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How Men Think

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I have completely abandoned my daily blog commitment. I already knew I was inclined to betray myself. But I thought my promise to you, dear reader, would hold me accountable. Apparently I'm commitment phobic. But, since you're not reading them anyway, you forgive me. Thank you. I feel much better.
"Stop talking about yourself, Lola, and tell us how men think"... Sheesh...Impatient. Listen, I DON'T KNOW how men think. That's actually the whole point. I just used that catchy title to nab your attention...But don't leave yet, I do have a point to make.
Recently with this whole Jeffery Epstein business I have heard men say things like "Those girls got paid...They knew what they were getting into. They know how men think." And as someone who lacks a set of testicles, is not producing semen or significant amounts of testosterone or watching porn daily, I can assure you, I absolutely DO NOT know how men think. I do know that if you play Tetris every day you will start to look at the buildings in your environment as giant puzzle pieces. And if you play Grand Theft Auto, you will start imagining yourself jacking cop cars at the grocery store. So if you are watching porn daily, the babysitter that resembles one of your favorite 'actresses' probably seems far less innocent that she actually is.
The assumption that young women 'should know better' implies that we have some sort of magical Viewfinder allowing us to preview the weird creepy inner workings of the male mind. But actually, it's just a comfortable way for guys to shrug responsibility and for women to avoid admitting that we wish bad things upon other, more attractive women. There, I said it. It's really just a convenient way to blame the victim. And how we, as a society, love to blame the victim. Less threat of retaliation, less paperwork, easier to get back to social media guilt free.
I mean, before I ever saw any porn, heard boys talking the way boys talk, or was pressured into this or that by boyfriends, my most elicit fantasy as a tween was holding hands in public, his hand on my inner thigh and kissing...with tongue! Left to my own devices, my perversions were vanilla at worst. So next time you catch yourself saying "you know how men think" remind yourself that only men know how men think.
And on that note, if you are a man and you are seeking advice on a woman or women in general from another man, I can assure you, unless he has a working set of ovaries (and I don't mean in a jar on his nightstand...eeeeewww!) he will give you bad advice. Perhaps his genius will help you effectively manipulate a woman, but if you genuinely want to understand a woman, it helps to listen to women.
On more than one occasion, I have stated my thoughts or feelings to men directly only to be accused of hiding some diabolical plot intended to yield some grand outcome. Guys, don't try to concoct some crazy scheme that allows you to justify or rationalize your naughty behavior. Listen to her words. She's probably telling you what she means. And girls, don't be manipulative. Just because they do it doesn't mean you have to. You give the rest of us a bad name. Rise up. Be an example. Be your own hero. That's all I got.❌⭕️LT
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October 8 Total posts: 52
to nerds like me, thinking IS fun! 😃
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October 8 Total posts: 50
Exactly. 90% of my friends are men, so I feel I get them more than most. It's women I don't get most of the time - I call them psycho chicks but then being back out in the dating field after over 20 yrs - whew - what a Prozac ride. More crazies than sane.
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October 8 Total posts: 50
You disagree to which comment? I read your profile. Good satirist..... The Mom pic was a nice touch. I slid to the left on the first question.. just kidding. . . or am I? I'm trying to remember which day it is. Or is that month? Omg, it's 2021 and Trump has 4 more years. NOW I am a happy girl.
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Quoting Onemoretime60:

Another great post … I would say I thought you were being rather optimistic thinking that you would keep a daily blog going for a whole month … especially with the sheer volume of words!! What men think: As is all to frequent, there is the stereotypical view of what men think that leaps to the fore in many women’s minds – and that equally applies the other way round BUT I would argue that is far too simplistic … yes, there may well be underlying similar traits in each gender (driven by hormones, let’s be honest) but we are all not so much a spectrum, more a spiders web pattern with infinite axes. I would regard myself as a more sensitive natured individual but yup, I have an underlying drive to procreate … I would say I don’t express it as overtly as others may and it most certainly is not the first (conscious) thing that springs to mind in looking at all you gorgeous women here!As for knowing how a woman thinks … I wouldn’t have a clue, and I would never seek advice from another guy! I may have a rough idea and think I’m pretty perceptive but it’s a constant surprise and – mostly – a delight! If it’s not, then it was good to meet and good to pass by.
that is really nice positive response to the man vs woman or woman vs man understanding issues. Well done!
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No. Apparently you don't understand women. She wasn't saying that at all. She wasn't saying she had a shitty divorce at all. You aren't even warm.
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October 7 Total posts: 24
Please, elucidate? I am curious as to what you disagree with, and why?
I do take issue with @bluewater's note that we should not try to understand - but just accept. It is only by making the effort to understand one's partner's issues can one fully understand where they are and develop as a couple together. Unless, of course, a relationship as a 'couple' is not what one is seeking. Then I "get" the comment.
So, @myuniqueuserid, what part(s) do you disagree with, and why?
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October 6 Total posts: 197
I disagree
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Everyone has issues and they are all different since everyone is unique. The key is take them as they are and see what happens. Don't try to understand just accept them or not. Relationships are more about the heart than the head. Some just work... have great chemistry.
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too much BS and not enough holding hands and kissing
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don't think so much just go out and have fun
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Communication is the key, with nothing off limits...
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October 2 Total posts: 52
love you OMT❤️❤️❤️
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October 2 Total posts: 52
pS, Epstien & his 'customers' are running the world. Thats why his cohorts got an unheard of plea deal, and the presiding judge for Maxwell insisted all evidence be destroyed. Time to open our eyes, folks
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October 2 Total posts: 52
i hang out with mostly men, so they're pretty candid in fron of me
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October 2 Total posts: 24
"man issues" ... Really?? and why is that exactly? Guys wonder why so many women have "man issues"... I have only been back on the 'dating scene' a couple of years and am shocked at how many women have had a torrid time with guys (abuse, rape, misogyny, and yes infidelity), and it astounds me that you keep coming back for more. Is it really so surprising so many women have 'man issues'? Guys, look in the mirror ...
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Honey, every single woman out there has man issues.
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Hi OneMoreTime! 👋🏼 Thank you for replying. Yeah, it was a more aggressive goal than I realized. 'Only a month' I thought . Silly. Someone else messaged me privately to explain that he did not think that way about women (since he had daughters). And my reply was that if it doesn't pertain to you than I'm not talking about you. But I do love outside input.
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October 1 Total posts: 52
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