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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2017 05:13 PM

To say that dating today is a minefield or a quagmire is an understatement.  Growing up in the 1900s it was simple; boy meets girl, boy says I like you, girl says okay.  Boy picks girl up for a few dates- cinema and or ice cream.  Girl invites boy to meet her parents for lunch, few questions asked and they lived happily ever after.

 

Fast forward 2017, dating is like playing a game of chess or sitting at the negotiation table trying to negotiate a trillion dollar deal.  No one wants to make the first move; everyone holds their cards to their chest and you wonder to yourself Why are we at this negotiating table again? This negotiation could last a lifetime and there would still be no outcome.  If a progress is made at all there is a lot of finer details to iron out.  You ask what are the finer details?  I am going back in time to date



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Posted on Sun, Jun 25, 2017 02:56 PM

Quoting wvurobinrn:

this whole dating thing sucks. you can't tell which ppl are real and which ones are just playing games for self satisfaction. if only we could go back.


@wvurobinrn: Couldn't agree more.  Today we seem to have it all-gadgets, luxury, expensive items- but loosing the very things that make us feel human- intergrity, honesty, trust.  Thanks for comments



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Posted on Fri, Jun 23, 2017 08:08 PM

Quoting Dolcedileche:

Good afternoon!

 

Great blog Gentlebreeze.  I did volunteer graphics for a dating company for about 6 months. 

 

The owner and I had long conversations about the challenges of dating. 

 

His story was the basis for developing the company.  In his quest to find a woman to marry, he tried online, speed dating and other vehicles in his search for a mate.  When they finally found each other, he made a vow to help others. 

 

However, what he has discovered (among the over 50 crowd) is that people are not truthful, play games, and aren't realistic about what they are seeking. 

 

To be truthful (and I am sure this is true for all the women out there) if I wanted an "oil change" all I'd have to do is walk next door to my neighbors house.  He'd be more than happy to check under the hood.  However, what I seek is a "Ride or Die" companionship.  You know, I've got his back and he's got mine and God help anyone who tries to "perpetrate"...well..you get the idea.

 

In closing, I copied my favorite scene from the 10 commandments.  Sephora asks Moses about the woman who left a scar upon his heart. 

 

Moses:   Yes. She was beautiful... as a jewel.

Sephora:   A jewel has brilliant fire, but it gives no warmth. Our hands are not so soft, but they can serve. Our bodies not so white, but they are strong. Our lips are not perfumed, but they speak the truth. Love is not an art to us. It's life to us. We are not dressed in gold and fine linen. Strength and honor are our clothing. Our tents are not the columned halls of Egypt, but our children play happily before them. We can offer you little... but we offer all we have.

 

For the true meaning of love. both should Look within...cause if you don't.... you'll be without.

 

Remain (always) blessed!!

 

Dolce.

 

 


@ Dolcedileche

 

 

Sephora paragraph.  Beautiful and touching.  Gets me every time.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 18, 2017 03:39 PM

this whole dating thing sucks. you can't tell which ppl are real and which ones are just playing games for self satisfaction. if only we could go back.

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Posted on Sun, Jun 18, 2017 10:59 AM

Quoting Dolcedileche:

Good afternoon!

 

Great blog Gentlebreeze.  I did volunteer graphics for a dating company for about 6 months. 

 

The owner and I had long conversations about the challenges of dating. 

 

His story was the basis for developing the company.  In his quest to find a woman to marry, he tried online, speed dating and other vehicles in his search for a mate.  When they finally found each other, he made a vow to help others. 

 

However, what he has discovered (among the over 50 crowd) is that people are not truthful, play games, and aren't realistic about what they are seeking. 

 

To be truthful (and I am sure this is true for all the women out there) if I wanted an "oil change" all I'd have to do is walk next door to my neighbors house.  He'd be more than happy to check under the hood.  However, what I seek is a "Ride or Die" companionship.  You know, I've got his back and he's got mine and God help anyone who tries to "perpetrate"...well..you get the idea.

 

In closing, I copied my favorite scene from the 10 commandments.  Sephora asks Moses about the woman who left a scar upon his heart. 

 

Moses:   Yes. She was beautiful... as a jewel.

Sephora:   A jewel has brilliant fire, but it gives no warmth. Our hands are not so soft, but they can serve. Our bodies not so white, but they are strong. Our lips are not perfumed, but they speak the truth. Love is not an art to us. It's life to us. We are not dressed in gold and fine linen. Strength and honor are our clothing. Our tents are not the columned halls of Egypt, but our children play happily before them. We can offer you little... but we offer all we have.

 

For the true meaning of love. both should Look within...cause if you don't.... you'll be without.

 

Remain (always) blessed!!

