We are so high on love and relationships, that it is shocking to report that 85 percent of all relationships end up in a breakup and 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, according to author Hellen Chen. We like to think the odds are better than that, but if that is the inevitability then it makes sense to learn how to move on after a breakup.
Life is too short to live in the past and when we hold onto dreams that have fizzled, we are simply prolonging the angst and stages most of us go through when any kind of major changes happen unexpectedly. Losing a mate creates a void, which leaves us feeling a little helpless (sometimes hopeless) and with a feeling of imbalance. After all, that person has been a part of the total picture for a while, sometimes years.
Short of ditching fatal-attraction or angry-monster types, it is difficult to reject another human being. Everyone understands that rejection can feel humiliating, which does a number on one's self esteem and stirs up an entire cacophony of emotions.
How to Move on After a Breakup - 4 Steps
Our relationship experts were given the task of coming up with the best techniques for moving on after a breakup - regardless which side of the situation you are on. Read on to learn the four steps you can take to feel better faster while gaining practical breakup skills.
Step 1. Live With the Void
Too often after a breakup, we look for people, places and things to fill the void so we can "forget". Although that seems like a sound strategy, too often clear choices are not being made. For example, being the rebound person or having an immediate rebound person is never good for much else besides a quick distraction.
Living with the void for just a while, will give you the opportunity to review all aspects of the relationship. What did you like? What didn't you like? Were any compromises you made worth it? Or did you fill the relationship with non-genuine actions just to please him/her? Spending the extra time alone can be difficult, but it will come with epiphanies that will help you head yourself in a direction that will ultimately please you more.
Step 2. Self-improvement
Hopefully you are aware of the mistakes that you made during the relationship and are not focusing solely on where he or she went wrong. It takes two to make a relationship and unless you were bound and gagged, you were a willing partner. So spend a little time and make a list of what can be improved. For example, are you a good listener? Did you actually hear what your partner was saying? Or were you too busy talking or criticizing? Were you supportive? Did you laugh together? What were your common goals? Self-improvement can be self taught, there are online courses, books, seminars and workshops - so why go through another relationship without having the capacity to do it better?
Step 3. Clean Out the Closets
We mean that literally - if you have piles of clothes, papers, magazines, unused anything, just sitting around, now is the time to tackle those cobwebs of your life. Make a list of how you're going to tackle the clean-out and don't stop until you have gone through every last piece of "stuff" that can be tossed or donated. After you're finished, you'll practically feel like you have lost weight. Living a streamlined life is more simple and gives you a feeling of "starting anew", which is self-fulfilling.
Step 4. Get a Makeover
Nothing makes us feel renewed like a new hair style, makeup and a few new outfits, right? Assuming you are in the process (or finished with) of using your newly found spare time to live with the void, tend to self-improvement and streamline your belongings, then it is high time to move onto the next stage. A new appearance. It doesn't have to be drastic, unless you like dramatic. It can be as simple as parting your hair on the other side and adding scarves to your daily signature look. If you're not sure where to start, book a consultation at a top salon or get a group of friends together for a group makeover-fest.
After going through our four-steps you will be ready to go it alone. You will feel different about yourself, honor the past and start inviting different types of people into your life. Get ready for a whole new you!
People of wealth often appear to be larger than life, and a new data from MillionaireMatch.com reveals that, for men, many of them actually are. According to data obtained from the profiles of the richest men on Millionaire Match, it appears that men with money also tend to be taller than their average counterparts.
According to several international studies, the average height of a male is roughly 5'9", give or take a couple of inches. 60% of the certified millionaire male members on MillionaireMatch.com fit into this range. However, while less than ten percent of the men fell below world averages, nearly a third of the millionaires on MillioniareMatch are at least six feet or taller.
Bill Gates- 5' 10"
Currently the richest man in the world, with over $80 billion, Bill Gates is technically taller than the average man. The former CEO of Microsoft has always had big ideas, and height or no height, he has grown into one of the biggest names in the world of technology.
