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Knock, knock,...Aaw shoot !,...Run & Hide ? ....

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Quoting silverlion:

** bepositive **

 

Hi Jutta,

 

Thanks for inviting Mary and Me.  We would certainly let you know in advance though, so you can locate that all important cork-screw ahead of time.

 

I have experienced taking wine on many visits, only to find that the hosts do not always have a cork-screw, or that it is suddenly lost ?.  

As a back up since, I have usually brought some bottles of Champagne as well. No cork-screw needed, no excuses.

 

Perhaps a get together of bloggers someplace, would be fun. 

 

Best Regards,

Ken.

Ken,

Finding a place (that we would all agree upon) is a wonderful idea.  It would be so nice to meet all the happy bloggers in person.  We should all put our thinking caps on.

 

 

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Quoting silverlion:

** Knock, knock,... Aaw shoot !,... Run & Hide ? ... **

 

How do you, or should we react when someone we do not wish to see knocks on the door ?.

 

For example the ex-lover, Jehovah's witness,  paper boy, "Snake oil salesman", Tithe collector, neighbor borrowing sugar, and so on...

 

Or perhaps you see the lights on, at a friend's place where you have "an open invitation" for coffee or a cocktail.

You stop, knock on their door, ... and obviously they run and hide.

 

Is any of this behaviour rude, impolite or acceptable ?.

Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences. 

 

Puff, puff,

 

** S L **

 

 

Ah, wonder why this question? :). But interesting. I would say I always try to treat ppl with same respect of culture, gender, social position, in situations that interest me or not. Maybe because i'm curious about everyone, but basically, because we live in a very individualistic and violent world, some humanity and compassion is in order for me. Being kind is the most important to me, I cannot stand unjustified arrogance.

 

In the case of silence or running away, I would qualify this behavior as avoidant, and I try not to do that. I prefer to communicate, negotiate, instead of giving the cold shoulder. 

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**@Markey

What a beautiful horse and surroundings.

 

**@SL

I, too, remember the  R-o-l-a-i-d-s T V commercial.  Very creative.  Now we have head-bopping-KIA-driving hampsters or sloths signing "The lion sleeps tonight" sheesh.  Anyway...the next time I'm in the area there's a great pastry shop (near the open-air flea market) in the Left Bank area that I love for nibbles.  Or an adventure to the area I call petite Africa (near L'Opera) for truly authentic nibbles.

 

**@MaryClaire

Good to hear you.  I'm usually on that side of the great pond at least once a year.  Will let you know the next time. Depending on where you are...we could meet up in Ghent or Maastricht.  Yes...I still backpack at this age.

 

**@ROC

Didn't you propose a get-together awhile back?  I'm still a newbie so..just keeping the convo going.

 

**@Bepositive and JJ1985

Happy New Year!

 

Remain blessed.

 

 

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Quoting markey:

I'm very fortunate that I live on a farm, and it's so secluded that no one can ever find me, which is wonderful and peaceful except when they change my usual postman... then I don't even get any mail !!

Well, it looks like that beautfiul horse found you. ;) He's staring RIGHT at you!
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Quoting bepositive:

I think the direct approach is best.   I tell the unwanted/unexpected guest that I am just leaving or that I have an appointment and apologize for leaving.   Friends/family usually get the hint and call prior to the next visit.  All the others (salesmen, Jehovah Witnesses, etc)  just go away......:).

 

Ken and Mary,  if you show up with wine......you are always invited....:)

 

 

** bepositive **

 

Hi Jutta,

 

Thanks for inviting Mary and Me.  We would certainly let you know in advance though, so you can locate that all important cork-screw ahead of time.

 

I have experienced taking wine on many visits, only to find that the hosts do not always have a cork-screw, or that it is suddenly lost ?.  

As a back up since, I have usually brought some bottles of Champagne as well. No cork-screw needed, no excuses.

 

Perhaps a get together of bloggers someplace, would be fun. 

 

Best Regards,

Ken.

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Quoting Dolcedileche:

Hello!!!   (huge sigh of relief)

 

Finally...a blog to actually contribute to.  I really became bored (like MaryClaire) with the Hi...etc.

 

For me, the first reaction to an unexpected knock on the door is "Who the heck is that?".  Then I get my PMA going and respond like this

 


  • Friends who drop by (without a call before hand) usually get tea at the kitchen table with some nibbly bits.  I don't encourage them with dinner or real food cause I do like to be given notice.
  • Jehovah's witnesses, and solicitors never get pass the (locked) screen door.  I will politely tell them thanks but no thanks.

