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Posted on Apr 03, 2007 at 06:23 PM

I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions. For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting. The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.

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Posted on Apr 18, 2018 at 12:37 AM

Quoting Henry04:

Typically, if a man is cheating, it's because his needs aren't being met in that particular marriage or relationship at that moment.


 

@Henry04,

 

But why could we not be grown up and responsible ?!

Why concerned person can't talk and open up their

feelings for each other and look for solution to save their

marriage .. I for one prefer that kind of encounter because

whatever comes out ...I will respect the decision so I can

start to work out on me even if it hurts ..

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Apr 17, 2018 at 11:08 PM

Typically, if a man is cheating, it's because his needs aren't being met in that particular marriage or relationship at that moment.


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Posted on Apr 14, 2018 at 05:01 PM

that’s sad, why not find a woman that will fill all those insecurities..... A woman that will sex you like no other and fulfill every need and want you desire but it’s onoy give when she is treated correctly, when she is loved, adored, appreciated, and taking care of!!!! I never left any man unsatisfied but I’ve never been given a 100 percent why is that???

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Posted on Apr 13, 2018 at 12:04 AM


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Posted on Apr 12, 2018 at 09:16 PM

Midlife crisis or needing to feel like they still got it? Insecurity. Weak to temptation..

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Posted on Apr 11, 2018 at 12:32 PM

Quoting Licorice2012:

THAT IS A LOAD OF CRAP THAT MEN HAVE TO CHEAT!

WHAT FOR THEIR EGO

BY THE WAY NOT ALL MEN CHEAT JUST THE SCUMBAGS.



I think it is a crock of crap too.  First off a man has to have integrity or he simply is not worth the bother.  If he has integrity he does not cheat.  


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Posted on Apr 11, 2018 at 02:01 AM

THAT IS A LOAD OF CRAP THAT MEN HAVE TO CHEAT!

WHAT FOR THEIR EGO

BY THE WAY NOT ALL MEN CHEAT JUST THE SCUMBAGS.


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Posted on Apr 10, 2018 at 09:29 PM

Crazy is as crazy does. However to be or not to be is the question. Some are born crazy, some become crazy, some like playing crazy, many run from crazy, everybody hides from crazy,  I think or at least try to, this saga is endless.

 

 So I thank God for a sound mind, even from my youth I knew the difference, between good and evil. I was also blessed with family and friends that have been married since they were in high school. Never experienced another lover, excellent,  but I also have just as many family and friends that have been in and out of relationship their whole entire life, and they know that they are wild and not marriage material. But there are also some who who came to their senses and surrender to a life of love and happiness after denouncing their evil side. So we thank God for diversity but we also thank God for the knowledgeable difference between Good and Evil at a young age. 

 

 

 

To be or not to be, that's the question? 

 

 

Yours truly, Mr. Born1top...

Love and peace. 


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Posted on Apr 10, 2018 at 05:36 AM

That is such a prejudicial biased question.   Evey woman who ever came into the world needs a safe place for her heart and no woman who ever came into the world can give that to herself.  Our whole culture is twisted ... Young women marry young men and the truth is young men are worthless as husband material.  It is not because we are evil as young men but rather we have not yet reached spiritual maturity and we are unable to perceive that moment when a young woman is taking down all of her heart walls and completely giving herself to the man she believes is her beloved.  If he were spiritually mature he'd be totally hooked and locked in and would fall instantly and irrevocably in love with her and would willingly die to keep her safe and her heart safe... That's the way we men were designed but we don't get triggered into that response when we're young.  By the time a man in a marriage reaches spiritual maturity his woman no longer has the courage to give herself because she's had too many arrows in her heart from him and doesn't feel safe with him.  But once a man becomes spiritually mature he subconsciously knows that he wants a woman who can totally give herself to him and his wife no longer can.  So when another woman comes along and gives out those subconscious clues or signals that she could give herself to him (since she has no bad history with him) ... he may leap at the chance and if she gives herself completely then his wife has totally lost him .. If she could have given herself then she'd never lose him.  Women cheat for the conjugate reason... if she finds a man whom she thinks will be able to receive her heart ... she's likely to cheat, too.  And that's the way it is!   Our culture puts together young men and young women and that's just absolutely a recipe for disaster.  To marry, a man should be in his very late 20's to early 30's and should have reached spiritual maturity ... the woman should be 18 or thereabouts and she'll have the ideal love of her life.  This was the formula for civilized cultures for thousands of years and it built strong families great marriages and strong nations.  Nothing like we are today.  Our children are being caught in a terrible freezing wind and scattered from the family hearthstone like embers on a cold winter night.  


