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Posted on Apr 03, 2007 at 06:23 PM

I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions. For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting. The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.

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Posted on Feb 24, 2019 at 05:57 PM

Funny, my ex asked me this aftee he cheated on me. I dont think they even know. If you can find out, ill purchase a book. 😍

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Posted on Feb 21, 2019 at 02:15 AM

Not to say you cant find women fitting the same profile....but the blog is about dissecting the male mind. Lol....love to hear more....

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Posted on Feb 21, 2019 at 02:11 AM

Some men just lack the inability to maintain a committed relationship. Some men, lack sense of empathy, sense of boundaries, the value of monogamy, and simply unable to care about or appreciate consequences of their actions.

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Posted on Feb 20, 2019 at 07:42 AM

Strange is never better. It's just different.

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Posted on Feb 18, 2019 at 06:29 PM

I think it all depends on what values we have. Men or women cheats I think it’s different for everyone. We can cheat because sex doesn’t mean so much to us and we don’t feel guilt after doing it, that just doesn’t make you a good person. Some people cheat because they are stuck in relationship and it is just more difficult to get divorce than find a secret lover. Some men are more loyal than women it all depends on your agenda in life . If you are looking for healthy loving relationship you pretty much are not going to be a cheater. If you are looking for relationship that will give you some sort of comfort in life then you might go for someone else .

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Posted on Feb 18, 2019 at 02:53 PM

Well man cheats because they’re horny all the time.woman cheats because you’re unhappy.

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Posted on Feb 18, 2019 at 04:53 AM

@Author
good to know

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Posted on Feb 17, 2019 at 10:39 PM

Cheating is never based on the content to harm. I think it’s more of an “I can” then I want to. If candy is waved in your face and your able to eat it. In the moment it’s very easy to fall in and take it.
Woman today cheat way more then men and the reason for this is she is not getting what she needs. If I woman is completely satisfied she Won’t go else where and this is a Fact. Men cheat cause “they can”.
But I truly believe that if a man is fully satisfied in all aspects and is a happy man. Chances are they won’t cheat cause they don’t have the need too.
But in the end if you feel the need to cheat, then you should be living a single life. Their their is no need to cheat. Plus let’s be honest does anyone really wanna be with a cheater. My answer NO! Lol

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Posted on Feb 17, 2019 at 04:13 AM

Between the ages of 18 to 29, among married adults, WOMEN actually cheat more than men, according to The Institute for Family Studies.

After age 29, men cheat more.

Interestingly, over the last 30 years, women are cheating more. Just thought these facts should be included in a well-rounded discussion.

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Posted on Feb 16, 2019 at 06:24 PM

My take is how does ones action has so much power over one that it pushed them to cheat? Cheating is like slapping your self expecting the other person to feel it. If you are not happy and with several conversations nothing changes isn’t the right thing for you to walk away as the relationship no longer serves you.
Narcissistic individuals wil day they make me do it but in essence that’s just your character flawed

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Posted on Feb 14, 2019 at 06:56 PM

I am of the following opinion:

 

I personally believe that the reason men cheat is as simple as they choose to cheat! They have two choices: 1. to cheat. 2. Not to cheat. It is at their own discretion which path they opt to ‘choose’ at any given time. ‘Reasons’ for cheating are nothing more than ‘excuses’ for cheating! If people are unhappy in their relationship, they have the option to walk away from it, be outside of the relationship and enter into any other behaviour they seek. This would not be cheating. However, to stay in a relationship and continue to pursue another is as simple as ‘choosing’ to do so.

 This type of behaviour does not deserve an ‘excuse’, much like criminal acts that are committed. There is no ‘excuse’ to commit a criminal act, much like there is no ‘excuse’ to commit adultery. At most there are mitigating circumstances, but this does not justify the act, it merely demonstrates that the person had a choice but for one pending reason or another opted to go with the ‘wrong’ choice.

