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Posted on Apr 03, 2007 at 06:23 PM

I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions. For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting. The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.

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Posted on Feb 16, 2019 at 06:24 PM

My take is how does ones action has so much power over one that it pushed them to cheat? Cheating is like slapping your self expecting the other person to feel it. If you are not happy and with several conversations nothing changes isn’t the right thing for you to walk away as the relationship no longer serves you.
Narcissistic individuals wil day they make me do it but in essence that’s just your character flawed

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Posted on Feb 14, 2019 at 06:56 PM

I am of the following opinion:

 

I personally believe that the reason men cheat is as simple as they choose to cheat! They have two choices: 1. to cheat. 2. Not to cheat. It is at their own discretion which path they opt to ‘choose’ at any given time. ‘Reasons’ for cheating are nothing more than ‘excuses’ for cheating! If people are unhappy in their relationship, they have the option to walk away from it, be outside of the relationship and enter into any other behaviour they seek. This would not be cheating. However, to stay in a relationship and continue to pursue another is as simple as ‘choosing’ to do so.

 This type of behaviour does not deserve an ‘excuse’, much like criminal acts that are committed. There is no ‘excuse’ to commit a criminal act, much like there is no ‘excuse’ to commit adultery. At most there are mitigating circumstances, but this does not justify the act, it merely demonstrates that the person had a choice but for one pending reason or another opted to go with the ‘wrong’ choice.

 

I have never been cheated on, nor have I ever cheated on any other, for the simple reason that I choose not to. If I am unhappy with an element of a relationship I opt to walk away, as opposed to stay committed and choose to cheat.

 Cheating shows a lack of morals and principles. It is a degrading character flaw. Men have no more needs than women do! Yet justification and reasoning is sought for their behaviour by way of an excuse of how a woman made them feel. ‘She drove me to it’ is by far the worst excuse I’ve ever heard. Men need to be ‘man enough’ to accept that they cheat because they choose to! The only exception is being under duress!

 

Those are my thoughts, feel free to disagree or agree ;-)


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Posted on Feb 12, 2019 at 08:37 AM

The men’s cheat because it’s attractive to a beauty and body.... then come the rest... but if the woman’s doesn’t give the men’s what he wants.... he will go.....and find what the fantasy allows men to looking for... good luck. It will be very interesting book. Do not stop 🛑 make it happen for the woman’s. 🙏🏼

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Posted on Feb 12, 2019 at 04:35 AM

Well, we all have our opinions and it's only an opinion. So, here is my opinion. I currently have been with a woman who is an escort. She tells me she loves me. Every day she tells me those words. Then, those words do mean a lot. But again, they are just words of love. She and I haven't had sex for over 6 months. Every time I make an advance, there is always something that is not right to let us enjoy each other. Yet, she always have me feeling as though she really does love me. As of yet, I haven't cheated on her even though I have seen other men with her knowing what she is doing. Yes, it kills me and really hurts inside but I still love her. Now, she has moved back home with her mother and brother and his girlfriend. We hardly talk anymore. Yet, I'm still faithful. Now, here is the kicker. Yes I have thought of cheating on her. Why? I miss the intimacy, the touch, the kissing, the feeling of being special to this woman, the caressing and hugging. When she was living with me, we cuddled every night and held hands along with intertwining our feet. The smell of her, the touch of her ass up next to my stomach, gave me the feeling of love. There is nothing better than having your woman lay as close to you as possible where you smell her hair, her skin her warmth and most of all, her heart beat. Even though I love this woman, she and I will not have a life together, for her heart is not at the same intimacy and affection and sincerity as mine. I know this to be true. Yet I have been faithful to her. Will I cheat on her? The answer is no but when I do see another woman, our relationship will be the same, friends. The new woman will most likely have my full devotion if it isn't a one night stand. See, men require certain things from a mate. A man can be faithful to the end because he has the choice. But he will cheat because he chooses to. This will give him what he desires so much from his woman that he is not receiving. A man needs the touch and love of his

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Posted on Feb 09, 2019 at 05:47 PM

Hm! 💏 someone else new is seen 💪 to some degree.

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Posted on Feb 06, 2019 at 04:29 PM

I have an older friend. He is in a sexless marriage and cheats. Not often and with one co worker. He says he loves his wife and is very careful not to hurt her. I wonder if it is him who is only in the wrong ? If you are denied passion, intimacy, feeling wanted isn’t it normal to seek it somewhere else. I’m not saying it’s right. I just think I cannot judge. Every situation is different

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Posted on Feb 03, 2019 at 01:12 PM

Here.I have never cheated my boyfriend. Not everybody is the same. I am not a cheater at all. Every relation is different. By my experience not men cheating but ,they are mommy boy, tbey are child at their minds; lazy , losers, a lot of reasons

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Posted on Feb 02, 2019 at 06:42 PM

@Author
completed agree. There are men with not brain and with no heart that enjoy made someone suffer and like cheat because some of them no know what they really want and do not give the value to the woman beside him

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Posted on Jan 31, 2019 at 03:30 AM

I think simply because they like  toothbrushes  want to try many mugs to make them feel better, look better, stand better.

