Dating a lawyer is a very peculiar situation. It comes with prestige, and sometimes it's seen as a symbol of status. Knowing you are dating a legal practitioner who helps people and contributes to society is equally rewarding.
However, looking at the flip side of it, it comes with its challenges and here we would discuss some of the reasons why it is difficult to date a lawyer.
Lawyers Are Attached To Their Work
Lawyers show a great sense of dedication to their job, and that; is remarkable and highly commendable. However, investing yourself in your job at the expense of loved ones and family can cause problems in the relationship.
Most lawyers put their jobs first. You will have to get used to the idea that their job is probably more important than you. That means that he (or she) will be devoted to the office and, at any time, regardless of the date night you both agree to, your partner may have to leave in-between to attend to urgent legal demands.
Consequently, if you want to have a relationship with someone who is mostly at your beck and call; then, it is best to find someone who is not a lawyer.
Another side to it is that on weekends, your lawyer partner could be at home, but you may still not have the bonding time you crave, because most lawyers tend to have a home office where they can continue working from.
Conversations May Always End Up In A Debate
It is great to date a person who's aware of recent happenings in the world and has a mind of their own. Yet, it can be annoying and insensitive when you want to discuss a situation that's of concern to you, and your lawyer partner turns it into a debate.
Most times, you'll need to forget about winning any argument on a date, as lawyers study every day how to argue with other people. You don't have to do much when a disagreement ensues, as you will lose most of the time because they will present the problem to you from ten different perspectives, one more plausible than the other.
Such that while you are still trying to understand the second, they will have already passed a judgment against you.
Although you will lose on most discussions or debates with your lawyer partner, you will improve your argumentative skills to win over your friends (as long as they are not lawyers).
However, if this is something you cannot cope with, you should avoid dating a lawyer.
Family and Friends Will Come To You For All Their Legal Problems
It is necessary to be there for family and friends during trying times; it will greatly encourage them, and that's what family is about anyway.
However, immediately the word is out that you are dating a lawyer, your friends and family will not let you be. In fact, as soon as they know that you are dating or, worse, that you married a lawyer, they will haunt you with their legal problems. And most of the time, they would expect it to be free.
If you settle down with a lawyer, you can expect that family "consultations" may haunt you for the rest of your days.
There Will Be Pressure To Live Up To Their Reputation
Lawyers represent individuals and corporate organizations, so they have to dress and live accordingly at all times. If you love simplicity, this may be tough to navigate.
Lawyers are a force to reckon with in the community. As their significant other, you will be put on a pedestal, and there will be high expectations of you. Be ready for scrutiny from people; you will be invited to high-end functions, and there will be expectations for things like your appearance and diction!
There Will Be Clashes In Schedule
One frustrating thing about dating a lawyer is that no matter how much you plan, something "important" will come up. Their job can be unpredictable, and there can be a change in plans at any time.
For instance, a client might have a sudden lawsuit or problem that will require the lawyer's attention, or the judge may fix a hearing on a date you have planned to spend with the lawyer you are dating.
It can be overwhelming, and sometimes you will wonder if you are dating the lawyer or their profession. Also, if care isn't taken, you may feel like your lawyer partner does not really care about you.
So if you are not ready for the rollercoaster of emotions it comes with, you may have to rethink dating a lawyer.
You Will Have To Give Them Proof And Evidence Always
Imagine having to prove everything you say or do- This happens a lot when you are dating a lawyer. They look at everything with their legal lens and think it is normal for you to give them proof all the time, especially at random things!
It can cause a lot of stress to you and put a strain on your relationship, and it could be challenging to have a relationship built on trust and mutual respect.
Their Perfectionist Tendencies Can Be Bothersome
Most lawyers are very organized and are perfectionists. They want things to be in a certain way at all times. Their goal is to always win- they want to win all the court cases, earn public perception, be the best lawyers to their clients, and have everything perfect.
So much so that they sometimes forget that they are human beings and things may not always go as planned.
The most concerning is that when things do not go the way they expect it, they could take out their frustrations on their partner. As perfectionists, they also could magnify minor errors and nitpick simple mistakes their partner makes- That can make a relationship with a lawyer difficult.
