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Posted on Mon, Jul 31, 2017 02:50 AM

LOVE = Loss Of Valuable Energy?

"or"

Life's Only Valuable Emotion = LOVE?

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LOVE = Land
 of Sorrow, Ocean of Tears, Valley of Death, End of Life?

"or"

Life Offers 
Valuable Experiences = LOVE?

Thoughts...

 


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Posted on Fri, Oct 06, 2017 06:41 PM

That picture of the couple in the moonlight has to make all of the lonely people even lonelier.  

 

 

Memories 

 

 


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Posted on Sun, Sep 17, 2017 03:52 AM

Therapy sucks. After a few sessions I start wondering where the line is drawn between me needing them versus them needing a regular paycheck thanks to me.

You behave just fine. I've dealt with worse a-holes than you. At least you're not totally narcissistic and sociopathic...you could apologize for something. I was having a rough day yesterday. My apologies for the extra sensitivity.

Thank you for those amazing compliments. I could have sworn I gave you access to my private album...hmm...I'll have to double check that. But, I'm not that hot.

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Posted on Sat, Sep 16, 2017 08:07 PM

Quoting CRLegirl:

Seriously! My thumbs are looking at me like you just asked them to type a marathon! 😤

 

I never again want to go through what I've gone through with this man with any one else. I'll be okay staying single just to avoid making that mistake again. Marriage 1.0 is slowly being uninstalled and CRLegirl OS will become self-sustaining.

 

You hit one nail on it's head...he is very insecure...but he also has other issues. He claims to "love" me, yet his choices he makes are to satisfy his emotions. There's so much wrapped up in this, and you're not my therapist, nor do I need you to be. 

And, I'd look and care about his feelings in all this, except, 21yrs of only his feelings being acknowledged has been a waste of who I am. Any how, no more talking about this...I'm crying too much thinking of the pain. 



@CRlegirl - Crying why silly? I was not trying to be your therapist, Geez, I am still in therapy. That reminds me I need to book my next appointment :))

 

If its over, its over...sorry I didn't mean rub it in the wrong way. I better behave :( ask Gentlebreeze, she thinks I am an A hole...

 

You have an awesome personality, you can articulate your thoughts, you are funny, I am assuming hot as hell (I have not seen your pics yet, no access is given yet), well-rounded personality. Just give yourself some time. It took many many years to get out of mine (mentally).


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Posted on Sat, Sep 16, 2017 08:16 AM

Seriously! My thumbs are looking at me like you just asked them to type a marathon! 😤

 

I never again want to go through what I've gone through with this man with any one else. I'll be okay staying single just to avoid making that mistake again. Marriage 1.0 is slowly being uninstalled and CRLegirl OS will become self-sustaining.

 

You hit one nail on it's head...he is very insecure...but he also has other issues. He claims to "love" me, yet his choices he makes are to satisfy his emotions. There's so much wrapped up in this, and you're not my therapist, nor do I need you to be. 

And, I'd look and care about his feelings in all this, except, 21yrs of only his feelings being acknowledged has been a waste of who I am. Any how, no more talking about this...I'm crying too much thinking of the pain. 


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Posted on Fri, Sep 15, 2017 10:48 PM

Quoting CRLegirl:

If you ask my 11yr old he would agree with the "hippie" label...partly because he thinks I'm "old". There's no way I will ever have an over-inflated ego with him around. Yes, playful is what comes natural. As for the commitment part, well, entering into and staying in a marriage of 21yrs- for all the wrong reasons- has me rethinking my discernment abilities. It's doubtful finding a man for a marriage 2.0 is going to happen- ever. It's much easier to just have guy friends for conversation and playful banter.

 

Love your Google anagram! As for that heated debate on God? Go figure I once again have attracted an athiest/agnostic as a friend. My fingers do not want that work out. It would be a much better in-person discussion for a day we might have coffee and bagels...

 

But I can't resist the concupiscence topic....because I trust you are a reasonable man with some intellect, we can agree on the basic, simple idea that we have free will. The gift of free will is an extention of God's love for His creation. Slowly moving forward on the simple concept, His graces and gifts are plentiful. When mankind was created, we were "made in His image", but NOT His only image. His many gifts for us perfect us in His image and elevates us above the rest of creation- yet, does not make us equal to God. With that established, let's establish why we are not equal to Him. That answer is simply this: love. To fully love, is to also fully love and respect ones self and individual uniquity. Finally, because we are merely perfected in His image, and not perfect as Him, our Free Will makes us vulnerable to turn away from His gifts and graces, thus concupiscence is more of a side effect of our imperfections, and not a direct creation of God's. We are His creations. Whereas our actions are our OWN creations, thus concupiscence is NOT God's creation. 

