There are over 105 million single Americans, and about 35 million of them are online looking for love. Popular sites like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble have millions of active single people waiting to find the love of their lives to spend their future with. With the pandemic starting to come to an end, how do you make yourself stand out from the other profiles online? How do you succeed in online dating?
Luckily, we have gathered some helpful tips that would make you stand out from the crowd.
1. Choose the proper dating site that is right for you and what you’re looking for.
There are over 1,500 dating apps and/or websites looking to entice single men and women together through their services. It is good to do your research because each app and online platform are catered to different people and what they are looking for. Some dating sites cater to a certain ethnicity, age group, and sexual preferences while some dating sites cater to if you’re looking for a hookup, something more casual, or serious. Just like there are plenty of fishes in the sea, so are dating sites and what people are looking for in their point of time. It can feel overwhelming in the beginning. Don’t feel too rushed to dive in without proper research and don’t try signing yourself up for every single dating app or site you know. Carefully weed out what you’re looking for first before getting started.
2. Be genuine and honest with who you are.
The next step is setting up a profile for yourself. Be authentic over perfect. When you’re entering information into your profile, say something unique or quirky that allows someone to find a way to start a conversation with you. Make yourself approachable and friendly. When someone messages you, keep it light and pleasant. Be sure to also be genuine and honest with who you are instead of pleasing potential suitors. If someone messages you and you both don’t have anything in common, maybe it’s better to throw your rod into the ocean and try fishing again. It will save you a lot of time in the long run, and there is no rush.
3. Make sure to edit your profile picture and keep it updated every few weeks.
As people have said before, a picture is worth a thousand words. Humans are naturally curious creatures that check one another out through their appearance. A good photo will show potential people who you are, and what you may offer too. A good profile picture makes an important first impression to anyone checking out your profile (along with your about me page). Your profile picture should be clear, and make you look friendly and approachable. Good photos will give a clear indication of what your passionate about, and what life may be like if they are dating you. Not to mention, it shows your life and is a great conversation starter as well.
4. Have many texts or phone conversations before meeting them on a date.
Before meeting anyone, make sure you get a feel of who they are. This would mean engaging in conversation with them via text and/or phone. Maybe even set up a video call with the person you are interested in meeting. It’ll quickly make you determine if you should arrange to meet this person in real life for a first date. Keep the conversation short if you do phone or video call, ideally 10-15 minutes so you can get a feel of the person’s personality, characteristics, and mannerisms too. Ask important questions to make sure you are both on the same page with what you are looking for in a partner and life. If you both have similar interests and the chemistry is there, then definitely set up first a date.
5. Make your first date a brief one.
Your first date should be fun. Put less pressure on this first date and relax. If you’re ready to leave your first date, you can say you’re running an errand. Keep it light and maybe end it with a hug if you are comfortable enough. You don’t have to go take your partner to a fancy and expensive restaurant. Keep it brief and fun with a simple picnic, coffee, or bar date. Ask important persons during your first date to see if you have similar goals when it comes to dating and expectations as well. It’s great to get a feel for this person and if they match up to your wavelength too.
6. No sex on the first date.
There are many reasons why dozens of articles online on why you should not have sex on the first date. It usually doesn’t end great and there are several reasons at play here. The first is that you both have probably been drinking which can affect performance and cognitive, logical thoughts. Neither you nor your partner knows each other well. That would mean no one knows how they are in bed and what they like either. Sex on the first date blurs the line between being casual or more. Not to mention, both of you do not know the person well enough. You or your partner may be uncomfortable with something, but don’t want to voice their displeasure because they are scared of killing the mood. It’s not worth it. If the chemistry between you and your new partner is there, it’ll still be there by the third or fourth date. By then, you might know each other better to see where this relationship is headed.
7. Have fun.
The last (but certainly not least) tip in successful online dating is to have fun. It can be rather nerve-wracking and anxious when it comes to finding a suitable partner, especially in a time where everything else seems to be uncertain and shaky. As pointed out in tip number five, make your first date brief and fun. Have small talk that would make the conversation unique. It’s going to show that you are interested in their life and lead to a better connection too.