 

Dolce.

 

 



@Dolcedileche  welcome back to the blogs.  

 

It is a real shame that people are not truthful anymore about dating.  One of my favourite Moses characters was Charlton Heston-he was a sort of larger than life personality but I loved him all the same.  Thanks for comments



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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2017 12:29 PM

Good afternoon!

 

Great blog Gentlebreeze.  I did volunteer graphics for a dating company for about 6 months. 

 

The owner and I had long conversations about the challenges of dating. 

 

His story was the basis for developing the company.  In his quest to find a woman to marry, he tried online, speed dating and other vehicles in his search for a mate.  When they finally found each other, he made a vow to help others. 

 

However, what he has discovered (among the over 50 crowd) is that people are not truthful, play games, and aren't realistic about what they are seeking. 

 

To be truthful (and I am sure this is true for all the women out there) if I wanted an "oil change" all I'd have to do is walk next door to my neighbors house.  He'd be more than happy to check under the hood.  However, what I seek is a "Ride or Die" companionship.  You know, I've got his back and he's got mine and God help anyone who tries to "perpetrate"...well..you get the idea.

 

In closing, I copied my favorite scene from the 10 commandments.  Sephora asks Moses about the woman who left a scar upon his heart. 

 

Moses:   Yes. She was beautiful... as a jewel.

Sephora:   A jewel has brilliant fire, but it gives no warmth. Our hands are not so soft, but they can serve. Our bodies not so white, but they are strong. Our lips are not perfumed, but they speak the truth. Love is not an art to us. It's life to us. We are not dressed in gold and fine linen. Strength and honor are our clothing. Our tents are not the columned halls of Egypt, but our children play happily before them. We can offer you little... but we offer all we have.

 

For the true meaning of love. both should Look within...cause if you don't.... you'll be without.

 

Remain (always) blessed!!

 

Dolce.

 

 


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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2017 01:23 PM

Quoting funtimes0007:

Not possible... :))))

BECAUSE - What one considers common sense is another persons idiotic life style. for exmaple, would you ever try to do "iron man Flying suit"?, would you drive a car on public highway at 260 miles an hour?

My point is liberation and giving everyone the right to do do what suits them comes wiht the price, where one can never demand marriage at the end just becuase they are in relationship. Its free spirit and free thinking..."wink" "wink" gotcha...lol



Well people can jump in whatever suit they want but they should just remember they are not cats to land on their feet safely all the time.  I am not sure where the discussion is heading but hey to each their own.



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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2017 09:55 AM

Quoting funtimes0007:

Can you also please agree with me as well... lol :)))



Ok funtimes0007, I do agree with the statements you brought forward here, but to the comment of woman just needing a sperm bank and men not wanting the headaces of marriage, only to have short term relationships and moving on, just seems so iincredibly sad to me.  If that is what the price is to pay, then count me out.  I know I'm very different then most, but I am willing to be patient to continue to seek, and maybe one day I will find, until then I am content with my life.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 06:15 PM

Quoting Gentlebreeze2016:

Generally people brought their authentic self (the norm rather than the exception) to the 'table' so one knew what they were dealing with and therefore had the choice to decide whether to proceed on the basis of what was presented to them.



Got it


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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 03:06 PM

Quoting funtimes0007:

Common sense is in play here @Gentlebreeze because we have liberated the mind.


Before marriage was an obligation to be considered respectful in the society, you could not have childern out of the wed lock, famalies would not invite you if they see you are living with man or woman and not being married, and women will not sleep with a man after few rounds of drink at a bar or vise versa.

The common sense is telling women who earn money, why should I deal with a fat belly, beer drinking man where they can go and get the sperms from a sperm bank.

Men are saying why should I deal with the marriage headaches, just pick a woman for a short term relationship, when get bored switch to another one and so on.


As I said there is price to pay for everything.



Yes there is a price to pay for everything but I am coming from the angle of applying common sense in the application of all the principles we have achieved-Democracy, freedom of thinking etc.  Might I add what ever choice we make there is a price to pay; by applying common sense we just might alleviate or minimise the risk exposure to ourselves and loved ones.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 02:55 PM

Quoting rmac22:

@ Gentlebreeze

 

 

Dating was simpler back then agreed.  Not sure about knowing where we stood in every situations.  



Generally people brought their authentic self (the norm rather than the exception) to the 'table' so one knew what they were dealing with and therefore had the choice to decide whether to proceed on the basis of what was presented to them.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 01:27 PM

Quoting Gentlebreeze2016:

@Rmac, oh dear woe unto anyone if the writer is the Shakespearean, poetic type, then in the words of Timone (Lion King), 'disaster is in the air'.  I think when the reluctance to meet up comes  in then it is a sure warning sign to run.