Carlos Slim Helú - 5' 8"
The Mexican telecommunications mogul may measure 5'8", but the average height in Mexico is closer to 5'5", making him taller than most men in his country. Worth approximately $80 billion, the CEO of Telmex and América Móvil certainly fits the bill of larger than life millionaires... or in his case, billion
Warren Buffett- 5' 10"
At 5'10", Warren Buffett falls into that slightly taller than average category. His net worth of $69 billion, however, is anything but average. The chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway is known for being one of the most respected businessmen on the planet and despite his record-breaking donation of $2.8 billion to the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation, he remains the third richest man in the world.
Amancio Ortega- height unknown
Amancio Ortega may be one of the exceptions to this rule, but his net worth of $58 billion more than makes up for what he may be lacking in the height department. The exact height of the world's richest retailer is not readily available, however, we think that the fact that he owns 26 high-value properties around the world, including the iconic Torre Picasso, a 43-story skyscraper in Madrid which boasts Google as a tenant, makes any potential shortcoming irrelevant.
Larry Ellison- 6' 3"
The co-founder, CTO, and executive chairman of Oracle Corporation seem to have it all... tall, dark, handsome, and ridiculously wealthy. With a net worth of an estimated $49 billion, Larry Ellison is a Silicon Valley giant in more than just height. Though he may have recently stepped down as CEO of the multinational corporation, Ellison has not given up making his mark on the world, and has purchased the Hawaiian island of Lanai with hopes of transforming it into "the first economically viable 100%-green community."
The Koch Brothers- over 6'2"
The exact height of the Koch brothers is not listed, however, it has been noted that both Charles and David are taller than their brother Frederick, who measures 6'2". The brothers share control of America's second largest private company, Koch Industries, and are each worth approximately $42 billion. The Koch's give new meaning to the saying "Go big or go home", and in addition to their height and wealth, both are known for giving sizeable donations to various organizations.
There are so many Hollywood couples that are together, apart and together again, that it's hard to keep up. We always know the whereabouts of the over-publicized couples like Kim and Kanye, Beyonce and Jay-Z, but we don't see enough of the up and coming celebrity couples who only crop up in the news now and then. So we have identified the top six couples we think are worth watching, as they are the ones who are changing the face of Hollywood.
Amy Adams and partner Darren Le Gallo (cover photo) make an adorable couple. Now that Ms. Adams has made her way to the A-list, it's likely the duo will become a strong force in upcoming project development. Amy has been fortunate to land roles in highly-acclaimed movies and has demonstrated a wide array of talents including singing. Handsome Le Gallo is known of his work in Date Night and The Big Bang Theory and is a strong talent who is on his way up.
More 2015 Celebrity Couples to Watch
The other couples we selected are those that are somewhat new to either their romance, babies or gaining more ground on the Hollywood walk of fame and fortune. Take a look at our picks and see what you
Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux
Finally, Jennifer gets another swing at a happy ending in her personal life. Professionally, her career has continued to excel and although she was overlooked for an Oscar nomination for her role in Cake, she is still flying high. After all, she is in love and after two fantastic years, her personal life is soaring to new heights. After a long engagement and disagreements over a prenuptial agreement, it looks like the couple is finally ready to tie the knot, according to reports. Although Justin does not have the Hollywood box-office draw that Brad Pitt does, he is a strong, loyal and talented performer. We see a long and happy future for the couple.
Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan
Channing Tatum and his lovely wife Jenna Dewan met on the set of Step Up, a dance movie that brought in over $20 million during its first weekend opening. Channing started as a discovered model and parlayed the opportunity until he became one of Hollywood's hottest hunks. After a year of dating and romance, Channing asked Jenna to marry him when they were in Maui (2008). Jenna biggest role, at the moment, is being the mother to their child, after her recurring role of Freya in Witches of East End was cancelled. Recently, Tatum was named "Sexiest Man Alive" by People Magazine (2014) and his hit movie opportunities just keep coming. The couple is headed for great heights in the entertainment business.
Sofia Vergara and Joe Manganiello
Sofia Vergara has become a household name and sex icon. She is funny, gorgeous, sexy and well-loved by the entertainment community. Joe Manganiello is a tall drink of water and definitely fits the level of gorgeous that Vergara's beauty deserves. Together they are perfection personified and they are in love... and now engaged. Manganiello planned a romantic proposal that surprised Sofia when they were on a Hawaiian vacation. Looks like People's 2014 Hottest Bachelor is about ready to lose his title. This couple is absolutely on their way up - thriving careers, love-based marriage and amazing good looks that won't be fading anytime soon.
