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**In Support of Long Distance-- Here's Why! **

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1 year ago

HIYAPDN1 ,

 

There's nothing wrong with long distance relationship as long

as both of you agreed to it ..but there are lots of things to be

considered ..you have to buy what is given painstakingly but if

both of you decided to be with each other after Emails and calls  one has to give up everything from the heart and mind without saying you are sorry for the decision you made . 

 

There is a saying here " For those who wants to and thinking of bonding and binding should prove it 1st that its worth to do " ..

 

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1 year ago

How interesting to read all the comments from women complaining that men are unwilling to exert themselves (travel) to see them. I'm sure that these experiences are true. For myself I've become very familiar with the phrase GU or geographically undesireable. I don't even try to keep track of the number of women who have told me that I just live too far away for them to consider dating.

 

Understand that I live about 2 hours north of Los Angeles, by preference, and that I clearly state in my profile that I will do all of the traveling to whereever, whenever and however. Maybe I should include a picture of my driver's license and my car. It might be preferable to the types of selfies I read women complaining about. I've also written that should things work out I'm not opposed to relocating in the future. I am clear that I am perfectly financially capable of doing all these things.

 

I did correspond briefly with one woman whose dating condition was that I agree, if things progressed, that I would buy a modest $2 million dollar house in the northern area of Los Angeles.

 

So if I am to believe all of the lovely women who are saying that they are just looking for a man who is willing to travel to them, I'm left with the conclusion that I'm an undesireable toad and ladies are just using GU to let me down gently.

 

Bunk

 

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1 year ago

Yes I would love to experience a long distance arrangement. I am new to all this had a 20yr marriage that ended 3 years ago leaving me broken hearted penniless homeless with 3 dependent kids. I have worked on our lives and picked us up and out of the gutter but still have a way to go. Trying to run my little courier business and part time job as well. Mentorship advice be sooo great to get as well....heres hoping...A planned weekend of loving laughter and fun just whats needed.

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Quoting islandlin00:

thank you.. i wish more men would embrace starting out lo g distance.. im stuck over here in Hawaii with zero quality men and mainland men say.. oh you are great.. just to far.. In this age of technology that is ridiculous... love your blog
Islandlin00! Hello! 

I am so happy you commented, because I hear the same thing....wonderful, perfect, wish you were closer. Well, first of all, why does it have to be a constant? Why do we need to be closer just to meet or see if there is a connection? Perhaps we would all relocate to one another if more people took the risk to travel, or assist other's travel, to feel the energy. Chemistry is the first priority for everyone, and I believe it stands true for those who deny its existence! 

 

I would LOVE to travel to Hawaii to meet you and stay in touch, just because we see eye to eye on this distance thing. Some of my best female/friend connections have been made through this site, and I appreciate knowing that I am not alone in this search for the best relationship! 

 

Thank you for your input, and I hope to hear from you again!

 

Hiyapdn1

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Quoting SantasSurprise:

Totally agree with what you wrote!! Some men want it easy. Ever hear of airplanes,cars, trains, etc.? ha
Hi, Santas Surprise! 

Yes, exactly. But some women feel that distance is bothesome, as well. I think with technology today, there are no longer barriers with exception of a financial block. I recently shared this thought with a member: We make choices in our lives that place us where we need to be to provide for whatever our current circumstance is. Usually, this is for a job, family, or the need for a climate change. However, when we are seeking that genuine connection, our current location may no longer be best. If we can relocate, then do it. But, if we can't....and most of us cannot....then, make time and effort to overcome the distance. 

 

Santa, you look like a beautiful woman, likely successful in your own right and willing to do what it takes to see a relationship through. However, here you are online trying....I have made some of the best female connections on this website, because we communicate and view distance as an opportunity to put our best foot forward! 

 

I am glad you read and replied to my blog. Thank you so much, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts! 

 

Hiyapdn1

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Quoting hiyapdn1:

A " Very Refreshing " blog, both eloquent and articulate... Thank You.  

