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Quoting funtimes0007:

 

@fairycurls

 

key word "compromising". Your list is perfectly practial.

 

Did I just use the word perfect again?

 

I never look back either, but I do keep a rearview mirror so I can run away faster than her running towards me :)

Compromising is important but you've got to draw the line somewhere... and for me it's between "flaws and imperfections" and "red flags". I'd definitely date someone with flaws and imperfections, but I would not date someone with red flags. 
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1 year ago
Quoting Dakota35:


Mary, I don't know...The Swedish bikini team looks hot to me.  I also met a girl on here from Norway, and she was cute. So I wouldn't discount Sweden or Norway. Tiger Woods's EX is from Sweden and she's hot. LOL

 

DAK , 

 

No debate about those hot Nordic women .. They are blond , 

blue eyed ..and attractive ..

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1 year ago
Quoting fairycurls:

I'm curious Maryclaire... what beauty contests have they won? 

 

FAIRYCURLS , 

 

Miss Universe 2x ..but that was a long time ago ..

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Quoting Dakota35:

Well, I can't tell if you agree or disagree.  But seems like some nice folks up in that area of the world.  I like nice people.  You know, those women have Viking blood.  And they will have Viking babies.  That's cool, don't you think?  Yes, I know I'm a idiot and trouble maker.  I mean some people might not be Viking friendly. :-)

Not Viking friendly!? I don't think that's wise... or healthy. 

Elin Woods is gorgeous inside and out... and yet Tiger decided to cheat on her with as many as 120 (!) women during their 5 year marriage. I have a lot to say about that, but I'll keep it short... in fact I'll sum it up in 2 sentences - "It's sickening" and "He could be the stupidest f*** that ever lived". 
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Quoting Maryclaire2000:

 

DAK , 

 

Most of the Nordic women are blond and blue eyes but beautiful women  comes from Finland ..The country have already won several beauty contests but not Sweden and Norway nevertheless they are good in music ..

I'm curious Maryclaire... what beauty contests have they won? 
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Quoting fairycurls:

I only have three items on my wish list... 

1. That he's a good, honest person. 


2. That I'm physically, psychologically and emotionally attracted to him. That we have chemistry and connection. 

 

3. That we want the same things out of life/that we're compatible. 

(Flaws and imperfections matter very little. Perfect doesn't exist, normal is boring and compromising is essential in a relationship).

...and one deal breaker - bad behavior. 

So, what am I going to do if a guy treats me bad? I will walk away and never look back. 

#3 is the tough one, depending on how strictly you interpret that.  You did add the ability to comprmise as an essential factor so with the ability to compromise on both sides it works. 

 

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Quoting funtimes0007:

"With Love everything is possible"

 

@MaryClaire

@Rmac

 

What is your advise to those who find love, enjoy it and loose it at the end due to natural causes and now are affraid to love again due to the fear of loosing it all over again.

 

In your case you are not affraid at all and I REALLY like that :)

 

You can't have what you can't lose.  Don't let fear of losing it keep you forever from having it.

 

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Quoting Dakota35:

Right now I'm in this phase, I'm kind of into Nordic women.  I checked my list and clearly that wasn't listed.  Had to add one.  :-) I'd say it's a good addition since Nordic women are said to be the most beautiful in the world!!!  

 

Re:  The most beautiful in the world: 

 

  

 

Scottish women are said to be … Ukrainian women are said to be ….  Icelandic women are said to be …

 

  

 

I know, I know, I left many out.  Feel free to add to the list.

 

  

 

My mother was a Nordic lady.  When I first started dating I wanted my dates to all look like my mom.  It took me awhile to figure that out. 

 

  

 

However, as I said somewhere else, I was not above dating any girl I found attractive. 

 

  

 

Now you all don’t get to fretting that I said “girl.”  Referring to women in high school and college as girls I think perfectly appropriate.  I was not yet grown up either at that time.

 

  

 

Being attracted to the lady I think is a perfectly reasonable requirement.  I think she would and should want you to be. 

 

 

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Quoting Dakota35:

Right now I'm in this phase, I'm kind of into Nordic women.  I checked my list and clearly that wasn't listed.  Had to add one.  :-) I'd say it's a good addition since Nordic women are said to be the most beautiful in the world!!!  

Lol, that's an... interesting train of thought and observation. Thanks for sharing :) 
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1 year ago
Quoting funtimes0007:

"With Love everything is possible"

 

@MaryClaire

@Rmac

 

What is your advise to those who find love, enjoy it and loose it at the end due to natural causes and now are affraid to love again due to the fear of loosing it all over again.

 

In your case you are not affraid at all and I REALLY like that :)

 

FUNTIMES , 

 

Thanks ..sorry to tell you there is no formula for a happy marriage ..it depends on how you perceive and handle it but one thing I can advice you treat your relationship like plants ,

water it and take care of it well ..The approach differs from person to person ..

 

In my case , my late husband and me are both ready to accept 

the bond ..Both of us married late and have enjoyed our young 

life ..

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Quoting Dakota35:

Right now I'm in this phase, I'm kind of into Nordic women.  I checked my list and clearly that wasn't listed.  Had to add one.  :-) I'd say it's a good addition since Nordic women are said to be the most beautiful in the world!!!  

 

DAK , 

 

Most of the Nordic women are blond and blue eyes but beautiful women  comes from Finland ..The country have already won several beauty contests but not Sweden and Norway nevertheless they are good in music ..

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I only have three items on my wish list... 

