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Posted on Sep 28, 2016 at 11:08 AM

I've been on MillionaireMatch for a month now and on the whole it has been a pretty good experience. My objective is to find a partner for a lifetime of adventures, learning, and snuggles. 

 I've had meaningful conversations with a couple of dozen women who live interesting lives and seem to be basically good people, and I've had the pleasure to meet a few of them in person. 

 I've been on and off a number of dating sites over the past four years, and I'm finding this site to be a much better experience so far. It is enabling me to connect with educated and sophisticated women all over the world, who have a much more global and cosmopolitan perspective than those who I typically find on other dating sites. I'm finding the response rate when I initiate a conversation to be fairly high, and I'm also getting a significant number of inquiries from women who find my profile and initiate the conversation.

 It is nice to have choices. I want it all, and I will not settle for less than awesome. I'm finding that there are seven key factors that come into play in finding a life partner with the potential for a long term relationship.

1. Intellectual attraction. I am strongly sapioromantic... intelligence, and an ability to make intelligent decisions, is important to me. She doesn't have to be a rocket scientist like me, but she does need to have a good head on her shoulders, be curious, and value learning. I want and need more than arm candy. 

2. Physical attraction. I need passion, and I need desire. Finding true love with another person takes time, but a strong physical infatuation is a nice place to start. I want to be with someone who I crave, and who craves me as well. At the appropriate time in the relationship, she should want to please me intimately every bit as much as I will want to please her. A true lady (gentleman) takes off her (his) dignity when she (he) takes off her (his) clothes.

3. Moral attraction. I need someone whose moral compass points in at least a largely similar direction. Someone who strives to be good and do good in the world, and leave it a better place after they are gone. Someone who values rationalism more than an ideological or theological perspective. I am socially liberal and fiscally conservative, with a fair bit of libertarian thrown in for good measure. Someone who thinks homosexuality is a sin, that creationism should be taught in the science classroom, that children should not be vaccinated, that evolution and global warming are myths, and that our society would be safer if more people walked around carrying guns is not going to be compatible with me. I want to be with someone who I am proud to have stand at my side, and in my arms, and who feels the same about me. 

4. Chemistry. There are some people who I find that I am nearly best friends with after trading just a few messages. We are instantly flirting and teasing and learning about each other. Other people keep their distance and are slower to warm up... but if they keep their walls up for too long, I know it isn't going to work.

5. Practicality. I'm willing to date long distance at first, as long as the other person is willing to put the effort into creating opportunities to spend time with me in person. But I don't see spending years in a long distance relationship with someone. I love living on the California beach, but would consider relocating elsewhere... yet there are also places in the world I have no desire to live. I need to see how we will eventually combine our lives. Either she is going to have to move to live where I live, I am going to have to move to her, or we are going to have to find another location to both relocate that is mutually acceptable. Or perhaps my house will become our beach house, and we will split our time between homes in multiple locations.

6. Initiative. If I find someone of interest, I make getting to know her a priority. I'll want to learn everything I can about her, spend time talking to her, and soon want to visit with her in person. I'll expect to see the same from her. Her actions will quickly tell me if she is willing to make exploring a relationship with me a priority. While I enjoy being generous in terms of the way I treat a potential partner, it is an important indicator of long term potential if the person I'm interacting with is willing to make at least some investment of time and resources in the process... I should not be the only one doing so. 

 I'm a pretty public person... I'm all over the Internet, I write a public blog and have been covered in hundreds of news stories over the years. Someone who is really interested in me is going to do their research, ask me questions, and hopefully be excited about sharing their life with the person who they find. 

 If a person repeatedly misses scheduled phone calls or cancels planned dates, that is a strong sign that they are not willing to make me a priority in their life. I'm finding that nearly 50% of planned dates never come to fruition because the other person flakes out, and that is frustrating. If I am talking to someone long distance and we seem to be connecting quite well, I might suggest we get together for an adventurous weekend. If she tells me she has other commitments, then I'll ask her to tell me when would be a better time. If I don't get an answer, I'll know she either isn't really interested in me or is just using the site for entertainment. 

