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Posted on Nov 02, 2018 at 11:15 AM

Knows what he wants.

 

I see this in many women’s “about my match friend”. 

 

Do they suppose that many men do not know what they want?  What are these ladies talking about? 


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Posted on Feb 12, 2019 at 04:40 AM

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I agree with both of u, but if a woman shows interest in you and you don't respond then why not move on. No need 2 waist anyone's time.


 

EXACTLY . WHY WASTE TIME ..


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Posted on Feb 11, 2019 at 05:44 PM

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I agree with both of u, but if a woman shows interest in you and you don't respond then why not move on. No need 2 waist anyone's time.

Thanks for your response.  This blog has been quiet for quite awhile. 

 

I think a day or two wait for a response would be nice.  He or she may be doing taxes.  Or something else equally fon. 


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Posted on Feb 11, 2019 at 03:54 PM

I agree with both of u, but if a woman shows interest in you and you don't respond then why not move on. No need 2 waist anyone's time.

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Posted on Nov 25, 2018 at 09:51 AM

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Well i see alot of men on here asking for number then they are online?! Thats what i mean at least
If u are interested in someone, why be looking for more ? Turnoff for me at least


Thank you.  Interesting point.  You would prefer it if men who expressed interest then pursued it to yes she is the one or no she is not the one prior to expressing interest in another.    

 

I guess the debate may be at what stage is being exclusive reasonable.  

 

I agree it may be a bit off putting to observe a lady who is maybe searching for another after indicating interest in me.  

 

 


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Posted on Nov 24, 2018 at 09:16 AM

Well i see alot of men on here asking for number then they are online?! Thats what i mean at least
If u are interested in someone, why be looking for more ? Turnoff for me at least

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Posted on Nov 18, 2018 at 07:21 PM

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I believe it’s a man that has experience dating women and knows what works for him, whether it be married women, younger women, traditional women, whatever..... hope that helps!


Thank you.  In effect you are saying that it is the men who know what they want.  What works for him and he developed that knowledge dating.  So asking for a man who knows what he wants is just asking for an experienced man.  One who has dated enough to know what he wants.  

 

A small side point -- Men who are looking for married women?  They developed that preference dating?  I might be wrong, but somehow I don't think such men live very long.  

 

Thanks again.  

 

 


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Posted on Nov 18, 2018 at 10:01 AM

@ Zara2you

 

Thank you.  I think you have to pick someone you think most likely will be “suitable”.  You will then have to date awhile to make sure.  An amount of teaching each other and learning about each other has to happen to reach the happy state you write about. 

 

Maybe in a happy relationship such teaching and learning must go on forever.  Most likely neither one is consciously aware this is going on.  


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Posted on Nov 18, 2018 at 09:28 AM

@ Sweetsummer86. 

 

Thank you.  I can’t disagree with anything you said.  I do think what we want can change even as we date someone so that she or he becomes the one.  The one we want.  Our soulmate. 

 

Maybe that reflects the old wisdom that we need to date a number of people before we pick someone. 

 

Still, I recall a book, blog, something I read that chronicled a sad progression of ladies who had rejected men in college that they would have happily married later except those men were now married.    

 

Women in their 30’s who would happily married men they rejected in their 20’s.  Women in their 40’s etc….

 

It likely woks the other way too, except men tend to marry women younger than them and women tend to marry men older than them which give men a longer decision time.  Sometimes much longer.    


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Posted on Nov 15, 2018 at 10:35 PM

In any healthy long-term relationship both man and woman know what they want, -from each other, from life, their long term goals, etc. You have to have that set into some sort of certainty before looking for a partner. How can you choose a partner that is compatable to you, if you dont even know what you want from life? You have to be solid before relationship, and should not depend on your partner to define your goals, or expect them to live happily in uncertanty, like a passenger who sits in car with a driver who dont know where he is going? I rather have a driver who knows the route, so we can both enjoy that time, without any distrust or uncertanty. I want to fully trust my man with drivers seat and give him respect for all his thoughtfulness for both of our lives, so I can fully focus on my part of the trip- giving him joy and admiration he deserves.