 

I have never been cheated on, nor have I ever cheated on any other, for the simple reason that I choose not to. If I am unhappy with an element of a relationship I opt to walk away, as opposed to stay committed and choose to cheat.

 Cheating shows a lack of morals and principles. It is a degrading character flaw. Men have no more needs than women do! Yet justification and reasoning is sought for their behaviour by way of an excuse of how a woman made them feel. ‘She drove me to it’ is by far the worst excuse I’ve ever heard. Men need to be ‘man enough’ to accept that they cheat because they choose to! The only exception is being under duress!

 

Those are my thoughts, feel free to disagree or agree ;-)


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Posted on Feb 12, 2019 at 08:37 AM

The men’s cheat because it’s attractive to a beauty and body.... then come the rest... but if the woman’s doesn’t give the men’s what he wants.... he will go.....and find what the fantasy allows men to looking for... good luck. It will be very interesting book. Do not stop 🛑 make it happen for the woman’s. 🙏🏼

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Posted on Feb 12, 2019 at 04:35 AM

Well, we all have our opinions and it's only an opinion. So, here is my opinion. I currently have been with a woman who is an escort. She tells me she loves me. Every day she tells me those words. Then, those words do mean a lot. But again, they are just words of love. She and I haven't had sex for over 6 months. Every time I make an advance, there is always something that is not right to let us enjoy each other. Yet, she always have me feeling as though she really does love me. As of yet, I haven't cheated on her even though I have seen other men with her knowing what she is doing. Yes, it kills me and really hurts inside but I still love her. Now, she has moved back home with her mother and brother and his girlfriend. We hardly talk anymore. Yet, I'm still faithful. Now, here is the kicker. Yes I have thought of cheating on her. Why? I miss the intimacy, the touch, the kissing, the feeling of being special to this woman, the caressing and hugging. When she was living with me, we cuddled every night and held hands along with intertwining our feet. The smell of her, the touch of her ass up next to my stomach, gave me the feeling of love. There is nothing better than having your woman lay as close to you as possible where you smell her hair, her skin her warmth and most of all, her heart beat. Even though I love this woman, she and I will not have a life together, for her heart is not at the same intimacy and affection and sincerity as mine. I know this to be true. Yet I have been faithful to her. Will I cheat on her? The answer is no but when I do see another woman, our relationship will be the same, friends. The new woman will most likely have my full devotion if it isn't a one night stand. See, men require certain things from a mate. A man can be faithful to the end because he has the choice. But he will cheat because he chooses to. This will give him what he desires so much from his woman that he is not receiving. A man needs the touch and love of his

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Posted on Feb 09, 2019 at 05:47 PM

Hm! 💏 someone else new is seen 💪 to some degree.

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Posted on Feb 06, 2019 at 04:29 PM

I have an older friend. He is in a sexless marriage and cheats. Not often and with one co worker. He says he loves his wife and is very careful not to hurt her. I wonder if it is him who is only in the wrong ? If you are denied passion, intimacy, feeling wanted isn’t it normal to seek it somewhere else. I’m not saying it’s right. I just think I cannot judge. Every situation is different

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Posted on Feb 03, 2019 at 01:12 PM

Here.I have never cheated my boyfriend. Not everybody is the same. I am not a cheater at all. Every relation is different. By my experience not men cheating but ,they are mommy boy, tbey are child at their minds; lazy , losers, a lot of reasons

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Posted on Feb 02, 2019 at 06:42 PM

@Author
completed agree. There are men with not brain and with no heart that enjoy made someone suffer and like cheat because some of them no know what they really want and do not give the value to the woman beside him

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Posted on Jan 31, 2019 at 03:30 AM

I think simply because they like  toothbrushes  want to try many mugs to make them feel better, look better, stand better.

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Posted on Jan 13, 2019 at 07:26 PM

Lololol, Its a dating site my man! How about discussing the holocaust??? Is this some twisted way of making yourself seem honest and trustworthy? How about try another direction in lieu of tossing everyone under the bus! Lolol. Can anyone say... bad form?

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