 

@MaryClaire - I agree that if a friend is at home and avoids me on purpose.....well...they'll soon know by either a strong tongue lashing or the silent treatment.  Life is so precious.  

 

Remain blessed!

 

 

** Dolcedileche **

 

Glad I could bring you 'relief' with a simple blog.  When i was a kid, actually still am in some aspects,... we used to spell relief with, ...  R-o-l-a-i-d-s.     Anyone remember that T V commercial ?

 

Tea and ' nibbly bits ' sounds inviting.  May i stop by someday ?.  I promise not to get into any ' naughty bits '...!  Will save that for a special invitation.

 

You remind me of a song from Bob Dylan, I think it's titled " Knockin on Heavens Door "... very cool.

 

Take Care,

 

** S L  **

 

 

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Quoting 3345roc:

When I lived in New York the custom was to just ignore them.  Even when walking down the street if some one said "good morning" you'd just ignore them and wonder what they meant by that.

 

The custom down South is quite different.  They will answer the door and shoot you and later claim self defense.  A jury of their peers usually agrees.

** 3345roc **

 

Having grown up in New York City as well, I'm quite familiar with the scenario that you describe.   It is not exclusive to N Y C though, as it appears to be the cultural, social and ethical norms in all the big cities. 

 

With regards to Southern customs, I recall a tragic incident similar to what you describe.  A young Japanese couple on vacation, were driving across country. They stopped to take some photos of quaint old cottages and their occupants in a small town.

The young man knocked on the door of a home, to ask permission. The occupant opened the door and immediately shot the young man to death, point blank in the face.

 

Apparently, the shooter got off Scott Free by claiming that the camera in the hands of the tourist, appeared like a dangerous weapon to him.  Self defence ?... there ya go.

 

Thanks for your valid contribution, as always.

 

** S L **

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Quoting Maryclaire2000:

 

Hi KEN ,

 

1st situation  ( its impolite ):  I will open the door and say thank you I don't need anything and close the door again ..

 

2nd situation ( rude and unacceptable) : I will go , turn my back but the next time I see them , Ill talk about it and tell them " Kiss my A** " or maybe I will show them my middle finger..  LOL  ..My motto " BE NICE TO ME AND ILL BE NICE TO YOU TOO " 

 

According to the Bible " if somebody throw us stone we should throw back Manna ( Biblical bread ) ..Aww common we are just human being so " Ill throw back a coconut " ..LOL 

 

Ken , thanks a lot for this blog ..I had enough of  HI , Happy New Year , Hello etc .. and no communication took place with the Blog owner ..Its just boring ..

** Maryclaire2000 **

 

Helloooo Mary,

 

You are so 'politically correct' all the time. 

 

Rest assured, I will always open the door for you, even if I am half asleep. The last thing i need,  is to be hit with a coconut.  Lo and behold, the fine coconut would go into smithereens and that would be a tragic loss !...ha, ha.

Not to mention the loss of coconut milk, which is precious to cook with.

 

Thanks for acknowledging this topic. Let's hope it brings back some of the ol' timers, and encourages the newbies to a little intellectual stimulation.

 

Fond Regards,

 

** S L **

 

 

 

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I'm very fortunate that I live on a farm, and it's so secluded that no one can ever find me, which is wonderful and peaceful except when they change my usual postman... then I don't even get any mail !!


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I think the direct approach is best.   I tell the unwanted/unexpected guest that I am just leaving or that I have an appointment and apologize for leaving.   Friends/family usually get the hint and call prior to the next visit.  All the others (salesmen, Jehovah Witnesses, etc)  just go away......:).

 

Ken and Mary,  if you show up with wine......you are always invited....:)

 

 

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Hello!!!   (huge sigh of relief)

 

Finally...a blog to actually contribute to.  I really became bored (like MaryClaire) with the Hi...etc.

 

For me, the first reaction to an unexpected knock on the door is "Who the heck is that?".  Then I get my PMA going and respond like this

 


  • Friends who drop by (without a call before hand) usually get tea at the kitchen table with some nibbly bits.  I don't encourage them with dinner or real food cause I do like to be given notice.
  • Jehovah's witnesses, and solicitors never get pass the (locked) screen door.  I will politely tell them thanks but no thanks.

 

@MaryClaire - I agree that if a friend is at home and avoids me on purpose.....well...they'll soon know by either a strong tongue lashing or the silent treatment.  Life is so precious.  

 

Remain blessed!