Lawyers are, without a doubt, highly fascinating people. They fight for human rights and freedom; they are respected in society and give back to the community. Yet as highlighted above, dating a lawyer can be difficult; hence, you may want to sit down and reconsider before following through with it.
There are over 105 million single Americans, and about 35 million of them are online looking for love. Popular sites like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble have millions of active single people waiting to find the love of their lives to spend their future with. With the pandemic starting to come to an end, how do you make yourself stand out from the other profiles online? How do you succeed in online dating?
Luckily, we have gathered some helpful tips that would make you stand out from the crowd.
1. Choose the proper dating site that is right for you and what you’re looking for.
There are over 1,500 dating apps and/or websites looking to entice single men and women together through their services. It is good to do your research because each app and online platform are catered to different people and what they are looking for. Some dating sites cater to a certain ethnicity, age group, and sexual preferences while some dating sites cater to if you’re looking for a hookup, something more casual, or serious. Just like there are plenty of fishes in the sea, so are dating sites and what people are looking for in their point of time. It can feel overwhelming in the beginning. Don’t feel too rushed to dive in without proper research and don’t try signing yourself up for every single dating app or site you know. Carefully weed out what you’re looking for first before getting started.
2. Be genuine and honest with who you are.
The next step is setting up a profile for yourself. Be authentic over perfect. When you’re entering information into your profile, say something unique or quirky that allows someone to find a way to start a conversation with you. Make yourself approachable and friendly. When someone messages you, keep it light and pleasant. Be sure to also be genuine and honest with who you are instead of pleasing potential suitors. If someone messages you and you both don’t have anything in common, maybe it’s better to throw your rod into the ocean and try fishing again. It will save you a lot of time in the long run, and there is no rush.
3. Make sure to edit your profile picture and keep it updated every few weeks.
As people have said before, a picture is worth a thousand words. Humans are naturally curious creatures that check one another out through their appearance. A good photo will show potential people who you are, and what you may offer too. A good profile picture makes an important first impression to anyone checking out your profile (along with your about me page). Your profile picture should be clear, and make you look friendly and approachable. Good photos will give a clear indication of what your passionate about, and what life may be like if they are dating you. Not to mention, it shows your life and is a great conversation starter as well.
4. Have many texts or phone conversations before meeting them on a date.
Before meeting anyone, make sure you get a feel of who they are. This would mean engaging in conversation with them via text and/or phone. Maybe even set up a video call with the person you are interested in meeting. It’ll quickly make you determine if you should arrange to meet this person in real life for a first date. Keep the conversation short if you do phone or video call, ideally 10-15 minutes so you can get a feel of the person’s personality, characteristics, and mannerisms too. Ask important questions to make sure you are both on the same page with what you are looking for in a partner and life. If you both have similar interests and the chemistry is there, then definitely set up first a date.
5. Make your first date a brief one.
Your first date should be fun. Put less pressure on this first date and relax. If you’re ready to leave your first date, you can say you’re running an errand. Keep it light and maybe end it with a hug if you are comfortable enough. You don’t have to go take your partner to a fancy and expensive restaurant. Keep it brief and fun with a simple picnic, coffee, or bar date. Ask important persons during your first date to see if you have similar goals when it comes to dating and expectations as well. It’s great to get a feel for this person and if they match up to your wavelength too.
6. No sex on the first date.
There are many reasons why dozens of articles online on why you should not have sex on the first date. It usually doesn’t end great and there are several reasons at play here. The first is that you both have probably been drinking which can affect performance and cognitive, logical thoughts. Neither you nor your partner knows each other well. That would mean no one knows how they are in bed and what they like either. Sex on the first date blurs the line between being casual or more. Not to mention, both of you do not know the person well enough. You or your partner may be uncomfortable with something, but don’t want to voice their displeasure because they are scared of killing the mood. It’s not worth it. If the chemistry between you and your new partner is there, it’ll still be there by the third or fourth date. By then, you might know each other better to see where this relationship is headed.
7. Have fun.
The last (but certainly not least) tip in successful online dating is to have fun. It can be rather nerve-wracking and anxious when it comes to finding a suitable partner, especially in a time where everything else seems to be uncertain and shaky. As pointed out in tip number five, make your first date brief and fun. Have small talk that would make the conversation unique. It’s going to show that you are interested in their life and lead to a better connection too.