Emily Blunt and John Krasinski
Who would have guess that Ann Hathaway's hilarious co-star in the Devil Wears Prada, would end up as one of the most sought after actresses in Hollywood? Makes sense that Emily Blunt was called the Best Female Scene-Stealer by Entertainment Weekly that year. Husband, John Krasinski, has starred in numerous movies and television roles, such as The Office, License to Wed, The Holiday and It's Complicated. The couple met in 2008 and were married in 2010 and now have a daughter, who is almost one year old. Both Emily and John's careers are still on the rise, as they continue to become notable for their diverse acting skills. This couple has landed and is here to stay.
Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively
Who would have thought that Gossip Girl's Blake Lively would nab fan-favorite, Ryan Reynolds? Their careers originally brought them together when they worked together on Green Lantern, but they went their separate ways. Lively was busy flitting and flirting with A-listers, like Leonardo DiCaprio, while Ryan was hobnobbing with the likes of Sandra Bullock while making The Proposal. Before we knew it, the two were dating again after Reynolds split with wife Scarlet Johansson. And now they are the proud parents of a baby girl, named Violet, who was born at the end of 2014. The couple is reported to be deliriously happy and by the looks of it, they are on their way to becoming one of Hollywood's young power couples.
For some, Valentine's Day is a nightmare holiday because of the fear involved in selecting the right gift or planning the right evening. But with a little planning and ingenuity, you can surprise your millionaire partner in ways that will demonstrate your willingness to think outside of the box and be the romantic person they hoped you to be.
To do that, we're giving you five of the most surefire winners from our Valentine's Day surprises collection. The expense and time involved in planning and preparation are all up to you. These ideas are so good, they can be ingeniously accomplished on either a large or small scale. That's where your creativity and knowledge of your partner's preferences come in. Whatever, don't wait until the last minute as that is the antithesis of pulling off one of the most romantic days/evenings of the year.
Read on and take notes so you can offer your honey one of the best Valentine's Day Surprises.
Rose Petal Path to Love
We've seen it in movies, but how many times has anyone experienced the sensual surprise of walking in and seeing a rose petal path? Love songs play in the background and votive candles line the path. There are a few ways to make this happen so use your creativity. For starters, the rose petal path may lead to the dining room or a blanket in front of the fireplace. Without drawing attention to the second path, prearrange petals leading from the first area, then directly to the bathtub, bedroom, hammock or other sexy places in the house. While your partner is finishing the sumptuous and sexy meal or appetizer, you sneak away to the final destination and either run a bath or light the candles in the bedroom and wait for him/her to figure out where you went.
This is fun and sexy! It requires buying a Valentine's Day gift that has more than one part to successfully carry out this idea. For example, if a tablet was purchased as the main gift, then a tablet cover, a tablet keyboard and a tablet charger with speakers might also be purchased. The idea is to wrap each item separately and hide them. Or if you have limited space without easy hiding places, simply give the presents to your partner in the most confusing order to keep the surprise going until the end. Another example might be to purchase sexy pieces of lingerie along with a few erotic items you know your partner will enjoy.
Write a poem to recite, bring favorite flowers, candy, wine or champagne and a preplanned, cozy dinner for two to take to a special spot. Select a perfect picnic-type meal that can be transported to a romantic spot near a fountain, by the water, overlooking a fantastic view. In fact, the more romantic the spot, the better. This requires a little more planning, as you'll want to bring battery-operated candles, a blanket, cushions, dinnerware, stemware, the meal, flowers, candy and chilled libations. Here are a couple meal suggestions that won't require too much effort and can be purchased at your local grocery or charcuterie: Quiche, salad, bread; Cold salad assortment, bread; Lox, prosciutto or sliced lamb, salad, sliced baguette, cheeses, condiments. Of course, do not skip purchasing (or preparing) a decadent dessert for two. Bonus: Send your honey a sexy invitation.
