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Posted on Oct 19, 2017 at 06:24 AM

  • Never provide specific information like addresses or home phone numbers.
  • If you are emailing, Google has a feature that shows you which people are in their circle. It might be a different user but the same group of people.
  • Never tell a potential date any detailed financial information.
  • If you suspect you are being scammed, stop contact immediately and report the scammer to the authorities. In Australia there is a website called www.scamwatch.gov.au. There are similar sites in other countries.
  • During the first communication, an online scammer typically wants to know what you do to earn your living. It tells them if you are a good financial prospect.
  • Watch out for cut and paste profiles. Do a Google search of different elements of the profile, especially where it seems "glued" together.
  • Do not supply additional images of yourself or your family as these can be used by a scammer to scam someone else.
  • Never give personal background information as this can be used for identity theft.
  • Ask to meet. If you cannot meet a potential partner, they probably do not exist.
  • Pull down photos and see if you can get 'date created' info through Google+ or other software.
  • They will mostly suggest using MoneyGram as the company to send money. There is no way to trace the money.
  • If they claim to be in the military doing intelligence work overseas that he can't discuss, do your research. Get a photo, in uniform and find out if it matches the rank they say.
  • Use reverse image lookups to check if they are who they say they are.

 

Every Dating Site has scammers!!!!   Be smart, follow your instincts, REPORT POTENTIAL SCAMMERS TO SUPPORT!!

 


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Posted on Nov 06, 2017 at 01:15 AM

Quoting silverlion:

~~  Maryclaire2000  ~~

 

Thanks for your kind advice and concerns.  I believe there can be quite a difference, between scammers and gold diggers, though.

 

Scammers are usually ' up front ' in their quest, and therefore easier to detect, and or avoid.

 

Gold diggers, on the other hand, can be very crafty and usually professionals at it.  Thus a whole lot more elusive, as time appears to be one of their virtues.

 

With regards to ' falling in love ', ... I have never regretted any of it.  For some of the experiences, were absolutely priceless.

 

~~  S L  ~~



 

SL ,

 

Well then you are lucky , and Safe..but still don't take the

road to nowhere . Just saying ..


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Posted on Nov 03, 2017 at 06:07 AM

Quoting Maryclaire2000:

 

@SL ,

 

Do you want to have one ? ! You should read my comment before 

but the Blog Author you mentioned didn't give me an answer .

 

Ken , I have encountered a lot of scammers since 2009 so I know 

already the signs before it happen and I know how to cope up with 

them like dropping them like a hot potato ...I can only advice you 

" not to Fall in love " before you trace her background ..



~~  Maryclaire2000  ~~

 

Thanks for your kind advice and concerns.  I believe there can be quite a difference, between scammers and gold diggers, though.

 

Scammers are usually ' up front ' in their quest, and therefore easier to detect, and or avoid.

 

Gold diggers, on the other hand, can be very crafty and usually professionals at it.  Thus a whole lot more elusive, as time appears to be one of their virtues.

 

With regards to ' falling in love ', ... I have never regretted any of it.  For some of the experiences, were absolutely priceless.

 

~~  S L  ~~


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Posted on Oct 29, 2017 at 01:01 AM

Quoting silverlion:

~~  MMCounselor  ~~

 

Your compliment is greatly appreciated, along with the list of ' key words '.

However, the ladies in question, were smart enough Not to use any of those words, in their profiles or in conversation.

 

Perhaps my question, belongs to a topic on long term relationships vs initial dating and profile sifting.

 

The following member / talk show host comes to mind : Author and Media Personality, FL Petite Princes. 

She has a blog titled " Should You Have a Relationship Coach ? ", and has been an ardent follower as well.

 

This may be an opportune moment, to revive The Boards.

 

~~  S L  ~~

 

 

 


 

@SL ,

 

Do you want to have one ? ! You should read my comment before 

but the Blog Author you mentioned didn't give me an answer .

 

Ken , I have encountered a lot of scammers since 2009 so I know 

already the signs before it happen and I know how to cope up with 

them like dropping them like a hot potato ...I can only advice you 

" not to Fall in love " before you trace her background ..