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Posted on Apr 02, 2018 at 07:57 AM

Both genders cheat !! My guess is because people are not happy with their current situations so they try to find something better. Most people cannot Commit to a relationship for what ever reason they give them selfs. Does it stem from child hood and what we see? I do believe it plays a big part. As a child you learn from the adults around them. You teach no morals or values you’ll have nothing but Kardashian’s running around. And  the fact that it’s so much easier now because everyone has a smart phone connnected to the internet! 


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Posted on Apr 02, 2018 at 12:38 AM

Quoting sexyme_4:

I am a man I cheat to support my two kids because where I am from life is hard and now I am back home it is more harder now then before. so that why I cheat at for fun or any other thing or reason


 

@sexyme_4 ,

 

That you are honest is good but do you think to cheat is good ?

To help your kids you can do other jobs and it doesn't justify your action ..

 


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Posted on Mar 30, 2018 at 07:27 PM

I am a man I cheat to support my two kids because where I am from life is hard and now I am back home it is more harder now then before. so that why I cheat at for fun or any other thing or reason

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Posted on Mar 29, 2018 at 07:49 AM

possibly true

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Posted on Mar 20, 2018 at 08:42 AM

I think men cheat bc they know they can get away with it. Its like, in their mind the woman loves them and wont leave them so they are more willing to risk it all

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Posted on Mar 17, 2018 at 04:12 AM

Quoting Meli_B:

Baloney. As someone who has been cheated on, I say men cheat because they want to. it’s when they lose the w in we and it becomes me. There are many reasons that can cause this and I’m not saying the woman can’t be responsible for some. But the question no one seems to answer is why he just doesn’t leave if he is unhappy. Cheating is for self-absorbed cowards who don’t care who they hurt. When they are fathers it is especially disappointing as we are supposed to be good role models for our kids.


 

@Meli_B ,

 

I agree with you ...Cheating had so many reasons ...either its just for fun or marriage is on the rock..but its sad when children 

are involved ..but as we always say " it takes 2 to Tango " ..

 

I got 2 situations which I gathered 2 wks.ago . A guy told me he

have cheated once but has nothing to do with love ..I was quite 

surprised with his opinion but irritated..I told him it doesn't matter why he did it but he cheated on her and told him likewise

then he doesn't love him ..Another situation a woman asked the 

advice of a Psychologist if she can tell her friend that his wife is

cheating on him ..the Psychologist told her to shut her mouth 

because maybe the cheating could be the solution to their problem..

 

Hmmmm what weird opinions but each on their own ..


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Posted on Mar 16, 2018 at 11:56 AM

we all fail at times, but do not continue in it, better your self, tedpect yourself and the best is yet to come

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Posted on Mar 13, 2018 at 04:21 PM

Baloney. As someone who has been cheated on, I say men cheat because they want to. it’s when they lose the w in we and it becomes me. There are many reasons that can cause this and I’m not saying the woman can’t be responsible for some. But the question no one seems to answer is why he just doesn’t leave if he is unhappy. Cheating is for self-absorbed cowards who don’t care who they hurt. When they are fathers it is especially disappointing as we are supposed to be good role models for our kids.

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Posted on Mar 12, 2018 at 02:11 PM

It doesn't get better as the years go by.

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Posted on Mar 11, 2018 at 09:11 PM

Sorry dude...if you are gonna write a book...get a really good proofreader...be well


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