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Posted on Nov 11, 2018 at 07:08 AM

I personally believe that what constitutes “What WE want and DONT want” has to do with OUR past experiences with any relationships. That includes non sexual relationship as with parents, children, aunts and uncles, friends and so on and so forth. And most importantly OUR choices and decisions. Because if you choose to be a drunk and live on the streets, I don’t think Prince Charming or princess Jasmin is coming by the ally to pick you up and take you away. (Only an analogy, not trying to offend anyone)

Anyways, That’s how our “List” of I want and don’t want comes to exist. I agree it can be helpful but I also know it could hinder you rather than it benefiting most, Why? Well, let’s take a realistic look at these lists we’ve all somehow created...

yep, I’m pretty positive that “person” is non existent. Bummer! I know. There is no perfect person. Like the one in our imagination or on a literal list. Duh! We’re all old enough to know that. I’m not saying anything you don’t already know rather shining the light on the obvious.

When we experience events that separate or distance us from people we love, use to love or can’t love. It’s BECAUSE that module is now done, finished, gone.. whatever you want to call it. Whether it’s temporary or permanent. When one door closes another shall open to allow us to continue THE mission WE are here to pursue and concur!

That said, it’s DESTINY. What will be WILL BE.
What is meant to be is MEANT TO BE.

When DESTINY brings a someone along I bet more than half of your list is overlooked or may not even apply. Out of our control. Not in our hands at that point. The only thing we have control of is how long WE wish to continue that relationship or if we want to pursue it.

Yet here we are, individuals of all ages (legal age) of course and from all walks of life. On the search for “THE ONE” with our checklist in hand...

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Posted on Nov 10, 2018 at 11:24 PM

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I can see that a lady might want to know the real score after dating awhile -- ie is this going somewhere?  First date it is pretty obvious what he wants.  He wants a girlfriend.  She might want some insight into what being his girl friend exactly entails and how quick.  She should ask.  How and when I am not sure.  I think actually dating is easier than trying to talk about it in a blog.   



 

RMAC ,

 

Yes it is ..but remember there are guys who just vanish or 

walk away , and stop communicating without saying anything,

leaving a woman in the dark..happened to me several times

in the early years a. 1st venture in the Dating Site but Im an 

Aries , I took it as a big mistake and show my 3rd finger, who 

are they anyway .. but to some its a bad experience ..

 


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Posted on Nov 10, 2018 at 05:08 PM

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RMAC ,

 

Maybe those women just want to be told honestly and 

frankly regarding the real score .

 


I can see that a lady might want to know the real score after dating awhile -- ie is this going somewhere?  First date it is pretty obvious what he wants.  He wants a girlfriend.  She might want some insight into what being his girl friend exactly entails and how quick.  She should ask.  How and when I am not sure.  I think actually dating is easier than trying to talk about it in a blog.   


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Posted on Nov 10, 2018 at 11:29 AM

 

RMAC ,

 

Maybe those women just want to be told honestly and 

frankly regarding the real score .

 


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Posted on Nov 09, 2018 at 08:49 AM

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When I say that I personally just mean be assertive and confident in who you are and where you are going

Thank you.  I concur in the broad sense.  Having shifted direction multiple times, and retiring three times I know that where we are going depends a lot on the times and opportunity.  The drive and determination to succeed is the best I can come up with re knowing where we are going. 

 

And yes I know, we often create our own opportunity.  Sometimes,  we have to create our own opportunity.  It just isn’t there otherwise

 

Thank you also Maryclaire and Josephcastle


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Posted on Nov 08, 2018 at 05:34 PM

When I say that I personally just mean be assertive and confident in who you are and where you are going

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Posted on Nov 07, 2018 at 10:25 AM

We all have a set of attributes that we think we want.  We also have a set that we definitely do not want or at least we think so.   

 

When we find the one, I suspect all of this becomes irrelevant.  We discover what we really want. HER or HIM as the case may be.  

 

There are some absolutes, of course.  Honesty, integrity, respect, and so on.  Martha Stout in her book, the sociopath next door, says, if you find three misrepresentations run for your life.  They may not be a sociopath or psychopath, but why take the chance.  

 

You need to assess those misrepresentations.  On short acquaintance three misrepresentations can be serious.  Where he she or it lives, occupation, or significant age discrepancies are examples.    

 

Why did I say significant age discrepancies.  Well as one young lady said, "I work in the area of cyber security.  If you think I am going to list my exact birth date on the internet you are nuts."  

 

I personally do not work in the area of cyber security.  

 

So, getting back to the point of the blog.  What constitutes” knowing what they want” as listed in so many women’s about my match friend.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Nov 03, 2018 at 01:04 PM

 

RMAC , 

 

There must be answers to that opinion ...just hope somebody 

will post their comment.


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