The first time a partner says those words are regarded to be one of the highlights in a relationship. It’s when you hear the fireworks going on in the background, the butterflies erupting in your stomach, and your heart being stolen by them as well.
Still, when should you say those three magical words? And how do you express it?
When should you say it?
Love should be the driving force of any relationship. Yet, saying those three words can be a make it or break it for many couples. Some even fear it because they don’t know if their partner feels the same. It can be tough and scary to put yourself in a vulnerable situation and uncomfortable too if he or she doesn’t feel the same. So, when is the right time to profess your undying love for your partner? Here are some examples about when you should tell your partner “I love you”:
1. You feel as if you’re going to burst if you don’t tell your partner.
2. You feel comfortable and at home when you are with your partner.
3. You’ve gone on at least five dates and you connect well with your partner.
4. “I like you a lot” just doesn’t feel right anymore when you say it to your partner.
5. You can see a future with your partner in it.
6. You feel as if your partner gets who you truly are and vice versa.
7. The timing just feels right, and you know your partner will feel the same.
What do all of these examples have in common? It’s timing.
And once you’ve said “I love you” to your partner, the next steps are to express it every day so they don’t forget. It’s one meaning to say those three words, but as Abraham Lincoln has said before, “Actions speak louder than words.” This brings us to our next question:
How to express it?
There are many things one person can do to show your love for your partner. It can be something simple like buying them their favorite food when they are having a bad day. Or it can be bringing them a cup of coffee in the morning (like my husband does). Each person is unique, much like the relationship. Here are seven examples of how you can express your love for your partner without saying those three words:
1. Make time for them.
Nothing shows love like spending time with your partner. Life can sometimes get in the way of you and your partner. Maybe it’s been three weeks since you and your partner have gone to see a movie and you know there’s a movie coming up that your partner will enjoy. Plan a date that day to catch up. You shouldn’t be expected to spend every waking minute with your partner, but it is good to spend some time apart from both of your busy life to catch up. A healthy relationship gives space for both partners to pursue their interest but also create time for each other.
2. Show them affection in public.
Hold your partner’s hand in public or give them a kiss on the cheek when they are not expecting it. It doesn’t have to be anything over the top when it comes to public display of affection. Let your partner know through kisses and other public affection they are on your mind, even if they are in front of you.
3. Get your partner their favorite drink/snack/food.
Maybe your way home from work and decided to swing by the local deli. You spot your partner’s favorite drink, snack, or food. Pick it up and put it into your cart. It’s very simple and easy to do, and it shows your partner that you are thinking about them while you’re outside. It will put a smile on their face, and it shows them how much you know them when you give them their favorite item you picked up.
4. Lighten their plate.
Everyone has bad days, including you and your partner. Perhaps your partner had a really bad day at their workplace, and they are ranting to you via text. You’re home for the day and know that once they get home, they have to do the laundry. Help them lesson their plate by doing something for them without saying anything. Surprise them by doing a chore or something they don’t like to do. It’s not only a nice gesture but also going to put a smile on their face.
5. Be spontaneous with your partner.
It can be very easy to fall into a routine with your partner once you grow comfortable with them. It becomes dull and boring too. Mix it up by surprising your partner with something you both haven’t done before. Maybe go on a picnic, plan a mini getaway. Do something that is out of your daily routine to keep things fresh and new. When you surprise them, it’s going to be the best feeling seeing their face light up with something that they weren’t expecting!
6. Send them random messages throughout the way to let them know they are on your mind.
Sending a cute and random text to your partner can make them smile, no matter where they are. It can range from anything like a funny GIF, emojis, stickers, and/or sweet messages like “Hey beautiful, how’s your day so far?” or “You’re on my mind” is enough. Be creative with your messages to your partner. I guarantee it’ll make them smile!
7. Hang out with their family or friends and get to know them too.
Maybe your partner loves to hang out with their group of friends that consists of their best friend. Make an effort to get to know the friends of your partner. It shows everyone how serious you are as you try to get to know your friends. Not to mention, it tells your partner that you also love and care about the people important to their lives.
