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Why Men Cheat !!!

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1 year ago
I cheat because women are just so damn beautiful.
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why men cheat..thats pretty easy..if they are NOT getting enough sex at home then they go find it else where..women do the same thing...dont kid your selfs.if your sex life at home doesnt keep your interest then you go else where (male or female)
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I think one of the biggest problems about cheating today is that it has become a "norm" in society. The last statistics i heard was running neck to neck at about 54/48%. Society as a whole has a lot to do with cheating on your spouse. It's become so easy to divorce. You really do not need a good reason. People have become more shallow. There are both men and women who need to have an adventure. Everyones doing it!. The "character" aspect has been broke. Sometimes it is torn down by an individual. Sometimes it is the person themselves. They make any excuse they need to feel "ok" with doing it. Marriage takes work and so many do not want to work at it. When the problems start they easily can change you for a "new model". It's not always about the sex. That's just an excuse. I have known women who have told me that the sex was phenomenal and it still happened or they divorced. Of course other reason could come into play here. But the one common denominator is the world has changed. The morals have become almost nil in this country. Everything is legal or at someones beck and call. So in essence it's your character/stamina/morality/beliefs that will keep you faithful. If any of these start to crumble then you are now in that 54% probablility
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Monk:

Has anyone considered, maybe the guy is a jerk?
Maybe Im old-fashioned. (My OS was built in the 50s). But I believe in limitations. If one has a honest partner,one should be darned grateful, and live within ones boundaries. In my opinion, there is still a lot of room to 'jump and run', within that relationship.
Of course, in my case, I still have to find the good woman....


Larry

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1 year ago
I cheat at Poker.
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1 year ago
Monk.....you are brilliant. I have no comments except that I think you are a extremely resourceful entrepenuer and you're cute too!

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I feel most men cheat on their sig others b-cuz they don't get their sexual desires met. If your partner is satisfying you to the fullest extent you have no reason to stray.A satisfyied man a happy man.
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1 year ago
Shannon gave some great insight, and it applies to both men and women who cheat. And often with women that cheat they even perceive that they are 'in love'. Just like Shannon said, its a 'void'. Sometimes like a 'hole in your heart'.

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So tire of the why men cheat deal. I been with the same woman for 25 years and i just found that she cheated on me for the 3rd and final time. I'm sick of men being called dogs. If that's the case it's B@#$% that breed us! Please forgive me for the comment. Women look at lifetime tv which bash men all day long and then thats what they expect to get. I have put myself back in the mix to find someone who appreciates a man who is a one woman man. What I have gone through icould fill that one day amonth where lifetime tv shows the women as bad and the men good.

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So tire of the why men cheat deal. I been with the same woman for 25 years and i just found that she cheated on me for the 3rd and final time. I'm sick of men being called dogs. If that's the case it's B@#$% that breed us! Please forgive me for the comment. Women look at lifetime tv which bash men all day long and then thats what they expect to get. I have put myself back in the mix to find someone who appreciates a man who is a one woman man. What I have gone through icould fill that one day amonth where lifetime tv shows the women as bad and the men good.

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Monk...

Still going strong... i SEE... Monk, why don't you bring your friends to the political blogs, so they can get fired up, and maybe we'll all see next year...

That would be nice.. : )
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Cheating is an attempt to fill an insatiable need some people have due to poor self-esteem. I've read a couple of responses alluding to a 'hole' men are trying to fill. Much like an addiction, the person feels a void in their chest, somewhere where their heart should be, and in futility he or she tries to fill that void with material, physical, spiritual, emotional or sexual satisfatiction. But just like addiction, the more you feed the monster, the bigger it gets. Sometimes it's easier to just numb oneself to the void altogether. Substances, alcohol and other forms of "fulfillment" don't fill that void, but if the void is big and it hurts, numbing it for awhile is a huge relief. You have to ask; does my self-esteem come from my own perception of myself and how much I value myself, or does it always come from the outside; from conquering the unconquerable, acheiving the unacheivable, and attaining the unattainable. If I conquer you because I think you're hot, it was never and never will be about you. You are an object I'm trying to fill my void with. And it doesn't fill it, but maybe it'll make you forget it's there for awhile. Just an object; like the house I thought I could never afford, the trip I thought I'd never take and the person I thought I'd never get. So self-esteem is part of the bottom line. If I don't have a void because my self-validation comes from a healthy self-image, good friends, spirituality and unconditional love (from family, spouses, children, a higher power, etc.) then getting that house and 'landing' that hot guy is just icing on the cake. And self-esteem is obviously another topic altogether, rooted in childhood and sustained by a healthy ratio of nature vs. nurture. Men cheat if they are unhappy with themselves more often than if they are unhappy with their partner. And they know they are doing something wrong, which eats away at their self-worth and esteem and on goes the cycle. Plus, conquering tells me "I still got i...