 

^^^bet that was more theology than you ever thought you'd read on a dating site. ;)

 

 

 

 



lol @ marriage 2.0 haha, you are so much fun :) ok think it this way, if you think at our age you will find a man (besides me of course as a friend) who is sane, have no mental issues, minimal baggage, no drinking problems, no narcissistic personality disorders and will be better than your hubby, well think again ( I am repeating what you said). So you really have to rethink why you really stayed in this marriage for 21 years. That is a very long time. Also, you have to be considerate of his feelings. What if he stayed in the marriage for the right reasons? :) But if he really loves you, he will let you go without a stupid fight once you say no unless he is got major insecurity issues.

 

You can read my blog, "Everything & Everyone has an exp. date, then why?"

 

To get more insight into how my brain functions.

https://www.millionairematch.com/blogs/blog_messages?blog_id=439290 

 

But here is my problem with your explanations above.

 

Humans = God's Image, I do not agree on this that is the bible, Quarran, Torah talk. An artist, creator never paints him or herself. They always express something which is deep within.

Bottom line the definition of God no matter under what religion, faith, sect, school of thought you look at makes no sense. If you were God, would you ever create a human? :))))

On a partially related topic, have you seen the painting drawn by an artificial intelligence software on its own or to compose music? Are we God now?

https://motherboard.vice.com/en_us/article/​wnjve5/artificial-intelligence-can-now-paint-like​-arts-greatest-masters


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Posted on Fri, Sep 15, 2017 08:03 AM

Quoting funtimes0007:

@CRLegirl Ludus - Ah ha! you are a hippie by heart...kidding :) based on what I have learned about you so far, "being playful" for sure suits you. As far as no commitment, that is a wishful thinking on your part. You got married once (for whatever reason), you will settle down again eventually.

 

Google is loved by God. Google stands for, "God's Own Official Guide to Locating Everything" :) lol Ok, let's have a heated debate about God. Shall we? :) I am agnostic, border line Atheist. if God really loved Adam he would have made him Eva, not Eve..lol

 

If I agree with you that we suffer from "concupiscence", well God created that also. Why? :)



If you ask my 11yr old he would agree with the "hippie" label...partly because he thinks I'm "old". There's no way I will ever have an over-inflated ego with him around. Yes, playful is what comes natural. As for the commitment part, well, entering into and staying in a marriage of 21yrs- for all the wrong reasons- has me rethinking my discernment abilities. It's doubtful finding a man for a marriage 2.0 is going to happen- ever. It's much easier to just have guy friends for conversation and playful banter.

 

Love your Google anagram! As for that heated debate on God? Go figure I once again have attracted an athiest/agnostic as a friend. My fingers do not want that work out. It would be a much better in-person discussion for a day we might have coffee and bagels...

 

But I can't resist the concupiscence topic....because I trust you are a reasonable man with some intellect, we can agree on the basic, simple idea that we have free will. The gift of free will is an extention of God's love for His creation. Slowly moving forward on the simple concept, His graces and gifts are plentiful. When mankind was created, we were "made in His image", but NOT His only image. His many gifts for us perfect us in His image and elevates us above the rest of creation- yet, does not make us equal to God. With that established, let's establish why we are not equal to Him. That answer is simply this: love. To fully love, is to also fully love and respect ones self and individual uniquity. Finally, because we are merely perfected in His image, and not perfect as Him, our Free Will makes us vulnerable to turn away from His gifts and graces, thus concupiscence is more of a side effect of our imperfections, and not a direct creation of God's. We are His creations. Whereas our actions are our OWN creations, thus concupiscence is NOT God's creation. 

 

^^^bet that was more theology than you ever thought you'd read on a dating site. ;)

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2017 11:30 PM

Quoting CRLegirl:

I'm more or less referring to the ancient Latin views which John Lee has studied. :) http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/the-ancient-​greeks-6-words-for-love-and-why-knowing-them-can-​change-your-life

I wish I could say I'm full of agape, sadly I'm a bit of a recovering co-dependency to practice that in a healthy way. But, ludus is the most invigorating for me, and the one I would want the most of for very selfish reasons. :)

I'm sure there's a certain love reserved just for Google. lol

As for the question about God rationing "love"...? Simply put, no. His capacity for love, and the capacity of the universe for love is infinite. As humans we feel the confusion and restrictions of things like love, but that's merely because we suffer from concupiscence. That affliction creates a battle within oursevles, which gets played out in the world around us because we get confused by everything.

