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Help! I might have met a prince

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Okay, ladies and gents, here's the spill...I met a seemingly nice guy. He doesn't live too far away, so I'm going to go meet him. I know the dating rules have changed, so is it okay for me to travel there, without asking for financial help from him, since its not too far from me? What if it was far, is he supposed to send for me? We made it clear that I was not looking for a Sugar Daddy, although he is substantially wealthy. He even convinced me to google him. :)

Who pays for the trip these days? And what do I do to make sure I'll be safe? Can I bring my adult son to the initial meeting or is that too cheesy? We've chatted on-line and on the phone and he seems like a DREAM! But I don't want this to turn into a NIGHTMARE! What type of precautions do I take? I'm excited, pensive, and overwhelmed all at the same time. Can you help a sista out? We are going to dinner, wine-tasting and he said we can splash around in the jacuzzi if I'm comfortable...I might leave that one out, cause he's fascinated with my bootie! umm, can you say chocolate & vanilla SWIRL?!  Hee Hee! But I'm afraid the gluteus maximus might spill outta my swim suit and then we'll BOTH be in trouble. Hee Hee! HELLLP!!!

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Aw sister swirl!  good for you.  you are wise.......sorry about being direct but yes that is the way I am.......LOL  I know however some people might consider it untackful, I consider it to be the best policy........I only meant it in the best intention as it is acquard to have a man talking this way sometime when they haven't met you yet!  isn't it amazing you discovered so much in common?   see it shows him you are sophisticated and intelligent, a vaste knowledge.......swirl has moves!!!!!

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1 year ago
Quoting duchesse22

Ms. Swirl, get serious a little, why would you let a man talk to you sexually before you even get together with him?   don't let him do that, or he will expect a sexual relation right off from the beginning.  If that is not you, just say let;s not talk sexual and talk about other subject instead......wouldn't you like respect from him first, I sure enjoy an intelligent man first, I feel more attracted to it,  then if there is chemistry you two can do it later on????? LOL

Thank you for your directness. :) Girl, Mr. Frenchman actually seemed impressed that I had taken upon myself to research his company so in depth. I thought he might be offended, but instead he was impressed that I knew and understood his company, his patents, and the direction in which his company was going. It also helped that I had been studying and to some degree following the Hebrew religion since I was 15 and had raised my kids to keep the Hebrew holydays, diet, etc from birth. I raised them this way, but also taught them about Christ. Guess you can say, I raised Hebrew Christians, if that's such a thing!!! Hee hee hee! I'm a weirdo! LOL!

It appears that wealthy men are a bit defensive, because they have to make sure the woman is not a gold digger, but I assured Mr. Frenchman that what I have to offer in terms of a relationship, is rare...he'll be hard pressed to find it. I'm a very unique woman...very educated, spiritual, amibitious, self-actualized.  I happen to find wealthy men attractive, because I love their work habits and qualities...ambitious, timeliness, sincere, health-conscious, good credit (which tells me something about their character), focused, driven...of course I'm generalizing. I have the same qualities, but just not the money. Hee Hee. I don't see a lot of men with those qualities in my socio-economic status, unfortunately.

 I keep telling my wealthy suitors that I am a unique individual and to not think too highly of themselves...just like I got THEIR attention, I have 4,5, 6 others. Momma can have any man she wants!!! Soooo, it would behoove them to behave in a correct manner, or get ta steppin' for the highway!!! For some reason, this keeps them hanging on and in pursuit of me. So, to your point, Duchess22, INDEED, respect is imperative FIRST. I totally agree. Again, I sincerely appreciate how direct you were when addressing my dilemma! I LOVE it, sister!!! ;) Thank you.
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Quoting duchesse22

Ms. Swirl, get serious a little, why would you let a man talk to you sexually before you even get together with him?   don't let him do that, or he will expect a sexual relation right off from the beginning.  If that is not you, just say let;s not talk sexual and talk about other subject instead......wouldn't you like respect from him first, I sure enjoy an intelligent man first, I feel more attracted to it,  then if there is chemistry you two can do it later on????? LOL

Amen!!! In fact, that's just what I did last night and steered him off the subject of sex. It turns out that we had a lot more in common than we could have ever imagined. He is a French Jew!!! Wow. I studied the Hebrew religion and in fact, keep the Hebrew holydays (although I am a Christian)! I keep the seventh day sabbath, Passover, Feast of Unleavened Bread, Pentecost, etc. He was amazed!!! We talked for hours about his faith, his heritage, his family, etc., and I shared my faith and beliefs! We had a wonderful conversation. He apologized for his behavior and told me he was coming to see me, and we agreed to meet at a nice Thai restaurant in MY city! I'm not sure if there is a romantic connection, but it is nice to meet someone with whom I share spiritual beliefs!!! We even discussed his parenting syles (his child is young and my kids are grown) and the importance of being an active parent. When he called lastnight, I just firmly told him that I was tired of the sexual remarks and if he could not refrain himself, I would no longer talk to him. He snapped right out of it and I took control of the conversation by telling him that I noticed he spoke 6 languages, one of them being Hebrew and I noticed he studied in Israel. I asked him if he was indeed Hebrew, told him I had researched him, his company, etc, told him about his company, culture, etc and the conversation went from there! Indeed, we teach people how to treat us. Amen??? :)
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Quoting Arizona53

Votre femme aurait a parler a francais arriere pour vous, ou anglais fera?

