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Posted on Jun 01, 2014 at 06:26 AM

Seinfeld: George Costanza:  "Sure Women want equal rights, right up until the Dinner Bill comes!!"  Made me laugh!

 

This is becoming a popular dating question.   Don't get me wrong, but if one person asks the other out for dinner, the asker should pay for the dinner, however I run across a lot of women who say "Lets meet for dinner."  (First time date) And you can sure bet the Guy is most alway expected to pay for dinner.   However these days, a lot of women are knocking down a pretty good pay check also.  So I would like to hear feed back on this Questione specially from Women:  Should the First Dinner date be Dutch Treat - where each pays forthier own meal?    Your thoughts?  Thx.   


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Posted on Mar 19, 2019 at 06:52 AM

Valetino, I agree 100%. If his is now i can't imagine living with him. Everything is a split.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 07:58 PM

Dude. That’s a tacky question. If you have to ask then it’s no wonder you’re still looking. A gentleman pays without question. If she’s offended then she’s not my type. It’s a matter of meeting and getting to know one another. If you’re concerned about who’s paying then why are you on this site? Sorry. Cheap all over that blog.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 06:16 PM

If things didn't go well on the first date . what's the point to continue for second date. ? It'll only wasted my times and yours....right? Plenty of food at home to enjoy and great relaxation with no dramas....lol

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 06:12 PM

Just coffee or a drink is fine on the 1st meet and greet, but you pay. I'm old fashion .

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 05:41 PM

I love a chilvary, yes a gentleman. Yes, I love a man paying for dinner. I been offered many things but if there's no chemistry after the 1st date, what is one to do. I'm honest, I move on I wouldn't waist no one time or continue just for dinners. Not everyone is looking for deep pockets, I work very hard for what I have. But many man just want a barbie, instead of a real woman. A woman that has an opinion, is respectful, trustworthy and loyal. Even though a woman is hard working and dedt free, it doesn't matter. As long she's young and beautiful and a golden digger, I know many. Ladies I'm not putting you down, different strokes for different folks.
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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 03:32 PM

The men's wealth shows his characters, a leadership of his queen to be and his family for the future together.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 03:22 PM

It isn't just get marry for just a show and tell things .....ok. Guys..

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 03:11 PM

I agee Andyla

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 03:10 PM

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....lol lots of guys on here and everywhere else in the world are looking for to marry women as to use them in everyways possible. I don't like lazy men/people either.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 11:02 AM

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I also know Guys who will refuse to marry a woman unless she is debt free and has a career/ decent professional job.   Plenty of freeloaders out there, Women and men looking for a Free ride.  I don't like lazy people who refuse to better themselves, and expect the man to pay for everything.    


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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 11:00 AM

I would say not to think about this,isn’t it better you meet for coffee or a hike ?
I prefer that anyways in case you never see a person you don’t owe them anything and it’s more casual

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 10:59 AM

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OK so the Guys bought you dinner and then you never saw them again after that eh?  That is not successful dating lady.    If you had to pay for every guys dinner how often would you go date?   bwhahahahahaaaa  This has nothing to do with a guy being a Gentleman, It says you are cheap and fail to participate on the date, beside you bringing your appetite.  That's unclassy. 


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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 07:48 AM

We human can consumes food while we are alive and feeling good. When we are at the stage of not feeling good and not alive ...meaning dead. We can't eat or do nothing we all wish or dreams of wanted to do. Some single men and single women do eat alone most of the time. Because jobs/work life , family etcs has became too hectic and took over human lives. I say lets just keep the good, old traditional alive and enjoy each other company while we all still alive and breathing ok. So link up and be good and kind to each other. Im a free spirited person. Love to cook and like to eat good and love good companies.I like people loves animals, used raise most of them. My parents are all gone. So be cheerful and think of good things to do or say to each other and celebrate life , each day while we are still alive and breathing.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 07:19 AM

Do enjoy the monent we all human still have and apreciate every day that we all are living, breathing the fresh air each and everyday love each other and repects each other , be nice and kond to each other more goes a long ways. Everything people have or didn't have nobody can take nothing with them when they're gone. So be nice and kinds to each other.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 07:07 AM

My past dates. They are some great men i've meet and they are the true business men and some are well known. Lol i asked them what do i need to take with me ?...know what they all told me before went on the dates ? Nothing, just dress sexy , classy and be pretty for them. And all of them men they all are gentlemen with class all the ways and treaded me with repects too. So to sum it up gentlemen don't be cheap on your first date adpecially. The first impression means and speaks a lot for itself amd for your own reputation as a true gentlemen...the teal men should be.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 06:55 AM

Very good Maxmarquis07 and Keivin1971 that's the real gentlemen should do as always pay for the ladies no matter what. Do conserves the true old traditional real men. Im Thai and a real woman...our tradition men took care of everything and women never need to worries about a thing.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 05:15 AM

The gentleman paying has nothing to do with finance, IMO. On a first meeting, wouldn't you still open a door for her? Pull out a chair? I view paying as similar....it's a courtesy. If she insists on dutch or her treat, resist once. If she expresses her desire a second time, go with her suggestion as it is obviously important to her.

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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 12:29 AM

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You are right there too Anelee.    In reality the first date should be just a simple coffee meet up or simple lunch.  Now if some woman wants a guy to take her out for dinner, then what is her motive?  To meet the man, or just to get fed a nice meal.     I had a women tell me, they see how many free nightly dinner meals they can get out of men per week, and then they compare with their girl friends.    SO you know, I am on to this gig, and why I require several phone calls to see if I even like the person to meet up to begin with.   Some women don't want any phone conversations and just want to meet at a restaurant.   I refuse to do that.    Every situation is a little different and I would at least like to know if this woman is sincerely looking to meet me, or just out to get fed a free meal.  

 

But this concept of each pay their own way on the first meet up I think would be very successful.   I think it would greatly increase men and women meeting up more freely more often, and remove this obligatory men pays nonsense, and if each knew they would be paying for their own meal, they would be more genuine in a venue selection that would make both happy.    Its a good discussion here.     


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Posted on Mar 18, 2019 at 12:15 AM

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I think you nailed it Matthew.  The first time is just a meet up to see what the other person looks like and how they act.  Its not, I already owe you something because you showed up.   And then if there is no connection then no harm for either, and both can walk away clean, without someone feeling like they got ripped off.     I think more people would meet up if each was responsible for them selves on the first meet up.  Why is the man already responsible for someone he never met yet?  And how many times I met someone on tis site, that looked nothing like their photos, then have to pay for their meal and feel defrauded?    Also notice how a lot of comments on here by women differ according to origin.  American women think they deserve it, European women understand respect of a relationship and earn it, and like a level playing field.  I guess its how you were raised.   

 

Otherwise, if this is how it works, that the man owes immediately just because, then when you first meet, just throw her your car and house keys and run, and skip the $10K in divorce Atty fees.  lol   

 

Don't get me wrong here, in the past, I have paid plenty for women, houses, cars, trips, jewelry, clothes, her kids, plane tickets, boobs, credit card payments, dinners, you name it.    I kind of like being single..   lol   


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