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Posted on Apr 28, 2017 at 07:54 AM

     ~~  It is a well known fact that, our personalities are shaped and formed, during the early years of our lives.

 

All of us were raised, under some system of Government, and or, possibly Religion as well.

 

We may have not only dated, but also married a spouse, raised in a different system.  This however, all boils down to ' values ', that are deeply ingrained.

 

What are your experiences and thoughts, regarding how the system has impacted or influenced your lives, especially in this day and age of borderless relationships.

 

N B :  This topic stems from, one of the corners of my mind.  Please feel free, to share all of yours.

 

Thanks,

~~  S L  ~~


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Posted on Apr 06, 2018 at 07:36 AM

Quoting Curious2078:

Hello Silverlion!  

 

I haven't been on MM for a couple of years.  For some reason tonight I decided to check out the blogs.  I have to agree with Maggie's post that the "pull" just isn't there any longer.  I went back into some old blogs from 2010, 2011 and LMAO.

 

It used to be so much fun to come home from work, go on MM, and know I'd be entertained if that's what I wanted, or engaged in non-politically correct political debates if that was what I wanted, or both.  I miss those good old days for sure.  I read one of your posts on someone's blog, I don't think it was your blog, where you mentioned missing a whole bunch of us who used to post regularly.  Among the listed names was mine.  That made me feel terribly nostalgic and happy.

 

BTW, I noticed that the cost of becoming a paying member has gone up considerably since I was a paying member back in the day.

 

And also BTW, I realize I'm replying to an old blog of yours, but I didn't find a newer blog to respond to.

 

Here's hoping all is well with you.

 

Pat [Curious 2078]    



~~  Curious2078  ~~

 

Dear Pat,

 

What a wonderful day, to finally hear from you.  Thanks for perusing my posts and comments on the other member's blogs, and finding that, You are not forgotten.

 

Funny thing, a few nights ago while watching TV with a few friends, " The Amish Mafia " suddenly appeared. Much to my surprise, not having seen the program before.

 

One of  the friends J.C, a somewhat mature man from Switzerland said : " Look what's going on in your country, those Amish can never be trusted ".

I of course, did not place any value on J.C's opinion.  He reminds me of the Inn-keeper who told Inspector Clouseau ...,

" My dog does not bite ', and after I.C got bitten, the inn-keeper retorted, " That is not, ... My dog !" 

 

The other friend, a native Parisian, poured himself another glass of wine, and went on about the Amish being part of the Illumenati, etc.

 

Having lived in Philly for a while, and being familiar with Amish Country, I had to assuage the guys that, it was only a TV show, scripted and not true. 

 

They argued, ' It's Reality TV, so it must be real '. 

Imagine trying to convince a Swiss and a Parisian that, ' Reality does not mean Real ', from Hollywood. OMG !

 

By the way, our old friend Punxsutawney Phil, was right on again.  Our derrièrs have been freezing all through the past week.

 

Now that Spring is here though, well almost, we trust You will not hibernate anytime soon. (smile)

 

~~  S L  ~~

 


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Posted on Apr 05, 2018 at 03:26 PM

Hello Silverlion!  

 

I haven't been on MM for a couple of years.  For some reason tonight I decided to check out the blogs.  I have to agree with Maggie's post that the "pull" just isn't there any longer.  I went back into some old blogs from 2010, 2011 and LMAO.

 

It used to be so much fun to come home from work, go on MM, and know I'd be entertained if that's what I wanted, or engaged in non-politically correct political debates if that was what I wanted, or both.  I miss those good old days for sure.  I read one of your posts on someone's blog, I don't think it was your blog, where you mentioned missing a whole bunch of us who used to post regularly.  Among the listed names was mine.  That made me feel terribly nostalgic and happy.

 

BTW, I noticed that the cost of becoming a paying member has gone up considerably since I was a paying member back in the day.

 

And also BTW, I realize I'm replying to an old blog of yours, but I didn't find a newer blog to respond to.

 

Here's hoping all is well with you.

 

Pat [Curious 2078]    


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Posted on Mar 30, 2018 at 05:56 AM

Aww thank you Silverlion, nice to see some familiar faces.  Yes I’m Auntie Sarah for the second time. I will be going over to visit my new nephew in the next couple of weeks. Exciting times. 🙂


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Posted on Mar 29, 2018 at 06:04 AM

Quoting MissMonteCarlo33:

Hello ,

 

 Long time no blog. 😉 Well I think for a successful relationship, it’s important to have some common ground. If  a partner had far out political and religious beliefs to mine then it just wouldn’t work. We need to be on the same/ similar page to relate to one another. Otherwise think it would lead to frustration and possibly arguments.