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Posted on Jan 13, 2019 at 07:26 PM

Lololol, Its a dating site my man! How about discussing the holocaust??? Is this some twisted way of making yourself seem honest and trustworthy? How about try another direction in lieu of tossing everyone under the bus! Lolol. Can anyone say... bad form?

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Posted on Jan 08, 2019 at 12:23 PM

I agree with most of it


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Posted on Jan 06, 2019 at 03:20 PM

Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? Same basic  underlying reason for both sexes....... Something is missing. There is no one outside to blame. If you are in a relationship (married or not) and your partner is cheating, it is not the 3rd or outside person's fault. It has happened, or is happening, or will happen because needs are not being met. Plain and simple. Instead of looking to blame someone else, perhaps first one needs to look within themself or their relationship and see what is missing. Obviously, communication is a major item that will be missing. If more people would openly communicate about their intimate desires, there may be less deception and cheating, less bitter divorces, less marriages overall, or more open relationships. I personally am a very open-minded woman and am comfortable with my sexuality and in my own skin.  Too many people, men and women alike, do not realize the importance of intimacy and affection in a relationship. If your sex life is just "ok" or "good enough", DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! If you go into a marriage and the intimacy and affection have already left you craving more, it is not going to work. Why waste your time or the others. One will end up cheating and it will end in bitter divorce or you'll be in separate bedrooms but remain together for the kids or because you'll lose a fortune if you divorce her thus really, you end up unhappy. Your partner needs to excite, inspire, and make you feel good. They should respect, support, appreciate, and believe in you. If they don't, move along. It is our own choice to be happy or not, and everyday either side goes on making excuses or pointing fingers is just another day they are wasting. Time is valuable and you'll never get it back. If you're going to cheat, invite your partner to join or seek to find a solution. Cheers to all 


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Posted on Jan 04, 2019 at 03:16 PM

Quoting author:

I believe me cheat becouse their are too many women out there who flaunt at married men. It makes it hard for them to say no, when all they do at home is argue and bicker.


If a man cheats it is because he chooses to do so.  Yes there has to be a woman involved, but he like she has a choice.  Why he chooses to do so????  We can come up with a all kinds of reasons.  Still, usually no one is holding a gun to his head and making him do it. 

 

Why do women cheat?

 

 


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Posted on Dec 30, 2018 at 04:54 PM

Lol. My ex wife cheated on me during the engagement. She said she couldn’t marry me without telling me one month before the wedding. So women cheat just as much. As for men self esteem is not the best answer. Men cheat when their wives do not take care of their physical needs. Read the Bible and you will see that the woman’s body in marriage belongs to the man and vice versus. Neglect is a big part of the women’s liberation because women today do not know how to submit to their husbands. They want to be the husbands and that’s why many will remain single. Men want a wife not a roommate.

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Posted on Dec 30, 2018 at 09:29 AM

Let’s put it this way and sum this up with science by saying, there are only about 12 animals that stick to theory, “till death do us part.” HUMANS are not one of those animals. I would love to interview a penguin and see their take on the sitch.😂 With that being said, I think it is possible to be faithful to one person by choice. Logically, 98% of people in those situations have thought about what it would be like to be intimate or have a relationship with someone else.

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Posted on Dec 29, 2018 at 01:34 PM

People think sex fixes problems. It does not. People lack. Communication. When disagreements happen it's because both sides are hard headed and have to be right. It only makes matters worse. Then slowly that manafest inside and more things start to stir. It then exposed and then hate and rage become you. Then they loose feelings and some other person catches their eye. That personality or look or smile, it's who you used to be, but in someone else. That is why they go. If you just take down time and talk on both sides and LISTEN not just talk, then it doesn't happen. Relationship are give and take. Choose your battles. Remember that means some times just let it roll over your shoulder. If its a problem just talk about it. If its worth it, then make it work. If not, cut your losses and move on till you decide what it is in your life that you want.

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Posted on Dec 27, 2018 at 11:50 PM

I believe me cheat becouse their are too many women out there who flaunt at married men. It makes it hard for them to say no, when all they do at home is argue and bicker.

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Posted on Dec 27, 2018 at 02:51 PM

Because they were getting the same piece of meat time after time. It gets boring.


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Posted on Dec 27, 2018 at 04:24 AM

There are actually hundreds of excuses we can use as to why anyone cheats, but the truth of the matter is if we can't love and respect our creator as well as be true to him, how much more will we ever be true to one another.

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