Whether you find yourself getting ‘back in the saddle’, or if you never got off the horse, dating past your 50’s can be a challenge. There are a whole host of new problems to solve and things to consider that can make the process seem like a complete 180° turn from dating in your 20’s and 30’s.
So, if you find yourself looking for love in your 50’s, it’s going to be important that you have a clear set of rules that you adhere to in order to help the process along. Let’s break down all the things to keep in mind when dating in your 50’s.
Establish the Ground Rules
A Happy relationship is built on mutual respect and trust. It’s also built on boundaries. Now, in your 20’s and 30’s you were likely still trying to find yourself--let along your own boundaries. But, as someone who has matured quite a bit more than that younger person you once were, you should already have your boundaries well established.
What this means is that you should be able to clearly lay out a set of ground rules that you want to adhere to when dating. They can be as strict or as relaxed as you want, but they should be present to help keep you on track. These can be things such as Does the person have young children and am I okay with that? Do they have an established career, and do I need them to? Do they want to get married/remarried someday?
These are just a small sampling of ideas that you may want to add to your list. Having answers to these questions and providing a line which you won’t cross in regards to them will help keep you and your new potential partner on the same page.
Learn to Be Patient
Dating in your 50’s can be whatever you want it to be. Are you just looking for a fun and casual fling? That’s definitely possible! Are you looking for a long-term connection? That's out there too! The key, however, is that you have to remain patient throughout the entire process.
In your younger years, you may have found that partners--and yourself--were quite a bit less picky. There didn’t seem to be a lot of stress on the small things, despite these being the most important for long-term success in love. This carefree mindset made it easier to find partners, or so it may have seemed.
However, as you have matured, so have your potential suitors. You are likely to be looking for love from those who have established lifestyles, some baggage, and their own list of ground rules. This can make it seem like far fewer people are ‘compatible’ with you than there used to be. But, never fear, this is not the case. It simply means that those who are a match are likely to be a better match than those from your younger days.
Be patient, and understand that feeling rejected or like the process is too hard is a normal step for everyone to climb. With time, it will all come more naturally!
It might seem scary, but technology is the way of the world these days. Dating apps and websites have changed the way that people meet, and you are likely going to have to adapt to it--at least a little bit. So, what does this mean?
Well luckily for us there is very nearly a dating platform for everyone. If you just want casual meetups, Tinder is a great way to go. If you want something more serious and Meet quality matches, MillionaireMatch is a well-established community.
Now it’s important to note that setting up these profiles can take quite a bit of time. You’ll want to put some thought and care into the photos, bio, and personal details that you put there. You want the profile to stand out and draw in interest! This is an investment of time that many find is absolutely worth it. In fact, studies show that nearly 30% of all Americans have online dating profiles. So, something is working.
Just remember that dating apps are not the be-all-end-all. You should never miss an opportunity to make connections in person with the singles around you either!
Talk About Sex
Yes, yes, you are in fact going to have to talk about the big naked elephant in the room at some point. This is a subject that will very likely need to be broached far sooner than you may think now that you are dating in your
50’s. Why do you ask?
Well, the harsh reality is that singles in their 50’s and beyond face certain challenges in bed that younger partners may not--but this is okay! You may find yourself facing some physical limitations, aversions to certain acts in the bed, issues with monogamy, etc. These are all-natural things to talk about with a partner.
It may seem awkward, but having this talk as soon as you feel it may be necessary is a huge step in the right direction. You can discuss your preferences, dislikes, safety, and more. This will help keep the topic honest and relaxed between you and your new partner, as well as provide them a chance to be open and honest with you. You cannot overlook the importance of ‘the talk’ even into your 50’s!
The dating game may have changed over the past few years, but that doesn't mean you can’t play. These days it is more common than ever for singles in their 50’s to be out and looking for that new spark in their lives--you aren’t alone!
The most important thing to remember when dating in your 50’s is that your own personal boundaries and needs are crucial to the process. You can no longer shelve your own preferences just to find a partner--we are dealing with mature singles at this point. So, take the time to lay out what you need and want, and you will surely find a partner with the same values. It may take time, but the wait is always worth it.
