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EXPOSING THE CON

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This blog is to address some of the questions and comments that have been posed to me over the past few weeks. Some will find it difficult to read and others will still shake their head or ridicule me.

These are the facts known to me:

1.I am a real woman who lives in the suburbs of Philadelphia. I live a quiet existence and work hard to support my children. I am still shell shocked at how I was caught up in all this drama as I am normally a very private person.
2.I abhor lies and liars.
3.I have never been nor will I ever create a troll persona.
4.I came to MM in September 2006 in search of love. I am still searching.
5.I have never met NCO/NDA nor did I ever claim to.
6.My requests for the information concerning NCO/NDA went unanswered. I will not name those I requested information from as that remains a private matter.
7.I have become the target of an admitted troll by the name of MsCongeniality2006. I have also repeatedly questioned the blogging community why this is acceptable. In addition to the NCO drama, the vile remarks it spews is unacceptable and has contributed to an atmosphere of distrust and fear. In fact, I have written this blog several times as I lack the courage to have posted it earlier.
8.Starfinder705 is another admitted troll, aka RandomActs. It has also been insinuated that he may have created several other trolls. In my book, that is a violation of MM policy and he should not be allowed on this site, yet he has returned. He is every much a predator as NCO and anyone wishing to know why will have to contact me privately.
9.I admire the tenacity with which the blogging community searched for the truth. I am thankful that there are people who care about others safety without having ever met them.
10.I do not condone the manner in which some of the bloggers conducted themselves. The name calling and derogatory comments, the sarcasm, and the foul language was unkind and uncalled for.
11.My heart remains open to friendship and love. I sincerely apologize for any antagonism or hurtful remarks I made.
12.My heart hurts for Candie.
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George~ Thanks for the encouragement. We may not always agree, but we are always able to maturely agree to disagree.

Trish~ I am very happy for you. I hope you and your new man will always be as happy together as you are today.

AmandaRenee~ It does noone any good to have a heart filled with malice and resentment. I live by the "forgive and forget" creed.

Starfinder705 and 01MoreChance~ I know there is two sides to every story, but I really don't think you want me to tell mine here.

Sizzlin'Hot~ I'm finding out the hard way that the internet is a dangerous place and perhaps not one I wish to occupy.

RobnLinda~ It's great to see that internet dating can result in love. I wish you two a wonderful life together.

:-)
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HI Sweetestone,

Ive been on this site for about 9 months (give or take). Ive made a lot of comments on blogs, written my own blogs, and love the opportunity the internet provides to share thoughts with people all around the world.

Having said that Im sure by now you know that the internet also can be a very dangerous place to dwell. Stalking, predators, con artists, etc. It's also dangerous when it starts to take over the "reality" of our lives. I've been sucked into it as well. Thankfully just for a brief time.

Blogging is sharing thoughts. Like writing in a journal, except you allow others to read your thoughts and make comments back. Most of the crap posted on here is chatroom style conversations. Bickering, name calling, liars, fakes, blah blah blah....

You seemed to pour your heart out in this blog. Its admirable. I personally have no idea what you're talking about in your blog. Sticking my opinion in on something that has nothing to do with me, or that I really dont have all the facts on, leaves me wide open for needless blogland bickering. I see all the BS that goes on here but I choose to leave that crap for people who tend to surround themselves in constant drama. No thanks.

Like everything else in life, this turmoil will pass. I hope whoever you were sending this blog out to respects your thoughts and feelings. Take care.
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I just wanted to say thank you for getting this mix up fixed, I know I accidentally confused u for a NCO troll and I was told from the minute I posted that blog by another member I had made a mistake and I fought tooth and nail with that person but she at the end won and I was like holy crap I did eff up and as a mature person I apologized and I am glad we got to know each other a little bit. I'm glad I can call u a friend and that now that this NCO thing is over (hopefully over) this place can get back to "normal".
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I agree that since we went to instant blogging it's changed the whole course of blogland, and though I do like to see people's comments and see my own immediately, I don't like the chat style conversations most times. Double edged sword perhaps.

I'll email you some pics of me, to know what my mug looks like...and if are comfortable, feel free to send some back. If not, no biggie! I like to see who I'm talking to to make this more real when possible. :)


hmmm...tried to attach pics on email...but alas! No place to do that anymore...so, here's me.

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Deb,

Given what has just happened, I will not be posting a picture anytime. I'm even sorry that people know my name but thankfully they only know my first name. I will tell you that I am just an ordinary woman... no glam gal here.

Perhaps a good way to start fresh on the blogs would be for MM to delete all current blogs and posts and start anew. There also needs to be a better way for MM to monitor what is being posted. Perhaps the "instant" blogging, although fun, contributes to some of the problems.... just a thought!

:-)
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Nancy, you are right. Your screen name was too similar and your association in being nice to everyone and taking a stand to continue to converse with the wrong group of bloggers probably left some confused about you (me included at times).

But, I will say this. I do believe you have a big heart and are sincere with it in looking for a place here in love. I look forward to getting to know you more now that we have this behind us. HOPEFULLY behind us.