All gifts that demonstrate a personal touch are always welcome. It's so nice to receive a well-thought-out gift that was handmade, in some way. The idea goes like this: Gather and put together a physical or digital photo book filled with a progressive presentation of images of the two of you. If you don't have enough photos, start snapping away, as there is still time. Add title slides/images that are cute, funny, romantic or whatever is meaningful to the two of you.
Also highly recommended is for you to add a side gift to accompany the photo album with a special song mix that includes music that is special to the two of you. If you're at a loss for meaningful love music then mix up some favorite love songs that are sure to melt your partner. It is just as thoughtful and is an incredibly romantic gesture, particularly alongside the photo presentation. Be sure to leave a few blank pages to encourage a memorable future.
First dates come in all shapes and sizes, although Happy Hour, Coffee or Dinner first dates are the most common. They are so typical that it is delightful when something different is planned. The challenge about Happy Hours, coffee or dinner is that they require constant verbal interaction, which sometimes feels like an interview rather than a social event.
You might think that you can learn more from sitting and chatting than engaging in different kinds of activities together, but we think the reverse is true. Everyone knows first-dates are all about being on best behavior and saying just the right things. What that often means is that both people wind up providing standard answers - the ones prepared for on-the-fly questions - which rarely reveals much. The repartee and flirty responses are fun but can be saved after you know one another a bit better, right?
Our relationship experts developed a list of first date ideas that will expand your repertoire and ensure memorability. The ideas are not expensive, because getting to know someone doesn't have to cost a fortune.
Of course, no one's going to mind if you feel like throwing a little money around, just buy a little extra something for him/her while on the date as an added surprise. Make it something memorable.
Comedy clubs are one of our first date ideas. Most cities have their version of a comedy club, which creates an opportunity to learn more about your date's funny bone. The great thing about comedy clubs is that they feature a few comedians during one show. So if one comedian's bits aren't all that funny, it is pretty much guaranteed that at least one of the entertainers will find a way to make you both laugh out loud - hysterically. There is generally a small cover charge, a two-drink minimum and a small food menu, so it is sort of like a Happy Hour with jokes.
If you are a person who loves to have fun and laugh, this option is for you. The two of you will bond much faster finding your mutual bed of humor than hours of superficial chatting and interviewing.
Art Gallery Opening
It helps if you are both art enthusiasts, but even if you don't check out the local art gallery receptions and featured artists and can be the first stop of the evening. While there, enjoy the cocktails and appetizers while viewing the art that will surely bring up opinions from both of you. Having a conversation about the art you are viewing, will be entertaining. It will also reveal each person's preferences for classic, abstract, contemporary and other styles. It will also be an eye-opener about how each person handles a public event that can present hiccups along the way due to bar lines, parking, and crowds. If the party is not stimulating for long, stop off for dinner or cocktails elsewhere to discuss.
Playing miniature golf is another great first date idea. There is nothing worse than starting off a relationship competing with one another. But miniature golf is anyone's game and even golf pros won't have a big advantage while playing this fun course with a more amateur golfer. Games have a way of bringing out the worst in some people, as they want to win at all costs. Others just want to have fun and aren't invested in much more than seeing their date enjoy themselves. You will gain a few insights into his or her character while having fun.
Whether listening or having a go at singing, Karaoke Bars are always surprisingly fun. It is one of the greatest first date ideas for most people. Sometimes it takes a cocktail or two before either of you have enough nerve to get up on stage. And if you do, be prepared for everyone's reaction. You could surprise everyone and sing like a songbird or wind up piercing their ears... or somewhere in between. That goes for your date, as well - be prepared for anything. The whole evening should end up being a lot of laughs.
Picnic at the Beach (or Park)
Not all beach picnics are alike. We would like this one to be fun, not all about eating and chatting. So when you're selecting the location, consider setting up near a local Botanical Gardens, frisbee golf course, kayak rental or with room to throw around a ball. If you're not the athletic type, then toss other games in the basket, such as a deck of cards, a travel game or sand castle tools. The actual food and wine you pack should cover the bases and not be overly fancy. Be sure to take a few "couple selfies" that can be sent later to show you had a great time.