L'absence des accents n'aide pas fait?

Je me demande, si vous tapez dans un document avec les accents et les couper / coller, si ils seront ici conserver?
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Ms. Swirl, get serious a little, why would you let a man talk to you sexually before you even get together with him?   don't let him do that, or he will expect a sexual relation right off from the beginning.  If that is not you, just say let;s not talk sexual and talk about other subject instead......wouldn't you like respect from him first, I sure enjoy an intelligent man first, I feel more attracted to it,  then if there is chemistry you two can do it later on????? LOL

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Quoting niceguylooking

parler a moi femme !

Votre femme aurait a parler a francais arriere pour vous, ou anglais fera?

L'absence des accents n'aide pas fait?

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Quoting CDinCO

Je parle fracais et espagnol (escrite "espanol" en espagnol)!!!

 

:)

 

@NGL, generalization, not assumption.  There are exceptions to every rule and I feel you are a HUGE exception just from what little we've interacted!

Courtney,, thanks sweety !!
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Quoting Arizona53

Tu parle francais?

parler a moi femme !
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Quoting sistercounselor

For real, Niceguy!!! Ooo, la la!!! Ayi yi yi, a French Papi!!!

Okay, I'll behave! Soooo, Niceguy, is it true that for Frenchman, sex is a part of getting to know your woman? I told my suitor to please try to hold off on the sex talk, but he can't seem to help himself. LOL! I admit, I'm very curious. But they say curiosity killed the cat.  LOL! So, I'll behave.

Sis,  Depends what part of the woman you want to get to know!  LOL

old trick, tell him to brush up on the moves !

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wow, NLG, je ne savais pas comme quois vous etiez francais???? interessant

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Quoting Arizona53

Tu parle francais?

Je parle fracais et espagnol (escrite "espanol" en espagnol)!!!

 

:)

 

@NGL, generalization, not assumption.  There are exceptions to every rule and I feel you are a HUGE exception just from what little we've interacted!

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Quoting duchesse22

LOL sister C, no booty call for you!!!! stay away from the jaccuzzi, and the nice invitation to my place!!!!  everyone gave you good advise. you excited, don't cancel it, just make it a nice night out, somewhere........I won't say of course he is french and wants you.......LOL.  Care about getting to know him and who he is.....I can only imagine Sister C ready with a BB gun......LOL  "touch me and I'll shoot you" 

well I have a cold and it is snowing alot here.

LOL! I love the bb gun idea!! LOL! Oh no, its cold and snowing there? Its sunny here in Northern Cali today. :)
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Quoting sistercounselor

Okay, ladies and gents, here's the spill...I met a seemingly nice guy. He doesn't live too far away, so I'm going to go meet him. I know the dating rules have changed, so is it okay for me to travel there, without asking for financial help from him, since its not too far from me? What if it was far, is he supposed to send for me? We made it clear that I was not looking for a Sugar Daddy, although he is substantially wealthy. He even convinced me to google him. :)

Who pays for the trip these days? And what do I do to make sure I'll be safe? Can I bring my adult son to the initial meeting or is that too cheesy? We've chatted on-line and on the phone and he seems like a DREAM! But I don't want this to turn into a NIGHTMARE! What type of precautions do I take? I'm excited, pensive, and overwhelmed all at the same time. Can you help a sista out? We are going to dinner, wine-tasting and he said we can splash around in the jacuzzi if I'm comfortable...I might leave that one out, cause he's fascinated with my bootie! umm, can you say chocolate & vanilla SWIRL?!  Hee Hee! But I'm afraid the gluteus maximus might spill outta my swim suit and then we'll BOTH be in trouble. Hee Hee! HELLLP!!!

Put simply, my preference is:  Offer to pay for 1/2 of the trip, make sure you stay in a hotel and tell someone where you are going, what the itinerary is, whom you are meeting (first and last name, phone number, etc). If he is a gentleman he will pay for the first date, you can always pay for subsequent ones.

 

Stay in control of yourself! You are the master of your own fate.....or fantasy!....LOL! But know that fulfilling the fantasy may not score you big points with the man.....Above all, think safe and you will stay safe!

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Quoting niceguylooking

Careful women,,,I'm 100% French !  LOL

Tu parle francais?
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LOL sister C, no booty call for you!!!! stay away from the jaccuzzi, and the nice invitation to my place!!!!  everyone gave you good advise. you excited, don't cancel it, just make it a nice night out, somewhere........I won't say of course he is french and wants you.......LOL.  Care about getting to know him and who he is.....I can only imagine Sister C ready with a BB gun......LOL  "touch me and I'll shoot you" 

well I have a cold and it is snowing alot here.

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Quoting niceguylooking

Careful women,,,I'm 100% French !  LOL

For real, Niceguy!!! Ooo, la la!!! Ayi yi yi, a French Papi!!!

Okay, I'll behave! Soooo, Niceguy, is it true that for Frenchman, sex is a part of getting to know your woman? I told my suitor to please try to hold off on the sex talk, but he can't seem to help himself. LOL! I admit, I'm very curious. But they say curiosity killed the cat.  LOL! So, I'll behave.

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Careful women,,,I'm 100% French !  LOL

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Quoting CDinCO

My last input into this is...  RED FLAGS!!!!

Too many people have said that, so I declined his offer. Thank you. NEXT!!!! :) Guess its on to the next one...:)
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My last input into this is...  RED FLAGS!!!!