1. That he's a good, honest person. 


2. That I'm physically, psychologically and emotionally attracted to him. That we have chemistry and connection. 

 

3. That we want the same things out of life/that we're compatible. 

(Flaws and imperfections matter very little. Perfect doesn't exist, normal is boring and compromising is essential in a relationship).

...and one deal breaker - bad behavior. 

So, what am I going to do if a guy treats me bad? I will walk away and never look back. 

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@ funtimes

 

 

 

Re:  “In my humble opinion relationships are all about respecting each other differences and focusing on what you two have in common.”

 

 

 

Nice observation. 

 

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Quoting Maryclaire2000:


 

RMAC ,

 

My late husband and me are totally different from each other ..Love ,commitment, acceptance , tolerance and being open to each other are the things that holds us together ..The ist year was a bad year  but we really tried hard to cope up with each other at the same time maintained our own self  identity ..

 

 Rmac , one thing I can say and have learned " LOVE " is a very

important factor in a relationship ..without it all those other factors are nothing ..With Love everything is possible ..

Love is important.  

 

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Quoting Good2BTheKing:

There are some definite requirements like no criminal record or drug/alcohol abuse, minimal education, able to support herself financially, height and weight proportionate, and reasonable good looks.   Beyond that, it's interesting how, even after having been on the dating scene for (too many) years, I still have to revise my criteria after meeting new women, whether as friends, dates, or relationships.  I keep finding new things I didn't realize were important to me.    There are numerous people on MM who find someone who checks every box in their requirements and they conclude they've found The One.  Then, almst inevitably, I find them back on MM six months or a year later and they tell me how The One turned out not to be so great.  It's a big challenge to have patience and get to know someone before you lose your heart.

 

On the other hand, in the real world, I know a lot of attractive, successful younger women as friends because of my dancing hobby.  These women have plenty of guys wanting to date them.  I've met some of their attractive, successful boyfriends.  Over ten years now, I've been surprised at how many of these women have remained single into their 30s even though they say they are looking for marriage and a family.  I wonder what their requirements really are and why they can't find a man who's good enough.

 

 

 

Thank you for your comments. 

 

 

 

I expect that no matter how long one has been actively seeking “the one,” you will continue to find new pluses and new minuses. 

 

 

 

Some requirements are the unspoken givens.  I think no criminal behavior might fall into that category.   We may not have voiced them to ourselves yet, but when we see them they get added to the list. 

 

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There are some definite requirements like no criminal record or drug/alcohol abuse, minimal education, able to support herself financially, height and weight proportionate, and reasonable good looks.   Beyond that, it's interesting how, even after having been on the dating scene for (too many) years, I still have to revise my criteria after meeting new women, whether as friends, dates, or relationships.  I keep finding new things I didn't realize were important to me.    There are numerous people on MM who find someone who checks every box in their requirements and they conclude they've found The One.  Then, almst inevitably, I find them back on MM six months or a year later and they tell me how The One turned out not to be so great.  It's a big challenge to have patience and get to know someone before you lose your heart.

 

On the other hand, in the real world, I know a lot of attractive, successful younger women as friends because of my dancing hobby.  These women have plenty of guys wanting to date them.  I've met some of their attractive, successful boyfriends.  Over ten years now, I've been surprised at how many of these women have remained single into their 30s even though they say they are looking for marriage and a family.  I wonder what their requirements really are and why they can't find a man who's good enough.

 

 

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1 year ago
Quoting rmac22:

*** @ Maryclaire ***



Thanks for your comment. 



Your approach is kind of how I found my wife.  She was very little like what I thought I was looking for.  However I was not above dating a cute girl that did not fit.  Back then I had all the time in the world, you know.  Dating her revised my criteria. 



Now, I have three soft requirements, they are not set at impossible levels. 



Then I know there are a lot of desirable traits that combined in any number of ways would be just fine.  No one would have to have all of them. 



Finally there are some things a lady might want that I either don’t have, don’t want, never intend to do, and so on.  Well you know that is not going to work much as I might like her. 



Even then, in that last case, I could date her awhile and see if she revises my criteria.  : - )

 

 

RMAC ,

 

My late husband and me are totally different from each other ..Love ,commitment, acceptance , tolerance and being open to each other are the things that holds us together ..The ist year was a bad year  but we really tried hard to cope up with each other at the same time maintained our own self  identity ..

 

 Rmac , one thing I can say and have learned " LOVE " is a very

important factor in a relationship ..without it all those other factors are nothing ..With Love everything is possible ..

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*** @ Tarkin1 ***

 

 

 

Thanks for your comment.  Your approach does sounds reasonable. 

 

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*** @ Maryclaire ***



Thanks for your comment. 



Your approach is kind of how I found my wife.  She was very little like what I thought I was looking for.  However I was not above dating a cute girl that did not fit.  Back then I had all the time in the world, you know.  Dating her revised my criteria. 



Now, I have three soft requirements, they are not set at impossible levels. 



Then I know there are a lot of desirable traits that combined in any number of ways would be just fine.  No one would have to have all of them. 



Finally there are some things a lady might want that I either don’t have, don’t want, never intend to do, and so on.  Well you know that is not going to work much as I might like her. 



Even then, in that last case, I could date her awhile and see if she revises my criteria.  : - )

 

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1 year ago

 

RMAC ,

 

I don't have any list or any set of numbers to find " the one " ..

 

because I know I won't find Mr. Perfect .. 

 

I hope the combination of my " Heart and Mind " will lead to him ..