@CRLegirl Ludus - Ah ha! you are a hippie by heart...kidding :) based on what I have learned about you so far, "being playful" for sure suits you. As far as no commitment, that is a wishful thinking on your part. You got married once (for whatever reason), you will settle down again eventually.

 

Google is loved by God. Google stands for, "God's Own Official Guide to Locating Everything" :) lol Ok, let's have a heated debate about God. Shall we? :) I am agnostic, border line Atheist. if God really loved Adam he would have made him Eva, not Eve..lol

 

If I agree with you that we suffer from "concupiscence", well God created that also. Why? :)


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Posted on Wed, Sep 13, 2017 04:53 PM

I'm more or less referring to the ancient Latin views which John Lee has studied. :) http://www.yesmagazine.org/​happiness/the-ancient-greeks-6-words-for-love-and​-why-knowing-them-can-change-your-life

I wish I could say I'm full of agape, sadly I'm a bit of a recovering co-dependency to practice that in a healthy way. But, ludus is the most invigorating for me, and the one I would want the most of for very selfish reasons. :)

I'm sure there's a certain love reserved just for Google. lol

As for the question about God rationing "love"...? Simply put, no. His capacity for love, and the capacity of the universe for love is infinite. As humans we feel the confusion and restrictions of things like love, but that's merely because we suffer from concupiscence. That affliction creates a battle within oursevles, which gets played out in the world around us because we get confused by everything.

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Posted on Wed, Sep 13, 2017 11:43 AM

Quoting CRLegirl:

lol. Love rations to curtail the irrational.
If only we had the infinite power to ration the six types of love with something other than free will.


@CRLegirl - Didn't God ration "love" also?

I am assuming you are referring to John Lee's 6 love definitions. Agape, Ludus, Storge, Eros, Mania, Pragma.

Which love path would you take? why and why not the others?

p.s. Google is my best friend.lol


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Posted on Wed, Sep 13, 2017 06:31 AM

lol. Love rations to curtail the irrational.
If only we had the infinite power to ration the six types of love with something other than free will.

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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2017 08:35 PM

Quoting rmac22:

When you truly love someone you have handed them the power to destroy you.  If the love is mutual they have handed that to you as well.    


Hmm..by above definition;

 

Love = Destruction
God = Conditional love else destruction.

Fire = Love as long as you don't touch it.

 

Who came up with the affiliation of roses with love? It sounds all about destruction...oh wait a minute, I forgot all about the thorns..hmm :)


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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2017 07:56 PM

When you truly love someone you have handed them the power to destroy you.  If the love is mutual they have handed that to you as well.    


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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2017 02:13 PM

Quoting CRLegirl:

:)
it's nice when people can agree...
and democracy? geez, that could be a whole other topic discussing how our "democracy" has turned into "who is the wizard behind the curtain"


@CRLegirl - may be we should ration, "love"??? :)


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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2017 07:24 AM

:)
it's nice when people can agree...
and democracy? geez, that could be a whole other topic discussing how our "democracy" has turned into "who is the wizard behind the curtain"

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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2017 08:39 PM

Quoting CRLegirl:

I think love is poorly understood by many,
freely abused, and all too frequently our intellects are brushed aside for feelings of "love" which is a terrible biological ploy to convince the rational of the irrational....at least that's my slightly jaded view.


CRLegirl - I have to totally agree with you and it is probably one of the most misused words out of any other miss used words sush as, "My friend", "Best Friend", "trust me" (love that one), "we live in a democracy"..Opps sorry slip of tongue. 


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2017 01:48 PM

Quoting Kaycheri:

all of that.....and or, run full speed off a cliff, feel exhilarated and free, and trust you will land unharmed = love

Thelma and Louise? :)


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2017 11:04 AM

I think love is poorly understood by many,
freely abused, and all too frequently our intellects are brushed aside for feelings of "love" which is a terrible biological ploy to convince the rational of the irrational....at least that's my slightly jaded view.

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Posted on Sat, Sep 09, 2017 04:04 PM

all of that.....and or, run full speed off a cliff, feel exhilarated and free, and trust you will land unharmed = love

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Posted on Sun, Aug 20, 2017 10:36 AM

Quoting rmac22:

No.  That would just be another list to argue about.   



Good point. Perhaps there is a fine line between discussion and argument.


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