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Thanks Steele Magnolia... very good points. I will include your ideas in our survey questions.
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realmendonotcheat.
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1 year ago
A T-shirt for sale in New Orlean's sums it up.....


"Boy's are stupid...let's throw rocks at them."


Susan
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1 year ago
Dear Monk,
Was thinking about the cheating and left out one of the most important parts of the marriage being destroyed...the children.
I stated that my ex and I have become friends.
What I failed to mention is the outcome affecting our children.
They do not forgive their father.
Both are grown, both in college, and have basically written him off as a parent. They do not listen to his advice, barely talk to him on the phone, and just don't care at all about his life.
So, when you write your book, you should include something about how cheating affects the children involved.
It hurts me to see them act out, but I cannot change their thoughts about it all.
Just keep it in mind. Thanks
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1 year ago
cheating can be an easy alternative to trying to sort things out through the bad patches , also I think some men have an insatiable appetite for sex , they find it challenging and exciting or don?t know they are apart of a monogamous couple especially if it?s a new relationship.
But I think all men know that cheating is wrong and disrespectful and in the main they do it because they are scumbags.
I dont & never will understand why they dont just end the relationship 1st .
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Monk..
What I find interesting...
Those married guys that need that bottomless hole filled... are...

Blinded by Jealousy... if a hot, handsome guy just looks his wife's, or girlfriend's way...

Talk about a double standard !! Which leads me to believe, those men just think of the women in their lives, as possessions, and are therefore worried about theft !!!

Keep those valuables locked up, for safe keeping...

huh ? : )
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1 year ago
I can only give you my own story as to why my husband cheated. We even sat down and discussed it.
He was a young, struggling physician who was starting to build his practice when we married. It was our common goal to devote ourselves to the business. Always making long-term plans.
As the years passed, we had turned into a business partnership, money talk, bills, taxes, etc. constantly. Once that happened, it seemed as though the romance had just gone out of the relationship. We were a business, not a marriage.
So, he found a younger woman and that was that.
Funny thing about it all is that he still only trusts me with the business stuff. We chat about ideas and still the trust remains.
I have forgiven him the cheating, although we are finished.
But, in the end, we remain good friends.
I always swore that business would never get in the way of the romance again.
Sad when a 20 yr marriage falls apart like it did.
But, that's life! I fully accept my part of the blame here.
Again, that is just my story. Others may differ. I believe that love and fidelity depend on both partners.
My ex is a good man. As a doctor, I trust him with my life.
Maybe we are strange that way.
Just one woman's opinion
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Why men cheat.Number one Because they can and if they have a willing partner. It is sport to them and it is the as they will say the manly thing to do. Or they are insecure and need as many notches in their belt as possible.Next they cannot resist a pretty woman that probably want them for other reasons than to sleep with them They are too dumb to know how smart a woman can be.
Men certainly so not cheat for they think they feel love. However women will I don't know if men know this but many older women know about the cheating but love the security and love the fact they do not have to even bother with older men on meds or an artifical devices to have sex IT IS A MAJOR TURN OFF TO US. SOOO they keep the security and let him do as he pleases and guess what the joke is on him. When a man cheats a woman never ever forgives. So if u are one of those men that supposes to clear his mind and tell the little woman Spare her!!Keep it to your self.Why is it men spend so much time trying to impress a total stranger of how good they are and never did that to their wives? Oh yes I have been married (2) times and cheating was'nt our problem.If I wanted to cheat I would leave first and u should too.A cheat is a cheat and will always cheat on the pretiest sexy woman.

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