“I love you.”
The first time a partner says those words are regarded to be one of the highlights in a relationship. It’s when you hear the fireworks going on in the background, the butterflies erupting in your stomach, and your heart being stolen by them as well.
Still, when should you say those three magical words? And how do you express it?
When should you say it?
Love should be the driving force of any relationship. Yet, saying those three words can be a make it or break it for many couples. Some even fear it because they don’t know if their partner feels the same. It can be tough and scary to put yourself in a vulnerable situation and uncomfortable too if he or she doesn’t feel the same. So, when is the right time to profess your undying love for your partner? Here are some examples about when you should tell your partner “I love you”:
1. You feel as if you’re going to burst if you don’t tell your partner.
2. You feel comfortable and at home when you are with your partner.
3. You’ve gone on at least five dates and you connect well with your partner.
4. “I like you a lot” just doesn’t feel right anymore when you say it to your partner.
5. You can see a future with your partner in it.
6. You feel as if your partner gets who you truly are and vice versa.
7. The timing just feels right, and you know your partner will feel the same.
What do all of these examples have in common? It’s timing.
And once you’ve said “I love you” to your partner, the next steps are to express it every day so they don’t forget. It’s one meaning to say those three words, but as Abraham Lincoln has said before, “Actions speak louder than words.” This brings us to our next question:
How to express it?
There are many things one person can do to show your love for your partner. It can be something simple like buying them their favorite food when they are having a bad day. Or it can be bringing them a cup of coffee in the morning (like my husband does). Each person is unique, much like the relationship. Here are seven examples of how you can express your love for your partner without saying those three words:
1. Make time for them.
Nothing shows love like spending time with your partner. Life can sometimes get in the way of you and your partner. Maybe it’s been three weeks since you and your partner have gone to see a movie and you know there’s a movie coming up that your partner will enjoy. Plan a date that day to catch up. You shouldn’t be expected to spend every waking minute with your partner, but it is good to spend some time apart from both of your busy life to catch up. A healthy relationship gives space for both partners to pursue their interest but also create time for each other.
2. Show them affection in public.
Hold your partner’s hand in public or give them a kiss on the cheek when they are not expecting it. It doesn’t have to be anything over the top when it comes to public display of affection. Let your partner know through kisses and other public affection they are on your mind, even if they are in front of you.
3. Get your partner their favorite drink/snack/food.
Maybe your way home from work and decided to swing by the local deli. You spot your partner’s favorite drink, snack, or food. Pick it up and put it into your cart. It’s very simple and easy to do, and it shows your partner that you are thinking about them while you’re outside. It will put a smile on their face, and it shows them how much you know them when you give them their favorite item you picked up.
4. Lighten their plate.
Everyone has bad days, including you and your partner. Perhaps your partner had a really bad day at their workplace, and they are ranting to you via text. You’re home for the day and know that once they get home, they have to do the laundry. Help them lesson their plate by doing something for them without saying anything. Surprise them by doing a chore or something they don’t like to do. It’s not only a nice gesture but also going to put a smile on their face.
5. Be spontaneous with your partner.
It can be very easy to fall into a routine with your partner once you grow comfortable with them. It becomes dull and boring too. Mix it up by surprising your partner with something you both haven’t done before. Maybe go on a picnic, plan a mini getaway. Do something that is out of your daily routine to keep things fresh and new. When you surprise them, it’s going to be the best feeling seeing their face light up with something that they weren’t expecting!
6. Send them random messages throughout the way to let them know they are on your mind.
Sending a cute and random text to your partner can make them smile, no matter where they are. It can range from anything like a funny GIF, emojis, stickers, and/or sweet messages like “Hey beautiful, how’s your day so far?” or “You’re on my mind” is enough. Be creative with your messages to your partner. I guarantee it’ll make them smile!
7. Hang out with their family or friends and get to know them too.
Maybe your partner loves to hang out with their group of friends that consists of their best friend. Make an effort to get to know the friends of your partner. It shows everyone how serious you are as you try to get to know your friends. Not to mention, it tells your partner that you also love and care about the people important to their lives.