 

Thanks for comments



 

One of the past MM participants, proclaimed that he was uglier than a boiled mule and his only hope was to snow them first.  Not an exact quote -- the boiled mule part is exact. 

 

Your comment on my comment was poetic. 

 


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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 01:10 PM

Quoting Gentlebreeze2016:

@Maryclaire ohhhhhh please don't get me started again- I could rant forever.  Things were for more simpler and everyone knew where they stood in every situation.   Thanks for comments



@ Gentlebreeze

 

 

Dating was simpler back then agreed.  Not sure about knowing where we stood in every situations.  


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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 11:42 AM

Quoting utterlyadorable:

It's been my experience on this site that the gentleman who live within 90 miles of me are the least likely to interact with me, maybe it's me, lol.  I get many more responses from gentlemen who are farther away.  I'm tending to agree with you that most do not, at least in my age bracket.



Actually I said minutes.  Around here miles means nothing.   If I go west or south into the country 90 miles and 90 minutes would be roughly equivalent.  East and/or north 90 minutes might get you 30 to 45 miles on a good day.  That’s if you know your way around.  If meeting someone in a new to you neighborhood -- do a trial run first.  

 

I remember one person I worked with.  Part of his criterion for hiring someone was if they could find his office and get there on time.  If they couldn’t they were way behind the curve.  They had to be otherwise spectacular to even be considered.  

 

I get way more interest also from, "too far away."  I think it has to do with less risk of interest in response.   That sounds backwards, but why else?  

 

 

If you indicate interest in more than one local person you might get more potential near term interest than you can handle.  Don’t I wish.  


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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 07:46 AM

Quoting rmac22:

A lot of people say that is what they want.  I don't think many do it.  If within 90 minutes from each other  --  maybe 50 percent.

 

In person is a lot more fun. 



It's been my experience on this site that the gentleman who live within 90 miles of me are the least likely to interact with me, maybe it's me, lol.  I get many more responses from gentlemen who are farther away.  I'm tending to agree with you that most do not, at least in my age bracket.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 04:36 AM

Quoting rmac22:

If you do a virtual courtship you fall in love with the person that writer created.  The age, height, pictures may all be true, but the person may still be different.  

 

So you meet and discover he is nowhere near as sophisticated.  She is not as smart as she seemed.  Perfectly nice people may not survive the initial disappointment.  

 

 

The only solutions I see is to meet as quickly as possible and proceed in person as much as possible.    



@Rmac, oh dear woe unto anyone if the writer is the Shakespearean, poetic type, then in the words of Timone (Lion King), 'disaster is in the air'.  I think when the reluctance to meet up comes  in then it is a sure warning sign to run.

 

Thanks for comments



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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 04:33 AM

Quoting funtimes0007:

I think what you consider is missing, its the delima of mostly western societies.

In East, Middle East and parts of Southern cultures on this planet, people still practice what you described dating and marriage (Not all but majority still do as of today).

Everything comes with a price that includes democracy, freedom of speech, indepdent thought process and liberation of mind.

As I tell my employees, deal with it, you asked for it :)



@funtimes you raise some key points but my view has always been yes democray, independent thought process et al are all good as we as a society have worked so hard to achieve them.  It is when Common Sense is not applied to any of them that is when in my mind they become pointless and they become the  proverbial chains around our necks.  

 

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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2017 12:03 AM

Quoting utterlyadorable:

I like your solution mac22 to this discussion.  What do you think is the percentage of who are on this site actually do meet as quickly as possible and proceed in person?  



A lot of people say that is what they want.  I don't think many do it.  If within 90 minutes from each other  --  maybe 50 percent.

 

In person is a lot more fun. 


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Posted on Fri, Jun 09, 2017 01:36 PM

Quoting rmac22:

If you do a virtual courtship you fall in love with the person that writer created.  The age, height, pictures may all be true, but the person may still be different.  

 

So you meet and discover he is nowhere near as sophisticated.  She is not as smart as she seemed.  Perfectly nice people may not survive the initial disappointment.  

 

 

The only solutions I see is to meet as quickly as possible and proceed in person as much as possible.    



I like your solution mac22 to this discussion.  What do you think is the percentage of who are on this site actually do meet as quickly as possible and proceed in person?  



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Posted on Fri, Jun 09, 2017 11:21 AM

If you do a virtual courtship you fall in love with the person that writer created.  The age, height, pictures may all be true, but the person may still be different.  

 

So you meet and discover he is nowhere near as sophisticated.  She is not as smart as she seemed.  Perfectly nice people may not survive the initial disappointment.  

 

 

The only solutions I see is to meet as quickly as possible and proceed in person as much as possible.    


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