I've steered clear of those that seemed to attach themselves to those that continued to follow the tribe knowingly. Playing with fire always leads to a burn of somesort or at the least some soot or residue. But, it's a beautiful new day in Sunny Southern California, and I for one want to sing with the birds and enjoy the blue skies. I offer some of this to you if Philly is overcast this morning.

You are a woman with a special heart. Protect it. I'd love to see a pic of you to put a name and a face together...as I'm visual and hopefully will never mistake your name again!!! :)

Deb
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Hi Doc!

Thanks for the offer of protection. Sometimes I am my own worst enemy so I hope you know what you're in for! It was unfortunate that you became a member when you did but I'm glad to see the doc I met all those weeks ago is here to stay! I must say that I'm liking your humor!


Devo,

I understand how I'm considered guilty by association but I truly think my only real crime in all of this was being kind to everyone here. I'm sure I will make more mistakes as I venture forward in life but I'd still rather see the intrinsic goodness in people.

:-)
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SweetestOne, I have often read your post but never acknowledged you on the blogs. The simple reason you were associated NCO. I mention this because I think it holds true with many bloggers and how they steer clear of controversial trolls and people.

I find myself to gravitate toward independent thinkers and have learned from past experiences that to never feed trolls or negative post.

So the nice SweetestOne welcome to the blogs..

-D.
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Thank~you everyone for your kind comments.

~T~ There was so much conflicting information, particularly in the beginning, that many members did not know what to think. I think it is normal to raise questions when doubt is placed on someone whom you have gotten to "know" as a fun and charming person. It was the manner in which some of the information was presented and the fact that the "real" facts were not posted until just a few days ago that caused me to wonder just what was the truth and who I could trust. When the trolls began casting aspersions on my character and integrity, I think it was only natural that I became offended and put on my boxing gloves. I am sorry, but I fail to see how MsCON helped the situation any.

CB, Starfinder is an active member and last viewed my profile on 3/9. RandomActs, his troll, has only hidden his profile. Perhaps he and the CON can become your next mission, should you choose to accept? As for SweetBabe, I think you are correct that I was mistaken for her on more than one occasion.

Cassie, You are one of the best bloggers here. You never fail to make me laugh and see the humor in life... even if it is a pile of s**t. I am a bit intimidated by all that happened here and am not certain I will be blogging much or if I will even stay on the site. I don't think I'm smart enough.

Pauline, Thank~you for your kind words. I wish the same for you as well.

Optimyst, Please see my comments to ~T~ regarding my opinion of MsCON. Again, all acknowledged trolls are specifically in violation of MM policy and should not be allowed to remain regardless of their intent.

Gem, I promise to keep my evil twin locked up. Sometimes she tricks me though so please bear with me.

Thank~you again for your thoughtful posts. I am very appreciative.
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Regrettably, there are trolls all over the place not just on MM. They are a fact of life on the internet these days and we have to just get on with them. When an obvious one comes on we have to do our best to cope by reporting them to the authorities or simply ignoring the comments they make.

As to MsC she is an acknowledged Troll and can be very nasty and hurtful. At other times she can be very insightful and some of her postings can be most amusing. MsC has not come here seeking love unlike the NCO style of troll. She is not out to con anyone, she is not out to ever meet anyone or play with a persons heart. I am not condoning her activites on here but she is far less dangerous a type of troll to deal with than the insidious type as demonstrated by NCO et al

Should she stay? Well I know for certain she has beeen reported on numerous occasions for abuse but is still here. Until the authorites at MM get rid of it then we have to put up with her and the best advice I can give is ignore her and if you do not want any contact with her block her communications with you.

Enjoy your time here and please realise that like the whole of life there are some nice people here and some not so nice.
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SweetestOne, you and I have had our clashes with each other. But even tho you flirted and posted with NCO, I never really thought you were totally smitten with him, like some others here. You actually did try to be a voice of reason here sometimes. And, I think for the most part, you are a very sweet lady.

I never really interacted with StarFinder/Random Acts, so I really can't speak on that subject. All I can say is that he eventually did fess up to his troll. And I really don't him around here anymore.

As far as Miss Con goes, she is a nasty piece of work at times, lol. But she is an OBVIOUS troll, and doesn't try to con people. We all know exactly what she is, and she doesn't try to hide it. Should she be banned also? Probably. But that is not my decision.

I will say that people sometimes have confused you SweetBabe, and that is irritating. She was an obvious troll of NCO, and made many unbelievable statements. Yet some people took her at her word, and welcomed her into the fold. I was NOT one of those people, and I never did confuse the two of you, as you are totally different. But I can understand how some people mistakenly did get confused, and I'm sure they didn't do it on purpose.

With all that said, I hope all this nastiness is behind us. I don't like being mean and nasty, truly I don't. But I will, if people piss me off enough!

So I look forward to getting to know you in a different light.

Have a great day!
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Thank~you MW. I am a bit reluctant to post anymore and may just do more reading than posting, but I truly appreciate your kind words.

Happy Birthday wishes and hugs for your daughter! Have a marvelous time.

:-)
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Good to hear from you on the blogs. I was wondering where you were ...

I hope everything settles down and we can have our normal (is there such a thing?) bloggland back!

Have a good one! Today is my oldest daughter's birthday party. She turned six on Thursday.