The subject matter provides great insight, to a largely misconstrued area of dating and building solid relationships.

 

Personally, my first serious ' love affair ', was with a childhood sweetheart, as in The Girl Next Door.  Then came the Biking days, so it graduated to the next Town, the next State and so on.  Fond ' Kodak ' memories, of youth.

 

Eventually, another country !.  In retrospect, distance made for the most enjoyable of all relationship experiences.  

 

Ooh Yes !, ... Got my first speeding ticket in Utah, by the way.  Will tell you all about it, someday perhaps.  Who knows where, though.

 

**  S L  **

 

TO SILVERLION:

Hello SL! It is wonderful to hear your input to my blog content, mostly because I know you are located in France and have had many successful experiences through Millionaire Match. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. 

I appreciate the compliments to my writing. It is a repeated road block for too many people who wish to live their lives and also explore relationships. We are closing walls around us that have no reason for closure, and in the process, we miss out on so many wonderful experiences! I would treasure and value a relationship in which each party understands limitations and boundaries but welcomes the intimacy that is afforded through sharing time then parting. 

Thank you, again Silver....I am quite happy to hear from you. 

 

 

**  hiyapdn1  **

 

Aaaaw !, ... That is too kind, I ought to be Thanking You instead.  As I recall, your debut on these boards, was with a great comment regarding one's Birth Signs.

 

I am glad to see your relevant and important topic. 

 

" Welcome to The Boards ", on behalf of The Community of MM Blogsphere.

 

**  S L  **

 

 

 

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Totally agree with what you wrote!! Some men want it easy. Ever hear of airplanes,cars, trains, etc.? ha
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thank you.. i wish more men would embrace starting out lo g distance.. im stuck over here in Hawaii with zero quality men and mainland men say.. oh you are great.. just to far.. In this age of technology that is ridiculous... love your blog
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Thank you for your input!
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Hello, born1top. I agree with you, history allows us to see success. The basis of my writing really speaks to the incredible options we now have in dating by using technology to reach undiscovered people! I am hoping that more of the MM members take a chance and try dating beyond their boundaries. If our local scene was the place to find our mate, we likely would not be on a dating site looking. We would be living life in our city and the special someone would drop into our lap. Instead, we can explore a variety of people, and if we fall in love, we have several options to make it work. OR we can settle for the small pool within our city.
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Hi Miss H, if love had boundaries we could not say others on our profiles,  ladies and men have always  conquer love relationship in several aspects in life,  from distance to wealth,  race etc. Good luck, enjoy, be careful. 

 

  Yours truly, Mr. Born1top. 

   Love & peace. 

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Quoting silverlion:

**  hiyapdn1  **

 

A " Very Refreshing " blog, both eloquent and articulate... Thank You.  

The subject matter provides great insight, to a largely misconstrued area of dating and building solid relationships.

 

Personally, my first serious ' love affair ', was with a childhood sweetheart, as in The Girl Next Door.  Then came the Biking days, so it graduated to the next Town, the next State and so on.  Fond ' Kodak ' memories, of youth.

 

Eventually, another country !.  In retrospect, distance made for the most enjoyable of all relationship experiences.  

 

Ooh Yes !, ... Got my first speeding ticket in Utah, by the way.  Will tell you all about it, someday perhaps.  Who knows where, though.

 

**  S L  **

 

 

 

 

 

 

A " Very Refreshing " blog, both eloquent and articulate... Thank You.  

The subject matter provides great insight, to a largely misconstrued area of dating and building solid relationships.

 

Personally, my first serious ' love affair ', was with a childhood sweetheart, as in The Girl Next Door.  Then came the Biking days, so it graduated to the next Town, the next State and so on.  Fond ' Kodak ' memories, of youth.

 

Eventually, another country !.  In retrospect, distance made for the most enjoyable of all relationship experiences.  

 

Ooh Yes !, ... Got my first speeding ticket in Utah, by the way.  Will tell you all about it, someday perhaps.  Who knows where, though.

