I agree Paula, I've tried other dating sites and it's ridiculous. I'm just signing up on this site today, haven't even fully...finished filling it out. I don't want to waste my time AGAIN. I'm not a gold digger but I'm looking for qualities where a male can at least take good photos for one. My word, not just a selfie in the bathroom or car. If you are putting yourself out there in the dating scene again, get your act together. Take care of yourself (in all aspects). So to me there are qualities that obviously go along with success and a higher income. I'm pretty active and I'm having a hard time meeting men my age who take care of themselves and yet they want the arm candy with the fit bod. Hey and I understand about working and kids and being busy, it's not all about appearance for me. But when one doesn't make an effort on their profile, shady photos, unkept backgrounds or body...that says something about that person and perhaps why they are single.
There is absolutely nothing wrong for feminine energy seeking out power, influence and security from masculine energy. Masculine energy is usually the giver, while feminine energy is the receiver. These romantic dynamics work, regardless of gender.
These dynamics are proven principles in the law of compatibility.
Those critical about 'gold digging display the feminine energy(receiving) and would be most compatible with the 'giving' trait of masculine energy. Similar energies cancel each other out, hence an unhealthy relationship.
Everyone has the responsibility of identifying their energy, then seek the opposite in the other. Feminine ladies seeking out financial security will find someone willing to honour them with their needs while masculine men derive their self-worth by feeling needed. Each will find fulfilment in the other.
In the quest for Cupid, identify your energy, then attract it either in the Grocery Store or a Castle!
We're genetically programmed to find men who are the "Alpha".
I'm retired now, but when I was working I was so successful and driven so I had to find the same to respect him. I don't think too many people who take the initiative to find their mate would request a "couch potato".
You're right on to request what you like, I agree with the others, only insecure people will say negative things about you. Life is too short to be around negative people, they just weeded themselves out of your life and precious time.
My motto is to move on, but to be kind as this personality has self-esteem issues.
Pay no attention to what others are saying about being a Gold digger. What's important is how you feel about yourself. Women are attracted to powerful men. Money is Power. Financial security should be one of the things that women look for in a man. Not only looks and youth. There is nothing wrong with love for money. Be proud of who you are. I think you are perfect.
I think men who think like that are insecure. It’s more about them rationalizing why they can’t get a pretty blonde woman. I talk about women all the time with my friends and they say well it’s easy for you to attract women because you are good looking, tall and muscular, or it’s easy for black guys. So in your case, some guys will say, that guy gets women because he has money. Looks and success attract women. Alpha traits. Beta males always try to put down women and caus e trouble.
Your profile doesn't read "gold digger" to me. You're just an intelligent woman using the internet to find a match. Naturally, perhaps intuitively, as with real-world dating, you desire someone your equal, or better. Who purposely, actively seeks someone with no assets or security?
The Millionaire Match logo notwithstanding, there shouldn't be a stigma associated with your dating approach. Hard core gold digging, where the age range is 18-99, exists here on MM, yet even then, who can judge right or wrong between two people at different stages of their life, with different needs.