Whether it’s your 1st or 76th, an anniversary is always an important and fun day. It marks the day that you and your partner decided to fully commit to one another. This is a milestone that surely should be celebrated when it rolls around annually. But… What should you do to celebrate it?
Many couples will admit that they find it difficult to come up with fun and refreshing ways to celebrate their anniversary. This is especially true for those who have been together for quite a long time. The old ‘fancy dinner at a fancy restaurant’ can be nice, but it might get a bit stale.
So, If it’s almost time to celebrate a new year with your partner, you might want to find some romantic anniversary ideas to celebrate it. Let’s go over just a few!
Plan a ‘StayCation’
You don’t need to drop thousands on a romantic getaway to Fiji if you are looking for a relaxing break from normal life. Chances are you can have a romantic time away from home without even leaving your own city! This may seem a bit odd, but simply booking a weekend at a hotel or B&B in your area can be the perfect recipe for a romantic getaway.
Hotels are almost always relaxing. There’s something comforting about knowing that you are out of your normal routine, and sleeping in a bed that someone else will make for you! But travel can be exhausting, and pricey--as we mentioned. So, simply booking a getaway at a nice place locally is always a fun way to get that hotel getaway experience without going too far out of your way or budget.
Revisit Your Wedding Venue
You have likely heard of the ‘recreating your first date experience. This is a really fun way to spark those old feelings you had when you first met your partner! But, what about taking that experience to the next level?
Revisiting your wedding venue is a pretty surreal experience for those who have been married for a while. It can instantly transport you back to that wonderful day, and all the feelings that came with it. You can explore the venue and recall the memories of the event with your partner as a cute little day trip.
Revisiting your wedding venue is one romantic idea for igniting a spark based on the memories of how you felt the day you spoke your vows. What could be better than that?
See a Comedy Show
Laughter is the best medicine--at least according to world-renown expert Hunter Doherty ‘Patch’ Adams. Whether you are feeling a bit down about life, or simply need a fun evening, getting a good belly laugh going is sure to be a great evening with you and your partner.
Even when it comes to seeing professional shows, comedy events are generally cheaper than concerts or sporting events. But they can be just as fun! Take the time to research what local comedy events are happening near you on your anniversary. You can go see an open mic event or buy tickets to an actual professional show. Either way, you are guaranteed to have a memorable night filled with laughs--or groans!
Visit a Street Festival
Most major metropolitan areas--and even some smaller rural communities--host regular street fairs and festivals. These can be international food festivals, arts & crafts festivals, traveling flea markets, music festivals, you name it. The experience of going to one of these street festivals can be incredibly satisfying!
Getting out and experiencing something a bit more exotic or from a different culture is always a fun date idea. You and your partner can taste new flavors, hear new music styles, or buy some fun homemade items that you can cherish and remember for a lifetime! So, take the chance to spend your anniversary exploring something new with a street festival/fair.
You don’t have to be a survivalist to enjoy the great outdoors. There is a lot to love and experience when you step outside your home and into the wilderness beyond. Whether you are an expert outdoors person, or a newbie to the concept, you can go as ‘crazy’ or as ‘tame’ as you and your partner wish.
Simple outdoor activities can be the perfect break from the hustle and bustle of regular life. It can get you away from cell phones, work emails, and Netflix for a little while. Whether you are going hiking, camping, fishing, or all of the above; you are guaranteed to enjoy the fresh air and the personal time with your partner away from the business of life.
A Coffee/Lunch Date
This may seem overly simple, and even a bit bland, but sometimes that is just what the doctor ordered. For many of us, planning something elaborate or extravagant isn’t in the cards. Whether it be work, time, or financial limitations; not everyone can get away and go ‘big’ on their anniversary.
The most important part of celebrating an anniversary is spending quality time with your partner. That can be done anywhere. For those who are limited on time or funds, simply going out for a nice coffee date or lunch date can be an amazingly charming experience for both of you. Never underestimate the power of simply finding time to talk and enjoy your partner’s company for a while!
Anniversaries are special and should be treated as such. But being special doesn’t mean you have to go crazy with the celebration plans. Oftentimes the most memorable moments with our partners are the simplest ones. Take the time to enjoy your partner’s company this year for your anniversary, no matter which ‘milestone’ you are at in your relationship.