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Posted on Sep 16, 2018 at 12:54 PM

Hello everyone, are you going Dutch (pay half and half for the dinner) on the first date? How is going in America? I just came. Thanks

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Posted on Oct 14, 2018 at 10:52 PM

If that's what I'm eating you'll be lucky if I stay long enough :)


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Posted on Oct 12, 2018 at 11:20 AM

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RMAC , 

 

MILLION THUMBS UP ...


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Posted on Oct 12, 2018 at 08:23 AM

I always walk the lady to her car.  Even if I don't think per dating things, things are going anywhere.  I want to be sure she gets home ok.  That part of the trip anyway.  

 

If she is worried about her date, I know she is safe with me.  She may not know that, so, if she protests my walking her to her car I will watch her to her car.  I need to know she will get home safe.  That part of the trip anyway.  

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Oct 12, 2018 at 08:06 AM

It is nice if the lady offers.  I always say, "You can pay for our next date."  On thinking about it, that may be dangerous.  One, it presumes there is going to be a next one.  She may think you are taking her for granted.  Never want to take a lady for granted.  Dangerous territory.  

 

I usually let the lady pick the place for the first date.  Usually that is safe.  Not always.  First dates should not be at what I call once a year restaurants.  She should not pick one either.  Not if she wants a second date.  

 

 


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Posted on Oct 11, 2018 at 11:59 PM

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I don't go to dinner or happy hour for first dates.

 

It's Starbucks or nothing.... too many people aren't who they say they are and look nothing like their photos.

 

Plus, here in south FL where people are notoriously superficial it's a common ruse to "meet for drinks" and one drink leads to two, then some hors d'oeuvres, another drink and then the lady has to use the ladies room. She grabs her purse, heads off and comes back a few minutes later and, without sitting back down says "It's been really nice meeting you but I don't think we're a match" and she walks away sticking you with a $100+ bar tab.  This is soooo common that guys down here even make jokes about it. (BTW, one of the tip offs is the profile that says something like "If you can't afford to take me to dinner, you can't afford to date me.")

 

After a few emails, a phone call or two, a coffee date and some other kind of date that doesn't involve food or alcohol and all those go well, I have no problem paying each and every time.



 

Hi EASYMANTOLOVE ,

 

Welcome back and good to see you again ..From the old

blogger only me and Rmac are left ...many of the nice guys 

are gone or just not login in but sometimes they say hello.


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Posted on Oct 10, 2018 at 01:51 AM

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I generally pay for it especially on a first date.


 

Hi RMAC , 

 

Im lucky i have never paid since my 1st Date and the coming .dates ...Actually I pay the whole Bill if I invited someone , if he is a good friend , a nice relative and my partner , not always but occasionally .I really dont mind paying for somebody I like , for both and for those

who doesn't take advantage on me .


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Posted on Oct 09, 2018 at 10:32 PM

I generally pay for it especially on a first date.


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Posted on Sep 26, 2018 at 11:07 AM

I always offer to pay and take out my credit card. This is actually a great way you see who is a gentleman and a generous man and who is a cheap poor fellow who can’t afford a date.

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Posted on Sep 26, 2018 at 08:20 AM

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Hi just a word on this too, from a mans perspective , I think dutch is the way to go...then nothing is expected except a good intro and talk, also as this woman said , bring your own car and wait till he leaves from date first...never go to his car , if you make a second date...dont meet in between ....if you like him , call him in the evenings never during the day as he may be a work and not able to talk . And if he cannot meet you in the evenings or weekends ...he is attached ...LOL


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Posted on Sep 24, 2018 at 12:05 PM

I agree with Vincentina! jimmyg2g many men need to turn in their man cards b/c they don’t qualify.

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Posted on Sep 24, 2018 at 12:01 PM

Who asked who out? That is who needs to pay? Unless of course he is a real gentleman?

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Posted on Sep 22, 2018 at 07:12 AM

I almost always pay my own way on a first date. I also usually drive myself there.


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Posted on Sep 22, 2018 at 04:06 AM

I usually pay on dates, but if a girl wants to contribute then i respect her lot more. Majority of my ex were all independent and succesfull in their own right and either paid or wanted to pay for the dinner. So as they say in UK, different strokes for different folks.

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Posted on Sep 21, 2018 at 11:15 AM

Nope, I never pay on dates

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Posted on Sep 20, 2018 at 06:06 PM

Welcome Ksenialarmoliuk.  Men should pickup the tab, or turn in your man card.  If the lady offers, be kind in paying the check discreetly. 


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Posted on Sep 17, 2018 at 11:44 PM

The man always in my book. I understand the independent need but least we can do is pay for dinner

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Posted on Sep 17, 2018 at 09:34 PM

Quoting author:

Hello everyone, are you going Dutch (pay half and half for the dinner) on the first date? How is going in America? I just came. Thanks


Hi Miss Ksenialarmoliuk, I'm shock, I had a hard time getting a lady to go Dutch period.  When a lady I was dating decided to pay for dinner I was shocked.  So every time a lady pays I am shock, but I smile and I mean I am truly tickle. So I feel your pain but blame ladies lib. But as a man I would recommend that the man pays, even if the lady invites him out first date, I wrote a message on a blog once, and I shared how a lady can't take my place at the table, but that doesn't mean she can't try 😁.  

 

So my advice would be the next time a date puts you in that situation you be creative and come back and share exactly how you pull off one of the world's greatest magic trick. Photos will help help us smile this through with you. Enjoy,  be careful and safe.

 

 

Sincerely Mr Born1top.

Love and peace. 


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Posted on Sep 17, 2018 at 04:20 PM

Some may disagree but here is my two cents.

 

I have friends (males) who lead an alternative lifestyles.  When they visit me here in the states, I am treated.  From time to time I will bribe the waiter for the bill or buy gifts for them to return to with to their country.   As men they want to treat me.  I bring friendship and feminine energy.  And these are men with absolutely NO physical/ sexual attraction between us. 

 

So to each their own. However, I don't do dutch treat with someone who is trying to win me over. 

 

LADIES....You are the special something they are looking for.  When you are in an established relationship (as I did with my ex) and you feel the urge...spoil your man!!! 

 

As I said before....just my way of doing things.

 

Remain blessed!!


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Posted on Sep 17, 2018 at 01:17 PM

Agree with you Vincentina!

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