 

Last month I was talking to a member of staff about  Valentine’s Day. I was saying how cute it was the kids handing out cards to their friends. She (unknown to me was pretty strict with religion) and says oh I don’t agree with that at all. Children shouldn’t  be celebrating that it should just be for adults. I’m thinking in my view- wow crazy. I was like they are just little kids it’s all very innocent and it’s a friendship love. This world needs more 💗 these days.  So yeah on a colleague level- we are worlds apart. I’ll be handing out my hearts and spreading the love 💕 lol

 

Sarah 🙂


~~  MissMonteCarlo33  ~~

 

What a wonderful event, to have You back on The Boards.  " Welcome Back, Auntie Sarah ".

 

I'm sure you have lots to share, regarding the time out period, but we shall be patient with that.

 

Saint Valentine's Day, is a very ancient and complex celebration, accross cultures, religions and commercialism.

St. Valentine of Rome, was actually executed for being a Minister to persecuted Christians.  However, it has since evolved into many facets of observance and celebration by different countries, world-wide.

 

It has now become a major day of spending on Cards, Chocolate, Flowers, Jewelry etc., to the tune of approximately 20 billion dollars in The U.S., and around 2.0 billion Pounds in The U.K.

 

It is also forbidden in certain cultures, yet quite extravagant in places like Singapore.

 

~~  S L  ~~

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Mar 28, 2018 at 01:44 PM

Hello ,

 

 Long time no blog. 😉 Well I think for a successful relationship, it’s important to have some common ground. If  a partner had far out political and religious beliefs to mine then it just wouldn’t work. We need to be on the same/ similar page to relate to one another. Otherwise think it would lead to frustration and possibly arguments.

 

Last month I was talking to a member of staff about  Valentine’s Day. I was saying how cute it was the kids handing out cards to their friends. She (unknown to me was pretty strict with religion) and says oh I don’t agree with that at all. Children shouldn’t  be celebrating that it should just be for adults. I’m thinking in my view- wow crazy. I was like they are just little kids it’s all very innocent and it’s a friendship love. This world needs more 💗 these days.  So yeah on a colleague level- we are worlds apart. I’ll be handing out my hearts and spreading the love 💕 lol

 

Sarah 🙂


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Posted on Mar 18, 2018 at 01:14 AM

Quoting silverlion:

~~  ClasssicBeauty40  ~~

 

Welcome to The Boards, You are quite an amazing writer.

 

Sorry to hear about your break-up though, that had to be truly painful.

 

With regards to the triangle, I like your version.  Mr. Born, our resident expert on that, may not agree.

He recently mentioned to me that, the triangle consisted of " father, son and holy ghost ".  No place for a woman, it seems.  Then He disappeared.

 

Oh my gosh !... He may have eloped with Gentilily ?.

 

Thanks for the new pseudo of ' Silverton ', by the way.  I like it.  Nothing wrong with having Tons of Silver, right Mary ?. 

 

~~  S L  ~~

 



 

@SL ,

 

Right my dear friend.. things could easily get out of hand just 

like me ..but somehow its funny ..


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Posted on Mar 17, 2018 at 06:12 AM

Quoting ClassicBeauty40:

Hi Silverton,

Thank you for requesting our contribution to these vital issues in creating a harmonious intimate relationship.

For political, there will always be a consensus, either a liberal or a conservative. It could always be managed. But when it comes to religion which is about 'beliefs' in the hereafter, then it becomes complicated. 

My ex-boyfriend is Jewish, Caucasian while I am Christian, Black. Two major issues to contend with. I could accept his beliefs even though I am a Christian because I believe in the infinite intelligence that gave birth to all that exists in the physical which is called God. Having developed a great relationship with God, I accept that there are other fora that recognize his omnipresence and so worship him in different ways. It didn't really matter to follow him to the synagogue sometimes while I celebrate mass as a Catholic. 

With time, he wanted to convert me to his old order though we had agreed to respect each other's religion from the beginning. Things became difficult for us, I was willing to accept Judaism for our children but certainly not me. The pressure from his family became so much that I had to end a phenomenal relationship that I had invested so much time and effort. This left me emotionally drained but thank Goodness I recovered from it with scars, though.

