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Why Men Cheat !!!

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I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions.

For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly

For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting.


The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.
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My late husband cheated on me and all I did was give him 2 beautiful children and love him more than any wh$&@e ever could. I stayed with him because I loved him and wanted him. But I will never ever forgive him. Cheating broke my heart. I still loved him, but never again did I ever love him as deeply and completely like I did before the cheating happened. I mourned the loss of the innocent love more than the loss of him when he passed away years later after the fact. So men and women out there thinking that an affair don't hurt anyone, you are completely wrong. It destroys lives and families. The person or people hurt, stay hurt and never forget.
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Same reason some women cheat! Bored, not in love anymore or just a cheater .
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This question sounds a lot like asking why does dog💩 stink? Who cares? Step over it and keep walking.
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The most beautiful in a man is he is a polite gentleman and of course...honest and faithful...someone who cheat, man or woman, breaks the trust so better to be alone than with someone you cannot trust and build a team.
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I've been thinking about this because I think a couple can really make people do as many movies and videos as they see. Those people are lifelong love and never change.

 

 

In our real life, especially near and around me, I can see that few couples get along to the end. I find it very difficult for them, especially for men. The balance of the body needs and responsibilities determines what they are.

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December 24
Y do men think its ok to cheat what if a woman made that same decision is it wrong
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December 24 Total posts: 72
all I can say is LOL if you read my post things you can see that I believe that there is a lot of factors and it's on both sides not all men cheating on all women cheat even some people who were in a really bad marriage like I was I still didn't cheat because my heart can't change to the next person until I leave the one I'm with and I was in one of the most abusive physical and torturing physically and mentally marriages that you could imagine just in Criminal Minds. It's been 15 years and I've only just now telling some of my friends and family some of the things I went through but that doesn't warrant cheating. And your comment is saying because women withhold sex oh my God sex disappears when you don't get along it's not just about fulfilling your part the man has to perform to LOL and in my experience and most of my girlfriends than anybody I've ever known and the books I read women want sex just as much as men are you crazy. Even more so as they get older you don't know anything about women if you're saying that the only reason women withhold sex is let's see not to punish a man for not doing chores at some men think it's because the man can't perform and the man can't satisfy the woman and they're not withholding it on purpose there's just no desire to have it with a partner like that. Lol you are so completely off base and so wrong about what you're saying I'm sure your relationships don't work out I'm not trying to be mean but you need to do some research and actually ask the women you're with cuz it sounds like you're a cheater. And some women do lie and say sex is great with our partner and I will never do that. You can't fix something that you lie about. A good sexual relationship is not automatic just like everything else in life you have to talk about it has to be practiced you have a thing about your partner and everything else in life affects it because that's the way life is.
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December 24 Total posts: 72
why are you on here and why are you making this comments if your married if your divorce is not final yet you're still married
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2007 blog. I think it's just staying at the top has already keeps answering and now with all the old one showing up I can't see any new ones as far as blogs
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December 24 Total posts: 36

Really?. ...I feel  cheated somehow:-)

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Wow 2007??? Why is it a top of list?
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December 22 Total posts: 72
exactly. I made several comments as the post and posdibly the (his) book idea seems slanted in one direction and he is a man? Not that men cant give insight but odd. And totally disagree with his obe reasoning statement. To me its not a fragile esteem...that most iften comes from some tyoe of abuse or negativity...which creates the need for feeling loved....and humans mistake the closeness of sex without love....cgeating as being loved. You can get love....real love without sex....so the premise to me is wrong. Often times cheating....comes from a higger than normal sex drive such as in bipolars...chemical imbalance. I was married to one....did a lot of research and talking to his team of doctors. I shoukd write a book! Lol but all thinfs are not genrral...case by case basis is needed.
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December 22
it's like just leave at that point. When there's no sex the woman left emotionally a long time again even if she is still there physically. She doesn't wish to share intimacy and exchange energy anymore and Vice versa
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FYI this thread is now 12 years old. You are welcome to reply to it but most of the people who replied left MM many years ago.

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Had to take break there . I had to go back to the health. My wife is suffering asthma and very bruisable possibly blood pressure issues there. Could my touch her without worry . The desk at ehich she works is wide open but her legs were usually a bruise mark somewhere. Thus the young adult offspring feel its best they had only their mother to worry of. I am reluctant but am pushing forward for this. Change in life I am experiencing. Forgive me for I am only a man. Cannot fight with a loved one if only more heartache quotients from so.
If you truly love someone let them go.
But I really would rather fight for her but that means to keep her is to fight her which really is no sensible.
So be mature, responsible, got thirty years experience in how to and NOT to do things. Just get that goal achieved and take my life to its end of natural recourse. Love to all for reading thank you and may your book get the attention it deserves.
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Well men cheat because certain factors occur after a marriage.
Our age difference between Karen and I caused others to pun and damage our feelings 1) are you going home to your mom. 2) are you doing her daughter too.
Other reasons fall onto the offspring from earlier marriage 1) my daughter in-law she is awesome and a mother recently. Her husband well he's awesome but really set forth and couldn't carry a conversation with me very well. Only platonic boring stuff. 2) the son divorced and still had feelings for his father whom recently departed the resentment of the son and daughter kinda just hangs in the air my wife and I are just in the middle of this divorce and attitudes and the bottled up resentments just rub raw.
Also with the truck carrier and future expenses of health for a woman in her sixties and a man mid fifties a outlook into future expenses crushed vows for better or worse.
She wants to be over and out by March to may of this year. She has a new boyfriend and apartment in line somewhere. Possible a senior living gated community. She has never lived on her own but I encourage to empower this woman. I have a construction goal to complete and a niece that needed my help is soaking up some money.
I'm looking to achieve at least a friend and my goals plus some siblings that could need a boost.
Live laugh love comes from forgivenesses and mature confidence in self. Especially when alone. Many people get through with work but when holidays come around and you want to go to church it's nice to have that special someone holding that plate of cookies or singing in the vhoir
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Men cheat because their wives or girlfriends default on their side of the unspoken contract to provide sex.   

 

When this happens and the woman cannot be convinced to again involve herself sexually in the relationship then the man has no choice but to 

look outside the relationship for sex.   In truth this cannot be classified as cheating because she defaulted on her sexual obligation to her partner. 

 

How on earth could you suggest this as a reason for why mean cheat?   - 'to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.'

 

Only a blue-pilled-simp, white-knight, captain save-a-hoe, male apologist would write something like this.   Its pitiful.       

 

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And one more comment about that fragile sense of self esteem. You're saying that the men are fragile about their self esteem the other side of it would be if they're in a relationship with a woman that's condescending or berating them and makes them feel like they don't have a self-esteem because all of a sudden their partner is not treating them the way they should I'm not saying they should go cheat but sometimes people are beat down emotionally in a relationship and it's not always men abusing women that way sometimes it's women abusing men cuz I know a couple of men were in that kind of abusive verbal type of relationship. And maybe that drives a man to cheat but that doesn't mean they are typically fragile. Every relationship is unique. That's just another point of view because there's not enough information you seem to be speaking in generalities
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And that sentence that you put out there about they have to cheat for their fragile sense of esteem? I'm not a man and I find that insulting you are generalizing all men together all people together? Not to be mean but I don't think you should be writing this book! Have you taken any psychology courses talk to therapist interview people you can't just write a book based on your own personal opinion and expect us going to sell our people that I read it every book has to have research and Analysis in it people who even write fantasy stories do research.