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Why Men Cheat !!!

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1 year ago Total posts: 1
Ha! Love it !:)
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No respect for their partner...... No moral values. Enough said!

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I was married to someone who cheat for 15years of our 25 yr marriage. He is a golf pro and worked out of state most of the time. It boiled down to him not communicating and having no family values. His needs always came first and he never understood that once you get married and have a family you are supposed to respect your partner, hold your family dear like they are the most important thing in your life and communicate. He was a classic narcisis and I tried everything to make things work for our family. He walked out and then we agreed to try and work on the marriage and the three months I tried even harder to make life great. I could not let our daughter see him treat me with so little value. I found out the entire time he was onBumble having breakfast, lunch, dinner and coffee with other women. We spent Christmas together because our daughter was born on Christmas Eve. She  turned 19 and he didn't bother to buy her gift for her birthday or for Christmas, he just told her he didn't know what she would like. It is very sad that he did not know either of us or cared enough to at least get her a gift from her father. She's a college student, he could've given her money instead of a blank card. After that day I found emails and text messages that he had been sending to several women all at the same time for months. I filed for divorce and he was angry even though he walked out and was cheating. He was angry that I have filed for divorce, he just wanted to walk away no responsibility.  I find it very hard to be angry. I just want him to go away and be happy so my daughter and I can move on with my lives. Unortunately it's very sad for our daughter because family means the world to her, actually both of us. I do not believe he will ever be happy because happy is not someone it is something you have to do for yourself. He will always be bitter and alone. That makes us sad for him but he threw away a perfectly good living family for some reason neither of us understand. Good luck to all of you who have ever been hurt/ crushed like this. May you find the other half of your heart.💗

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1 year ago
Cheaters cheat. Non-cheaters don't cheat. It's that simple. I've never cheated. It's not in my DNA.
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I have come to understand that men want respect, make money to sustain their family, and sex. keeps them going. but the ones who look outside may have experienced some imbalance within these 3, if not the urge to look out can be willfully died down.
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1 year ago
Why are you seeking out others to fill your books content???? Poor authorship! Boring!
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If a woman shuts down and won’t have sex,a man will start looking for someone else after some time,some of them they’ll cheat no matter what,they are just weak. I been cheated on,I hope I will never have to go through that again.
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Women cheat a hell load more than men!
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1 year ago
l think the best way to look at that is to ask what cheating means to you? Cheating your FEELINGS is more hurtful than other ways of cheating? l tried to be as elegant as l can about "other ways".
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I've never have cheated on a gf or wife. But just about every woman has cheated on me. They all thought they could have me and someone else. They also thought they would never get caught. Eventually it all comes out. I've learned to see the signs of cheating. Why can't women be happy with just one man? I will never understand that question. 😒
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1 year ago
I am also writing a book called "Why women don't give a damn"
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You won’t have to look far. Women cheat too. Probably more.
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1 year ago
Why men cheat? I think it is not right to search for some logics and answers in emotions and feelings. Because it does not happen that someone is asking a man: what are you going to do tonight? Oh, I will go cheating. Or I am thinking that it is about time to have some cheating, thus going to search for a woman. In most cases it happens spontanious and when you ask a man why you did it, answer will be: I don't know how it happened. Because the attraction, chemics, passion comes fast and unplanned, unthought, unexpected. And it is easy to be proud in front of friends what a hot man I am that this sexy lady was in my bed but can be the same proud in front of own child when leaving the family? It is very easy to buy some shiny things and "hunt" a new woman but it needs many efforts to make own wife shining after the hot night after many years in a marriage. I was also asking myself this question why man cheat and believing that if I try to be a perfect wife, being sexy and keeping my husband sexually satisfied and giving the freedom and making home a place where it is good to be without dramas, my man will never cheat on me. But I was wrong. It is not something you can control or ensure or explain. Relationship is 2 people and big investment by both. My ex husband cheated on me and after a while answered: I just wanted to try a new girl and I made a biggest mistake in my life. And it is 7 years he is apologising but more to himself as I forgave many years ago and was even grateful as with such action he made me realise that I also made mistakes and it made me a better person, better woman, and gave a chance to find a better man. We all have insticts and have many many many chances to cheat but the difference between people and other nature creations is that people got the inteligence to control instincts. I never cheated and it does not mean that men need more sex than passionate women. And what is the difference then? Why men cheat? Because they are weak
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1 year ago
Weak men and women cheat. You can be happily married; but if your easily flattered and like too much admiration you can fall out of Grace. Temptation is powerful. Family iniquities are also a reason. But someone has to choose to break the cycle. It all comes down to integrity and personal responsibility. Boundaries are made to keep you Healthy, happy and safe.
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1 year ago
Why most women don't care to know about why men cheat!!!

For the same reason noone cares to know why dog💩 smells bad.
IT JUST DOES! Step around it and keep moving.
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It's not cheating, if you have an open relationship.
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1 year ago
State of affairs - Esther Perel.
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They cheat for the same reason women do (and women cheat almost as much as men do).  They are unhappy.  It might be their spouses fault, it might be unresolved issues.

 

Note, I have noticed that there are two kinds of men that date women much younger than them:

 

1) Those that grew up heavily in demand (wealthy parents, tall, in great shape, handsome and got into a good college).  Women threw themselves at him his entire life and he never had to work hard to get a new girl.  Tjerefore they never valued woman for anything except beauty, so he always picks the prettiest woman he can get.

 

2) Those that grew up being rejected by women all the time.  They hit it big, earn a ton of money and try to redo their life by dating woman that look like the women that rejected them way back when.  Quote "Why should I date  old ladies that probably would have laughed at my face when I was poor when I can date these hotties?"

 

 

 

 

 

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1 year ago
There’s one class never taught in any school. It’s called relationships. So it’s learning on the fly. Human behavior and survival take precedent over good choices sometimes. Not just men, but all genders often opt to cheat when they are backed into a corner. Bad decisions arrive in fight or flight mode. Some see it as an easy quick fix. The numbers seem to prove its most often the worst decision.
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1 year ago
This is interesting stuff. People don’t come with owners manuals so communication is critical. When needs aren’t met people seem to find fulfillment in other ways. It’s their life. When spouses mentally and emotionally check out. The lines of integrity get blurred. If couples spent as much effort on their relationship as they did learning their profession- this would change. I believe that couples who are willing to work at it have dramatically less risk of a soouse cheating. People grow at different speeds and desires change. Planning for this in advance will save a lot of wasted time, money and heartache that causes irreparable damage that the next partner must deal with. Nobody really spends the time and effort required to align mutual needs and education so partners remain on the same page and life plan so shit happens. Sad but true. My ex shut off all opportunity of resolution, what does one do then. This is a behavior pattern she has had all her life. I can’t fix mental issues. Stayed faithful but just moved closer to happiness instead. Im sure i’m the same as many on here. Some guys just throw in the towel and seek satisfaction to soothe their ego. However, shortsightedness is expensive in multiple ways.