7. Lifestyle attraction. I want learning between myself and my partner to be a two-way street. There are some people I've met on here whose lives I find to be fascinating. They may have had life experiences very different than mine, travel to places I don't routinely travel, or engage in business or leisure activities that I find interesting.  I want to enrich the life of my partner, and for them to enrich mine. And I want someone who enjoys the good life, but can also handle getting dirty on a day out hiking. 

Is this too much to ask for? I don't think so. I don't know if I've found my true love and life partner yet or not, but I'm certainly enjoying the journey. And my adventure continues...


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Posted on Sep 08, 2018 at 03:10 PM

There’s an astronerd right here ♥️😁

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Posted on Nov 11, 2016 at 05:59 PM

Goodness, you lost me... I was thinking at the beginning that I accidentally open Carrier Builders website and was reading job opportunity ad. 

However I have pure heart and wishing you the very,  very best! Love is power!

 


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Posted on Nov 06, 2016 at 05:44 PM

hello im at work,thats right no access to t.v pictures,any nees on donald trump,anybody welcome to answer thankyou

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Posted on Nov 06, 2016 at 05:36 PM

the very latest with donald?

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Posted on Nov 06, 2016 at 05:36 PM

top man! just read your blog! great read fella,will say three hell marys for you,best of luck! how is Mr donald trump tonight? any news? whats the very latt

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Posted on Nov 01, 2016 at 06:14 PM

very good summery. thanks for sharing.

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Posted on Oct 18, 2016 at 12:36 AM

I'm curious, did you find the one yet, Stark Enterprises?

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Posted on Oct 10, 2016 at 07:43 PM

not warn but won my respect God bless!!!

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Posted on Oct 07, 2016 at 03:44 PM

Quoting author:

I've been on MillionaireMatch for a month now and on the whole it has been a pretty good experience. My objective is to find a partner for a lifetime of adventures, learning, and snuggles. 

 I've had meaningful conversations with a couple of dozen women who live interesting lives and seem to be basically good people, and I've had the pleasure to meet a few of them in person. 

 I've been on and off a number of dating sites over the past four years, and I'm finding this site to be a much better experience so far. It is enabling me to connect with educated and sophisticated women all over the world, who have a much more global and cosmopolitan perspective than those who I typically find on other dating sites. I'm finding the response rate when I initiate a conversation to be fairly high, and I'm also getting a significant number of inquiries from women who find my profile and initiate the conversation.

 It is nice to have choices. I want it all, and I will not settle for less than awesome. I'm finding that there are seven key factors that come into play in finding a life partner with the potential for a long term relationship.

1. Intellectual attraction. I am strongly sapioromantic... intelligence, and an ability to make intelligent decisions, is important to me. She doesn't have to be a rocket scientist like me, but she does need to have a good head on her shoulders, be curious, and value learning. I want and need more than arm candy. 

2. Physical attraction. I need passion, and I need desire. Finding true love with another person takes time, but a strong physical infatuation is a nice place to start. I want to be with someone who I crave, and who craves me as well. At the appropriate time in the relationship, she should want to please me intimately every bit as much as I will want to please her. A true lady (gentleman) takes off her (his) dignity when she (he) takes off her (his) clothes.

3. Moral attraction. I need someone whose moral compass points in at least a largely similar direction. Someone who strives to be good and do good in the world, and leave it a better place after they are gone. Someone who values rationalism more than an ideological or theological perspective. I am socially liberal and fiscally conservative, with a fair bit of libertarian thrown in for good measure. Someone who thinks homosexuality is a sin, that creationism should be taught in the science classroom, that children should not be vaccinated, that evolution and global warming are myths, and that our society would be safer if more people walked around carrying guns is not going to be compatible with me. I want to be with someone who I am proud to have stand at my side, and in my arms, and who feels the same about me. 