 

Religion is critical in relationships and should be discussed. I will rather prefer someone that shares either my spiritual or religious values. Marriage itself is a union of two Spirits for spiritual growth and maturity. A good marriage is usually referred to as a triangle with God at the top and the spouses at the base. In that triangle, challenges can be resolved easily in the spirit of forgiveness borne out of a common belief. 


~~  ClasssicBeauty40  ~~

 

Welcome to The Boards, You are quite an amazing writer.

 

Sorry to hear about your break-up though, that had to be truly painful.

 

With regards to the triangle, I like your version.  Mr. Born, our resident expert on that, may not agree.

He recently mentioned to me that, the triangle consisted of " father, son and holy ghost ".  No place for a woman, it seems.  Then He disappeared.

 

Oh my gosh !... He may have eloped with Gentilily ?.

 

Thanks for the new pseudo of ' Silverton ', by the way.  I like it.  Nothing wrong with having Tons of Silver, right Mary ?. 

 

~~  S L  ~~

 


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Posted on Mar 10, 2018 at 09:13 AM

Quoting silverlion:

~~  rmac22  ~~

 

 

Thanks for your comment quoted above.  I believe ' the blank ' was easy to fill in.

 

Now, to satisfy your curiosity with regards to " one being forced to convert to the other person's religion ", ... May I draw your attention to the latest comment posted by ' ClassicBeauty40 ', and Her real life experience.

 

I shall of course, respond to Her post, in due course.

 

~~  S L  ~~



 

Hi Ken ,

 

Good to see you ..It seems you got a new " ID ". I thought Im

the only who had given you one ..Hmmm.

 

Yours Truly ,

Mary


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Posted on Mar 08, 2018 at 04:44 AM

Quoting rmac22:

-- SL --

 

One of my Grandfather's was Catholic, but he converted to being Methodist to match my Grandmother.  He did so explaining, "Why should a "bad" Catholic expect a good Methodist to change." 

 

My Father was Methodist, but he converted to being Lutheran to match my Mother explaining why should a "bad" Methodist expect a good Lutheran to change.  

 

Me, not realizing I was following a family tradition .....  

 

You all, I presume, can fill in the blanks.  

 

My late wife was Presbyterian.  

 

You mentioned the case of one being forced to convert to the other persons religion.  I know of no such cases.  So I cannot comment on that.   

 

-- rmac --

 

 

 



~~  rmac22  ~~

 

 

Thanks for your comment quoted above.  I believe ' the blank ' was easy to fill in.

 

Now, to satisfy your curiosity with regards to " one being forced to convert to the other person's religion ", ... May I draw your attention to the latest comment posted by ' ClassicBeauty40 ', and Her real life experience.

 

I shall of course, respond to Her post, in due course.

 

~~  S L  ~~


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Posted on Mar 07, 2018 at 08:27 AM

Hi Silverton,

Thank you for requesting our contribution to these vital issues in creating a harmonious intimate relationship.

For political, there will always be a consensus, either a liberal or a conservative. It could always be managed. But when it comes to religion which is about 'beliefs' in the hereafter, then it becomes complicated. 

My ex-boyfriend is Jewish, Caucasian while I am Christian, Black. Two major issues to contend with. I could accept his beliefs even though I am a Christian because I believe in the infinite intelligence that gave birth to all that exists in the physical which is called God. Having developed a great relationship with God, I accept that there are other fora that recognize his omnipresence and so worship him in different ways. It didn't really matter to follow him to the synagogue sometimes while I celebrate mass as a Catholic. 

With time, he wanted to convert me to his old order though we had agreed to respect each other's religion from the beginning. Things became difficult for us, I was willing to accept Judaism for our children but certainly not me. The pressure from his family became so much that I had to end a phenomenal relationship that I had invested so much time and effort. This left me emotionally drained but thank Goodness I recovered from it with scars, though.

 

Religion is critical in relationships and should be discussed. I will rather prefer someone that shares either my spiritual or religious values. Marriage itself is a union of two Spirits for spiritual growth and maturity. A good marriage is usually referred to as a triangle with God at the top and the spouses at the base. In that triangle, challenges can be resolved easily in the spirit of forgiveness borne out of a common belief. 



