years old. Nader, I suggest you look in some retirement homes for some older women who may be happy with your company. That way they have already retired and you can't question what you think is their agenda. I for one, wouldn't want your company in my retirement age, I would rather play Bingo with my friends.
Most women in their 40's have lived a great deal, if not all,of their lives being without a "Meal Ticket" and they will continue to do just fine without you. I have never had a meal ticket and I highly doubt I ever will. I would rather clip coupons with the right man than go through anything with the wrong man, just sayin'.
I have to subscribe to the group that is not true. You are only as young you feel. I have a body that rivals a 20 or 30 year old, keep my skin in check and dated guys as young as 30 years my age. I don't know if it is genetic but have FUN with it.
The odds are slim indeed for any ladies around our age! Living in California makes my odds even worse unfortunitely. I find a lot of men in their forties who have led single lives and now want a baby-maker. The other problem I have are divorced men my age who have young children because they waited so long to have them in the first place.
Between the men searching for perfection, wanting babymakers or at the parenting stage I am really at a loss.
What most men fail to realize is women our age are usually great catches! There are a few smart ones but they're the minority.
Some of the reasons why I'm a catch..
I raised my daughter into a successful adult and I'm done. No young children ,no responsibilities. My spare time is what I choose it to be.
I'm wiser. All the experiences ,good and bad made me who I am now and it isn't bad,lol.
No need for anyone to wonder if I will age well. Just look at me,I have aged pretty well.
I know what I want and it isn't going to change.
I could go on but I think I've made my point. We are good, most men are too foolish to know it!
Best Wishes to you in finding that right guy who will treat you the way you deserve.
Well said, and thank you. But it does remain, the system we are in at present encourages us to have our own home, our own circle, our own business or job...thus, it seems so impossibly difficult to have a blending of the two sexes, a committment as you say. It is confusing to me, and more so as I aged into my 50's. I would like to think websites as this might make it easier, but so far.....(sigh) CD