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Human Mate Poaching Friendship

  • View author's info Posted on Nov 27, 2011 at 03:39 AM


    Men and women, did you ever wonder if your BF/GF's opposite sex friends would sleep or wish to sleep with your significant other.  An interesting study by Scmitt and Buss (2001) called "Human mate poaching" lends evidence that it is "relatively common" for those "friends" to try or think about doing it with your BF/GF.    Hmmm.  Interesting.
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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 30, 2014 at 01:43 PM


    Quoting author:

    UGH! This happens to me all the time. My "friends" or at least "girls who got close to me because they were interested in my boyfriend", always sleep with my boyfriends.
    Then I have to dump both.

    I always ask why, and they tell me, "because you're too nice."
    Isn't that just the nicest way to slap someone in the face?
    Grr.

    Count yourself lucky. People like you don't realise......well anyting actually.

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 18, 2014 at 08:42 AM


    Happens to me. Several ex's would have friends that would try hitting on me. Don't know why, but its common.

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 12, 2014 at 08:24 PM


    Trust is a rare thing now a days.

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 05, 2014 at 12:33 AM


    Dang Orlando, I came on this site a few years ago and you were here then. Go on a date already!

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 19, 2013 at 12:20 AM


    Well said!
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 18, 2013 at 09:01 AM


    those are not friends they are only acquaintances, pretending to be a friend.  Good reason to just dump them.  Karma will get them in the end.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 23, 2012 at 10:08 PM


    Interesting responses so far.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 25, 2012 at 06:47 AM


    Tiff, never worry about being too nice as that's really just not possible to be too nice. 
    Life has its own system of rewards and punishments and, as the old saying goes, "What goes around comes around."  When you're young you don't really believe in that because you never get a chance to see it but as you get older you see it happen time and time again.  Sometimes its almost instant and other times it takes years but it does.  So people who do those things to you will have their own price to pay at some other point in time.  Your challenge will be to remain kind and graceful when you do learn about their comeuppance.
    Also, I've learned to be thankful for anything or anyone who reveals to me a side of someone that I couldn't see.  These people can save you a ton of heartache... in your case you had women take loosers off your hands. 
    Just learn to adjust your perspective and see that their actions and behavior have nothing to do with you and your being too nice.  It's their behavior based on their own values.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 24, 2012 at 10:24 AM


    UGH! This happens to me all the time. My "friends" or at least "girls who got close to me because they were interested in my boyfriend", always sleep with my boyfriends.
    Then I have to dump both.

    I always ask why, and they tell me, "because you're too nice."
    Isn't that just the nicest way to slap someone in the face?
    Grr.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 21, 2012 at 05:15 PM


    Yeah... any guy friend who would hit on my gf would not last more than 10 seconds as a friend of mine. In fact, if he saw someone hitting on my gf and did nothing, he wouldn't last 10 seconds.

    My friends have my back or they're not my friends.