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Posted on Feb 16, 2018 at 06:15 AM

Quoting Ruleone:

Religion and politics. I feel that if people can not look beyond the rhetoric it prevents them from making the world a better place. Consistently giving or doing (even a smile is charity) makes a difference even if it is just one person at a time.

Trust your instincts.

I was born into wealth, grew up in poverty, when to many different churches, asked lots of questions many of which couldn’t be answered logically.

I’ve been divorced twice and the only reason the marriages took place and lasted as long as they did was due to pride.
Most religions call for people to take care of each other.
Politically their are to many people running the show who’s basic needs have always been so their view on helping the lower class is skewed. Many conservatives think people should be able to pull themselves up by their boots straps and if they really want a better life they can make it happen
It is such a shame that so many children grow up hungry an go schools with inadequate materials.


~~  Ruleone  ~~

 

Thanks for your thoughtful comments, and Welcome to the blogs.

 

It appears that, Adamstown has some great antique stores.  I do miss the Amish Country though.

 

~~  S L  ~~

 


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Posted on Jan 28, 2018 at 07:07 PM

Quoting silverlion:

~~  rmac22  ~~

 

An excellent summation, citing parents whom you knew from birth.  I Thank You, for such a wonderful start to an important topic.

 

Yes, there are many couples who think it's best not to talk about politics, but focus instead on the euphoric hormone high, better known as ' chemistry '. 

Albeit a good beginning, we know that it has a tendency, to sometimes fade, with the passage of time.  Apparently, that is when the political differences,  begin to haunt a relationship.

 

Insofar as religious differences are concerned, there are instances where One insists on the Other to convert.

Perhaps those who have experienced such, may enlighten us about it.

 

~~  S L  ~~

 

 

 


-- SL --

 

One of my Grandfather's was Catholic, but he converted to being Methodist to match my Grandmother.  He did so explaining, "Why should a "bad" Catholic expect a good Methodist to change." 

 

My Father was Methodist, but he converted to being Lutheran to match my Mother explaining why should a "bad" Methodist expect a good Lutheran to change.  

 

Me, not realizing I was following a family tradition .....  

 

You all, I presume, can fill in the blanks.  

 

My late wife was Presbyterian.  

 

You mentioned the case of one being forced to convert to the other persons religion.  I know of no such cases.  So I cannot comment on that.   

 

-- rmac --

 

 

 


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Posted on Jan 26, 2018 at 02:48 AM

I’m not sure why my whole post
is not showing.
Character, instinct and experience vs
religion, pride and politics

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Posted on Jan 26, 2018 at 02:45 AM

Religion and politics. I feel that if people can not look beyond the rhetoric it prevents them from making the world a better place. Consistently giving or doing (even a smile is charity) makes a difference even if it is just one person at a time.

Trust your instincts.

I was born into wealth, grew up in poverty, when to many different churches, asked lots of questions many of which couldn’t be answered logically.

I’ve been divorced twice and the only reason the marriages took place and lasted as long as they did was due to pride.
Most religions call for people to take care of each other.
Politically their are to many people running the show who’s basic needs have always been so their view on helping the lower class is skewed. Many conservatives think people should be able to pull themselves up by their boots straps and if they really want a better life they can make it happen
It is such a shame that so many children grow up hungry an go schools with inadequate materials.

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Posted on Dec 12, 2017 at 07:06 AM

Quoting Kirsty28:

I'm still following the presidents from France and the USA. Both for different reasons, Trump amuses me but he is doing a good job in his own brash way. The French president is a breath of fresh air. He gives me the impression that he doesn't care about what society thinks. Look at his wonderful marriage.....


~~  Kirsty28  ~~

 

Thanks for the interesting comment, and it's always nice to see you here.

 

Your perspectives on the two diverse men, are quite unique.   Insofar as keeping with the topic, I do concur with you that, President Macron does have a close and supportive First Lady, His wife Brigitte.  Together, they are highly respected on the Global Platform.

 

While the other gentleman may be amusing to you, I am unaware of the ' good job ' that, you believe he may have done thusfar.  Perhaps you can enlighten us on the details.  ' Brash ' sounds appropriate though.

 

Puff, Puff,

 

~~  S L  ~~

 

 

 


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Posted on Dec 02, 2017 at 10:57 AM

I'm still following the presidents from France and the USA. Both for different reasons, Trump amuses me but he is doing a good job in his own brash way. The French president is a breath of fresh air. He gives me the impression that he doesn't care about what society thinks. Look at his wonderful marriage.....