4. Chemistry. There are some people who I find that I am nearly best friends with after trading just a few messages. We are instantly flirting and teasing and learning about each other. Other people keep their distance and are slower to warm up... but if they keep their walls up for too long, I know it isn't going to work.

5. Practicality. I'm willing to date long distance at first, as long as the other person is willing to put the effort into creating opportunities to spend time with me in person. But I don't see spending years in a long distance relationship with someone. I love living on the California beach, but would consider relocating elsewhere... yet there are also places in the world I have no desire to live. I need to see how we will eventually combine our lives. Either she is going to have to move to live where I live, I am going to have to move to her, or we are going to have to find another location to both relocate that is mutually acceptable. Or perhaps my house will become our beach house, and we will split our time between homes in mulitple locations.

6. Initiative. If I find someone of interest, I make getting to know her a priority. I'll want to learn everything I can about her, spend time talking to her, and soon want to visit with her in person. I'll expect to see the same from her. Her actions will quickly tell me if she is willing to make exploring a relationship with me a priority. While I enjoy being generous in terms of the way I treat a potential partner, it is an important indicator of long term potential if the person I'm interacting with is willing to make at least some investment of time and resources in the process... I should not be the only one doing so. 

 I'm a pretty public person... I'm all over the Internet, I write a public blog and have been covered in hundreds of news stories over the years. Someone who is really interested in me is going to do their research, ask me questions, and hopefully be excited about sharing their life with the person who they find. 

 If a person repeatedly misses scheduled phone calls or cancels planned dates, that is a strong sign that they are not willing to make me a priority in their life. I'm finding that nearly 50% of planned dates never come to fruition because the other person flakes out, and that is frustrating. If I am talking to someone long distance and we seem to be connecting quite well, I might suggest we get together for an adventurous weekend. If she tells me she has other commitments, then I'll ask her to tell me when would be a better time. If I don't get an answer, I'll know she either isn't really interested in me or is just using the site for entertainment. 

7. Lifestyle attraction. I want learning between myself and my partner to be a two-way street. There are some people I've met on here whose lives I find to be fascinating. They may have had life experiences very different than mine, travel to places I don't routinely travel, or engage in business or leisure activities that I find interesting.  I want to enrich the life of my partner, and for them to enrich mine. And I want someone who enjoys the good life, but can also handle getting dirty on a day out hiking. 

Is this too much to ask for? I don't think so. I don't know if I've found my true love and life partner yet or not, but I'm certainly enjoying the journey. And my adventure continues...



"Is it too much to ask for"? Only time will tell. All the best with your search



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Posted on Oct 07, 2016 at 03:42 PM

Quoting author:

l agree on what you are looking for in a partner, but I can't lie, "sapioromantic" had me scratching my head.


Hillarious but honest:))



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Posted on Oct 04, 2016 at 06:26 PM

Yes, all the very best StarkEnterprises > Since you're on that journey to find happiness I trust it all works out in both your directions.

 

Cheers


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Posted on Oct 04, 2016 at 06:13 PM

l agree on what you are looking for in a partner, but I can't lie, "sapioromantic" had me scratching my head.

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Posted on Oct 03, 2016 at 11:34 PM

hope you find her someday

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Posted on Sep 29, 2016 at 10:26 AM

Maryclaire2000, I don't know yet if I've found The One or not. It takes time to figure it out, especially if they live far away. Infatuation can happy quickly. Love and getting to know someone deeply takes time to grow. I don't think it is until you've faced some degree of adversity together, and seen how that situation brings you together or pushes you apart, that you really know if it is going to work or not. 


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Posted on Sep 29, 2016 at 03:50 AM

 

Hi ! It seems you have not found yet " The One " inspite of all

 

the good experiences you have here .. I know its not easy ..

 

A good friend from this site told me " If you want to be happy ,

 

hold on to your standard " ..I agree with him because I know 

 

myself .. Nevertheless , all the best and goodluck to your 

 

Quest ..


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