 

**  S L  **

 

TO SILVERLION:

Hello SL! It is wonderful to hear your input to my blog content, mostly because I know you are located in France and have had many successful experiences through Millionaire Match. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. 

I appreciate the compliments to my writing. It is a repeated road block for too many people who wish to live their lives and also explore relationships. We are closing walls around us that have no reason for closure, and in the process, we miss out on so many wonderful experiences! I would treasure and value a relationship in which each party understands limitations and boundaries but welcomes the intimacy that is afforded through sharing time then parting. 

Thank you, again Silver....I am quite happy to hear from you. 

 

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Quoting hiyapdn1:

So many people are set to one location, seeking that forever love within the confines of 100 miles. However, those same people come together and wish to travel the world. Why not seek the freedom of a long distance relationship? With busy work schedules and client dinners, moms who have children and all that goes with it, the traditional dating schedule allows for once a week or every other weekend, anyway.

 

Local dating afforded me the opportunity to have dinner at a restaurant I had already been to with the girls and to meet a man who talked about things I was already familiar with. When the option of more frequent dates came up, our schedules clashed, and we found ourselves in a weekly or bi-weekly pattern, phone, text, and Skype anyway! However, the long distance relationships brought to me a zest, new surroundings, quick weekend trips to see him, new places, different weather, and the excitement of coming together....then parting...which fueled the fire for next time. We were both able to focus on our lives when busy, and flirt each day, planning the next adventure. It was great! 

 

I am all for a distance relationship, until the circumstances are arranged to make it full time and local. However, when you're trying to get to know one another, having some distance breeds a platform upon which the woman and man are forced to learn about the person, his or her interests and lifestyle, before a physical bond is made.  In my mind, two people who really seem intrigued by one another online, share laughs on the phone, and happen to live miles away, really are no different than those who share the same city. The difference is that the man and woman are held to a higher standard, one that speaks to chivalry, respect, the finer things, and a slower paced gratification with distance. 

 

Taking the time to build a friendship, allow him or her to court you, share stories and laughs at a distance, and really learning about the person with whom you have an attraction will bring its own bounty to both parties. The key is to plan ahead. Always have another trip to see each other on the calendar with all travel arrangements set. If expense is an issue, then long distance may not be best unless one of you is able to relocate after the friendship has been established. Knowing your next visit is every two weeks and can last a full weekend, really keeps the flame burning. Nobody is distracted by mundane weekend chores, because he/she knows that this time is special and dedicated to the other. 

 

Thats my input, popular or not. But if you limit yourself to what you already know, there is a chance you're pushing away the very experience you hope to gain! 

**  hiyapdn1  **

 

A " Very Refreshing " blog, both eloquent and articulate... Thank You.  

The subject matter provides great insight, to a largely misconstrued area of dating and building solid relationships.

 

Personally, my first serious ' love affair ', was with a childhood sweetheart, as in The Girl Next Door.  Then came the Biking days, so it graduated to the next Town, the next State and so on.  Fond ' Kodak ' memories, of youth.

 

Eventually, another country !.  In retrospect, distance made for the most enjoyable of all relationship experiences.  

 

Ooh Yes !, ... Got my first speeding ticket in Utah, by the way.  Will tell you all about it, someday perhaps.  Who knows where, though.

 

**  S L  **

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I have this on my profile,  because I believe in making my own decisions without the influence of friends and family. When we share our experiences too soon with outsiders, they tend to jump to conclusions and cloud our better judgement. Maybe I would be enticed to change my own views at the quick-handed remark of others. So, instead, I remain private and enjoy the walk or journey. Then, when I am ready or confident that the relationship is solid, I share....by then, nobody has an opinion. They only congratulate. 

 

Same goes for travel. I do what I want, when I am able. 

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Thank you, funtimes0007. Distance becomes an issue for many these days, because technology has conditioned us to believe what we seek we shall find NOW! However, the human being is complex in nature and warrants a variety of perspectives.