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What makes a woman intimidating to men?

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1 year ago
I would love to hear some honest answers to this question from both women and men, especially since I have been on the receiving end of the comment. (In my case my height and presence are the intimidation culprits.) Is the answer simply "too much"? Too much beauty? Too much tall? Too much intelligence? Too much success? Too much money? Too much fame? Too much infamy? Too much self-esteem?

What is the turning point from a trait being positive to a trait being intimidating? Or is the answer simply in the self-esteem of the beholder?

Thoughts?

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1 year ago
What makes women intimidating? Those little yappy dogs you guys are carrying around like handbags. Leave them at the pet shop and buy a purse.
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I think I'm realing here that it's nothing in particular. They just seem to disappear.
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OK Bryce is the guy for me!!! :)
I have a powerful career but it doesn't make me powerful or wanting to be powerful. I am successful without all that.

I want a man who will take me as I am and not run just because of what I do, how much I make or where I live...My career isn't WHO I am it is what I do.
I'd love to have a man interested in my day...just not sure what part of all this is intimidating to a man???

Again, Bryce...you've got what it takes!!!
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I've been trying to figure that one out for a lifetime. I give up. Just gotta be yourself -- if it doesn't fly it's their insecurities not ours.
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sam1956, I feel I'm letting you down since I don't know what to say, or what the 30% more work refers to.

I'm looking out at a city skyline lit up at night for miles with massive buildings conceived, designed, built, and maintained by men from a society based on philosophical, and legal and political concepts orginated by men trying to create a heirarchy so as to distinguish themselves from others, to attract women.

All of it, just to make women feel happy and safe.

Left to themselves, men wouldn't bother with most of it and would just be wandering around looking for good places to fish.
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I agree, smart men do find smart attractive, successful women fun and fasinating. I have never been intimidated by a woman. And I have dated women that were CEO's of a fortune 500 company. It's just getting to know the woman personally, that's the hard part. Alot of successful women haven't invested the time in a relationship before, and it can be a very long process getting to know, and having there turst in a man on a personal level. Some sacrifices have to be made for it to work, and sometimes it just doesn't.
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I'm only 5 foot 6 I haven't found a woman who intimidates me yet. Especially tall women. But I do look up to them.
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'Eternal'...

"work was constructed by men to impress women..."

IMAO...then why is it that women do 30%+ more work than a man?

I await your reply...this will be good...

PS: Men are TOTALLY intimidated by successful women...think about it...women don't HAVE to suffer the emotional selfishness a man may present because they have the financial where with all to leave or ask him to leave.

So sadly simplistic...
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'Eternal'...

"work was constructed by men to impress women..."

IMAO...then why is it that women do 30%+ more work than a man?

I await your reply...this will be good...
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'Eternal'...

"work was constructed by men to impress women..."

IMAO...then why is it that women do 30%+ more work than a man?

I await your reply...this will be good...
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Men find smart independent women very intimidating. Historically men need to be the provider, protector. If a woman can take care of herself they feel threatened by that. Hey guys, wouldn't you rather have an independent woman over some needy, whiny puppy running behind you!
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What makes you think they are intimidated?

I would think that "state of fear or anxiety due to perceived superiority of the other" is hard to know.

It may just be your conclusion, unrelated to what their real thought process is.

If you have a high opinion of yourself and aren't clued in to other people, it may just be you are hard to get along with, or not sufficiently interesting to the other person, and you are rationalizing.

Men generally aren't that concerned about your job or career in the sense it's not a criteria for a relationship. I don't care whether a woman is a company president or 1st grade teacher or unemployed or teaches basket weaving at the local college. It's not what the relationship is about, although certainly her interests and talents are to be respected and appreciated.

The secret women don't know is that the work world was constructed by men primarily so as to attract women. Fancy titles like "Head of East Coast Sales" and "Vice President of Strategic Planning" have no purpose other than to impress, attract and keep women.

But women have recently been so brainwashed into trying to imitate men, they think there is something more to it.

So when a guy meets some hard-charging female "Vice President of East Coast Sales" he knows (1) her priorities have been messed up and she's bought into and built her life around a lie (2) their relationship will inevitably boil down to calling each other on the cell phone to negotiate who's turn it is to pick up the kids at day care.

And with those realizations comes the thought ... "what's the point of being with her"?

You might think "intimidation", he might be thinking "pointless".
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Bryce - wanna' get married?
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1 year ago
Wow primemate, thank you for this. I appreciate your honesty, and the fact that you are willing to share. Thank you.
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Cateyes, uh oh! I do drive a big truck, but in Alaska it is necessary to get around in the Winter time! My summer vehicle is much less intimidating! BTW, thank you for your response. I really enjoyed reading it and am still smiling.
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DAMN Lombard... I thought we had it made for a moment!!! ; )
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I've been told that I am intimidating as well and I am not tall! I don't drive a truck and am not "manly" but work in a field dominated by men. I hold my own, I'm not afraid to speak my mind and it happens to be a pretty smart one...I am successful in that I have a great deal of respect from people around me but I never use it to make anyone feel less...isn't that a goal we work to get to...that kind of confidence? and yet it feels a little like being punished for it when men say this and don't want that second date. Am I supposed to work less...make less...think less...command less respect to be "datable"? C'mon guys, make up your minds.
I think it has something to do with men's relationship with mom but I could be wrong...what do the rest of you think?
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You know it is a sad thing i to have run into this problem, i have been told that i was very intimidating. I wasn't sure how to feel about it. way too much confusion.
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Too tall, too pretty, too confident, too much self esteem, too loving, too outgoing, too successful, YOU DON'T NEED ME! Yes, I do! But all of these qualities that made me so attractive to you, do not go away because I said, "I love you". I do not understand either. What happens when you surrender heart and soul. I don't need your money, I don't need you to solve my problems...I just want to relish and enjoy you. But it turns sour, why????