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Posted on Dec 01, 2017 at 08:42 AM

Quoting Kirsty28:

In a romantic relationship, as you are both mature adults, (not age, emotionally) neither should be a problem. Religion may be if you have children.  Two different religions may confuse them, ern confuses me at times. 

 

As far as voting goes, if you are the opposite if each other, don't discuss it. Just go and vote for who you want or have faith in. I'm not politically minded. I just want a government who doesn't steal my hard earned money to line their pockets. I admit that I prefer men to women. Love Emmanuel and Donald but loathe my president. 

 

I'm not religious but enjoy church weddings and christenings. The odd church service or just being in a church can be a comfort. If my partner us religious, he can go on his own. However, should he be  Jehovah's witness, or belong to the Church of Scientology or a cult,  I will have to bid him farewell. 

 

My personal opinion is that sex and/or money causes bigger problems. There, you gave my 2 Euros worth of opinion!


~~  Kirsty28  ~~

 

Sincere apologies for the time lapse in acknowledging your comment above.

 

Truth is, I recently came accross a post on ' Suggestions for this Site ', wherein Starfish500 thought it would help, if there was a political affiliation in profiles, and it led me to this topic that was started prior to my summer hiatus.

(Actually, there is a box that is titled ' political beliefs ' in our profiles)

 

Hopefully, you have clicked on the ' follow ' icon, and will get a notification of this post. 

 

If so, as a follow up to your rational comment, may I kindly ask as to why you love the two men whose names you had mentioned, in the above post back in May.  A lot has happened since, and not to mention that, those two men are worlds apart in their political views.

 

~~  S L  ~~


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Posted on May 09, 2017 at 08:11 AM

Quoting silverlion:

~~  Maryclaire  ~~

 

Love your mature and experienced response, to this complex topic.   I would have liked to be ' a fly on the wall ' during some of those political discussions though.  (smile)

 

Interestingly, the both of you belonged to the same religion, although having come from different corners of the world.  This of course, begs the question : Did you meet each other in Church or a similar setting ?.

 

Glad to know that, you had 23 years of marriage bliss, even though you've had different childhood environments.

It surely confirms the possibility of such.  Thank You.

 

~~  S L  ~~

 

 



 

@SL ,

 

We didn't need gloves to discuss about Politics ..but today I went out and stopped by the Drugstore and saw a " FLY SWAT"

that I have to chuckle because I remember you ..Hmm I was tempted to buy 1 but I didn't because you are a harmless fly . 

LOL ..

 

Yes its right , we are both Catholics but we didn't meet in the church but meet thru our friends .. it was never a topic between us ..

 

It was already proven many times that mixed marriages are never a problem for both and the society ..


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Posted on May 09, 2017 at 06:53 AM

Wow, yes, religious indifference's will in certain cases definitely have a baring on a potential relationship Silverlion, even getting off the ground, at the end of the day if people have a faith in a Universal Higher Power then it really should not be an issue in lives because after-all you are all claiming if truth be known to pray to the some Creator out there anyway.

 

Where the problems occur unfortunately is when a couple come from different backgrounds and instilled in them a particular faith or belief system and they have carried that belief on through their lives, it naturally well have an effect where Children are concerned, because one partner may want their child to have a different educational upbringing in a religious schooling system as opposed to a mainstream public schooling, that immediately is going to create friction if you are not on the same page.

 

Secondly even though people might claim to all pray to the same God, there faiths they belong to may carry a different protocol, some religions may not adhere to festivity celebrations like others do and therefore a couple if they are not tolerant and in acceptance of each other because it interferes with their family gatherings in such festivities etc can only lead to further tensions, it should not be the case, but sadly it can turn out that way despite everything else in the relationship being rosy and on cloud nine. 

 

KEYWORDS... Tolerance and Acceptance of another's belief systems!! Let them be them and you be you!!

 

The political aspect is neither here or there, one either votes or one does not vote or you each vote for a different person, but that really should never be an issue because once again that is about tolerance and acceptance and most importantly not trying to control your partner to take the road you decide upon, after-all where the political is concerned it is absolutely crazy to get uptight over another partner's decision to take a road you may or may not take in relation to a politicial affiliation.


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