Have you had a successful long distance relationship? Long Distance Relationship Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Feb 19, 2017 at 11:58 AM

    Please tell me how it worked for you.

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  • View author's info Posted on Dec 20, 2017 at 10:03 AM

    It all depends.  Historically, well, at least in the Bible, it did successfully in Genesis chapter 24 that Rebekah came a long way with the servant that Abraham send for his son, Isaac to wed.


    That relationship was quite hard and "blind wedding" like a blind date.  That was successfully.


    But for modern world, thanks to the internet, dating long distance has become more difficult.  Quite the opposite.  Maybe we should stick back to the odl fashioned way.  Just go out of town on a plane or drive over and meet someone.  Best answer I have.  And then marry like that.


    One couple did that in the 70s and still married.  They wrote to each other through pen pal method (postal mail), then they met the same weekend they got married.  


    What is wrong today is that I believe people hesitated!  That is the objective word that describe what is wrong with LD relationships.  If you love someone, marry someone like that.  Do not wait.  Even if you are a local with someone.  That is wrong.  Hesitated sounds like no confidence.  You got to have confident and go ahead.  What are you waiting for?


    Another excellent example.  my sister's friend went over to Italy because he wanted an Italian female to love and marry.  Well, he moved there and was planning on staying for a year.  Six months later, he found her and married her.  They are still married as I asked my sister recently.


    Now, on the other hand, Long Distance can be damaging because of trust issues.  Recently I really like this female and we chatted a lot on FB till I discovered she has another account on FB and I asked why.  she has not answered since.  She is real, seen pics, seen everything, videos, and all but why that secret FB account?  It brought up red flag.  I really did loved her but trusting has become difficult for me these days because I dont know if I can trust anybody.  I like it the pre-internet days much better: in person.


    I plan on visiting other areas as I am changing from internet dating era into post-internet era of dating--back to roots of meeting someone in person.  AND marry like that.

  • View author's info Posted on Dec 16, 2017 at 07:33 AM

    Long distance relationships do not work so well.

  • View author's info Posted on Dec 15, 2017 at 02:29 PM

    I met my exhusband online. 15 years ago. The era of the good, old email correspondence. No Skpe, of FB, or Wtsaap or FaceTime. It was love at first word. We corresponded for 9 months and came to know each other intimately through daily letters. Happily married for 14 years... the, life happened.

  • View author's info Posted on Jun 15, 2017 at 08:27 AM

    Not yet. Maybe? I started talking to a man from this site despite the fact he was across the country.  I would never normally do that but I was attracted to him and interested in him.  I have been in contact with him regularly, probably almost daily since we exchanged numbers in March but I have only physically seen him once. Its hard when you are really into a person and you can't physically hang out with them, well it is to me anyway. Maybe I am needier than most. Still hoping it works out and maybe he is to. This is my first time trying long distance. Good topic.

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 30, 2017 at 09:01 PM

    What if you're content with the distance?  I don't like relationships...but I love the one I have with him!  He loves me and I love him...but there is no judgement on either end.  

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 29, 2017 at 01:44 PM

    Mandi ,i join this site few weeks ago ,i was not sure about LDR for unknow reasons ,lots of Us men have been in touch with me ! and a fantastic thing happened to me ,i just receive a flight ticket for Miami to meet a great man !!!! so hey babe yes its possible fingers crossed now i hope it will work !!! i am leaving tomorrow keep faith ,we have to kiss many frogs to find a real man !!!!

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 11, 2017 at 05:18 PM

    Short answer: no. 


    It doesn't mean it can't happen, but so much has to happen.  Think of the word relationship. What's involved... Trust, respect, communication, listening, growth, development, caring, giving, and more. These things are strained at a distance. It's why MOST long distance relationships don't work out. 

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 05, 2017 at 10:46 AM

    Thanks everyone

  • View author's info Posted on Feb 24, 2017 at 12:08 PM

    Distance is not an issue; it's why planes were invented. And flights to see your loved one are the most exciting ones to take. Why limit yourself geographically? 

  • View author's info Posted on Feb 21, 2017 at 11:15 PM

    I wonder if it can work????,i am new to dating site and i am very attracted to date long distance but is it really happening,?fingers crossed xxxx

  • View author's info Posted on Feb 19, 2017 at 09:49 PM

    This is an interesting topic Mandiws I experienced that scenario many many years back,  it has potential to survive though dependant on what is involved at the time.

    In my case to share briefly, we found ourselves in similar personal situations in our lives, so there was that element of companionship that extended further than just a friendship  and this was great, because neither one of us could commit fully from an online relationship to a reality one.

    Everything was terrific until personal circumstances changed in one of our lives, all of a sudden she now found herself with a newfound freedom that she had not had before and that resulted in her life taking on a new direction,  a platonic friendship could have been possible still between us because we never had that real life intimacy, I could have lived with that, but she could not.

    So to conclude, long distance relationship eventually well whither unless- you find yourselves in similar situations that deem it not possible any other way, but circumstances eventually well change and that results finding yourselves where you have never been before.

    Personally I think if you have such a relationship that separates you by distance, then in the end one of you or both of you are going to have to come to terms if you want it to work, you either meet each other half way or one of you relocate to satisfy the needs of the other, those are a lot of personal things to weigh up. 

    I well say in the world of Hollywood where money is not an issue and they just travel the globe in their private jets LOL, you might find those long distance relationships have far greater survival rates.


    Hope others tune in here and share their perspective and possible experiences as it is a good topic you have opened.

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