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Posted on Oct 27, 2017 at 12:47 PM

Quoting MMCounselor:

Hi SL,

I can't imagine you falling for a gold digger (or any other scammer) on this site, you are waaaaayyyy too smart for that.   Of all the thousands of profiles I have read a few "key words" come to mind.

 

1)   Just looking for someone to "take care of me".

2)   needs something mutual beneficial.

3)   You take care of my needs and I will "take care of yours".

4)   I am broke but not after your money

5)   Just want something casual.

6)   Not looking for a relationship...just something "fun".

 

These are only a few examples of profiles we get complaints about because they end up looking for a sugar daddy/mama.  We encourage everyone we keep copy of text/emails so they have proof that he/she asked for money.  We take these complaints seriously and remove them (with proof).  There are sugar daddy/sugar mama sites these people can go to.

 

Good to see you in the blogs, SL, it has been a while.  Hope you had a wonderful year.


~~  MMCounselor  ~~

 

Your compliment is greatly appreciated, along with the list of ' key words '.

However, the ladies in question, were smart enough Not to use any of those words, in their profiles or in conversation.

 

Perhaps my question, belongs to a topic on long term relationships vs initial dating and profile sifting.

 

The following member / talk show host comes to mind : Author and Media Personality, FL Petite Princes. 

She has a blog titled " Should You Have a Relationship Coach ? ", and has been an ardent follower as well.

 

This may be an opportune moment, to revive The Boards.

 

~~  S L  ~~

 

 

 

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Posted on Oct 23, 2017 at 09:20 AM

 

Hi JUTTA ,

 

Its good to hear from you once in a while ..Let us just hope 

that SL wil not fall in Love because that is the Situation I know

that scammers usually Strike back ..


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Posted on Oct 22, 2017 at 10:10 AM

Hi SL,

I can't imagine you falling for a gold digger (or any other scammer) on this site, you are waaaaayyyy too smart for that.   Of all the thousands of profiles I have read a few "key words" come to mind.

 

1)   Just looking for someone to "take care of me".

2)   needs something mutual beneficial.

3)   You take care of my needs and I will "take care of yours".

4)   I am broke but not after your money

5)   Just want something casual.

6)   Not looking for a relationship...just something "fun".

 

These are only a few examples of profiles we get complaints about because they end up looking for a sugar daddy/mama.  We encourage everyone we keep copy of text/emails so they have proof that he/she asked for money.  We take these complaints seriously and remove them (with proof).  There are sugar daddy/sugar mama sites these people can go to.

 

Good to see you in the blogs, SL, it has been a while.  Hope you had a wonderful year.


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Posted on Oct 21, 2017 at 06:44 AM

Quoting MMCounselor:

  • Never provide specific information like addresses or home phone numbers.
  • If you are emailing, Google has a feature that shows you which people are in their circle. It might be a different user but the same group of people.
  • Never tell a potential date any detailed financial information.
  • If you suspect you are being scammed, stop contact immediately and report the scammer to the authorities. In Australia there is a website called www.scamwatch.gov.au. There are similar sites in other countries.
  • During the first communication, an online scammer typically wants to know what you do to earn your living. It tells them if you are a good financial prospect.
  • Watch out for cut and paste profiles. Do a Google search of different elements of the profile, especially where it seems "glued" together.
  • Do not supply additional images of yourself or your family as these can be used by a scammer to scam someone else.
  • Never give personal background information as this can be used for identity theft.
  • Ask to meet. If you cannot meet a potential partner, they probably do not exist.
  • Pull down photos and see if you can get 'date created' info through Google+ or other software.
  • They will mostly suggest using MoneyGram as the company to send money. There is no way to trace the money.
  • If they claim to be in the military doing intelligence work overseas that he can't discuss, do your research. Get a photo, in uniform and find out if it matches the rank they say.
  • Use reverse image lookups to check if they are who they say they are.

 

Every Dating Site has scammers!!!!   Be smart, follow your instincts, REPORT POTENTIAL SCAMMERS TO SUPPORT!!

 


~~  MMCounselor  ~~

 

May I have some of your genuine advice please, on how to spot the ' Gold Diggers '.

 

They have a strange habit, of cleaning me out in time, even though every thing seems legitimate and copacetic in the beginning ?.

 

Thanks for your help.

 

~~  S L  ~~


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