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I Don't Pursue Or Chase Men

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Sometimes,I meet men who I'm totally enamoured with, who don’t reciprocate these feelings. The best thing to do is to let it be and move on with life. But some of us can’t resist and give ourselves the challenge of nabbing him, using our feminine wiles – or anything else we have in our love arsenal. Yes, it’s the 21st century and it’s fine for women to make the first move but practically begging him to love you? That’s a no-no. Here are seven reasons why you shouldn’t chase him.

Probably not interested
If you have to pursue a man, there’s a high chance he’s not actually into you. It sounds harsh but it’s the hard truth. Men generally don’t need to be wooed and will be direct with you if they’re interested in you as a romantic partner. Even if they don’t say “I like you” straight to your face, it’ll be pretty clear to figure out that they’re attracted to you. You can’t force someone to fall in love with you so if you have to make an effort to try to get him to bewithyou, you’re better off not wasting your time.

He won’t treat you well
Well done to you if you manage to ‘catch’ him as a result of all that chasing but chances are, if you do get together, he’ll take you for granted. Since he knows how much you want him without him even trying, he might treat you like a doormat because he knows you’ll always be there for him. Okay, he might not actually trample all over you but it’s likely he won’t put much effort into the relationship and it’ll beaone-sided one.

It affects your self-esteem
When you’re chasing a man who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, it could end up backfiring and your self-esteem will take a hit. Not sealing the deal will make you lose confidence in yourself and your life decisions – “why can’t I do anything right?”, you might ask yourself. It could be all fun and games at the start but when you realise you’re not going to get him, it’ll be huge blow to your ego. Why set yourself up for getting hurtwhenit’s clear that the chance