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Emotional Intelligence and dating.

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Emotional intelligence... lol I'm on the search
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January 19 Total posts: 71
- Yes... you're wrong...not a troll, but totally understandable. From time to time I take a break from the site. But I do appreciate your response.
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I could be wrong... Sure.
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Screams troll sorry. Profile hidden? Usually hand in hand. I could write a book...
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January 7 Total posts: 71
Thank you for contributing to the discussion. I agree with you. Part of the strategy in developing a high EI is trying to move toward win-win solutions and not make everything a competition. The EI theory I adopt is one that have four hierarchical levels, which each level requiring a higher skill set. - Kevin
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January 4 Total posts: 71
- RockinRobin - Thank you for contributing to the discussion. You make a good point. It is very easy to slip into trying to manipulate, rather manage their emotions. Ex. Using known trigger words is manipulative. Avoiding them is not
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Emotional intelligence, to me, does not include trying to manage other people's emotions! Unless they are children to be guided, that is manipulative. I only work at feeling, then managing my own. I feel other people's emotions and manage how I react to them. It's up to the other person to manage their emotions and responses. You be you, I'll be me. Ps- I'm new to this site. The blogs and interactive conversations are such a high caliber! Thank you for giving me opportunity to think about how I feel on this topic!!!!
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January 3 Total posts: 71
- Thank you for your nice response. Note: High Emotional Intelligence (EI) helps you hold a conversation, which I know is important to you.,😉
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Nice to read!!!!
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January 1 Total posts: 71
- Excellent points and I deeply respect the work you are doing. -Kevin
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I am a detox and adult psych nurse. Much of our EI is based in brain chemistry, structure and function. Also hormonal balances as we all know interact and can be a root cause of poor emotional control and other mental health issues. Holistic psychiatry is wonderful, when you are able to find one who will do labs to check everything. For example thyroid imbalance can cause depression. Amygdulary dysfunction of course is a primary root cause of bipolar disorder. I would love it, also, if psych Drs would start using MR Spectroscopy in order to look at brain function. As well as CT scans. Of course I am not making excuses for all whom have low EI. Honestly. There are many ways in which we are able to work on emotional intelligence. Patience and empathy, emotional regulation, and so many other things related to EI can be improved by "putting in the work". CBT is a perfect example! Anyway this is a topic that could be discussed for hours! Thank you for the blog and conversation starter! It's an important topic for those of us putting ourselves out there to hopefully find a life partner!
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December 29 Total posts: 71
- Thank you for all great questions. Yes, I think the amygdala can be reframed. I am by nature sn eternal optimist and I believe there is hope and help for everyone.
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December 29 Total posts: 71
Thank you for your interest. The only published work to date is my dissertation (McGourty), but I hope to get more out there.
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December 29 Total posts: 71
- Thank you for your response. I was born in NJ (McGourty). I haven't been back for nearly 20 years.
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Like what you wrote and your thoughts. Emotional intelligence comes by going through the chapters in life. Some has to go through same chapter a few times until lesson learned. Emotional intelligence leads to purpose of life.
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December 25 Total posts: 1
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I live in Jersey, back here anytime soon?
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December 20 Total posts: 53
I love the mind. Do you have white papers that are already published? If so would you be willing to share via email? Private message please if those white papers are available. Best. The BaronessIntegrity (former username)
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Wow. Talk about a hot button. However, what about the difference between right brain and left-brained EI? Do you think the amygdala can be reframed after someone has been with a malignant narcissist for years? Truly asking for a friend.
Raising my hand here ~~ always the curious one. Do you think that EI can be affected by trauma and their emotional intelligence growth stunted? Thereby affecting future relationships and resulting in more dysfunction for them and the people around them (especially children).
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December 20 Total posts: 71
- Thank you for your positive response.