Got the Relationship Blues

It's a fair bet to say that at one time or another, every man and woman leaves a painful or poignant relationship. If you are someone who's got the relationship blues, read on.

It is all a matter of perspective. Where you are now is not where you have been and most certainly not where you're going to be in the future. It still feels like you've sunk into a black hole, right? It's hard to notice anyone else or anything around, as minute-by-minute reflection takes over.

What you need to understand right now is that in order to move forward, you have to snap out of it. No one wants to be around someone who can barely muster a smile. Remember, confidence attracts and sadness detracts. So if you want to move on and find your successful match, take a hard read at the five steps we've outlined for you. We're sure they will get you out of your relationship slump.

1. Remove the memories

You may be appalled at this suggestion, but it is for your own good. The more you continue to play "your songs", and look at his photos, belongings, and gifts, the longer the blues will prevail. Unfriend him, un-link him, and burn all of the bridges. If it is causing this much heartache, he is not someone who should remain in your circle of "friends".

2. Activities with friends

Friends can be a cure-all and true friends are there when you really need them. Although they are certainly there to commiserate with and lean on, this is not the time to use them as a listening ear, particularly if you are rehashing the past over and over. The best way to heal is to become acutely aware of events and activities that will make you feel excited and open to the future again. Go to a concert, out dancing, or check out a local happy hour. These are good for re-entering your social life. You will be reminded of the fun you have been missing and want more.

3. Time for a makeover

Many women lose sight of themselves during and after a breakup. They start feeling less than gorgeous, funny, and exciting. If this is you, stop now and recognize it is time to discover the next version of you. It's not that you weren't already perfect. It's just that new chapters require new perspectives. New perspectives and attitudes come easily after treating yourself to a new hairstyle, look, and role model. So, glam up and never look back.

4. Don't go backward

There will always be moments, even after your confidence boosts when you will feel like connecting with your ex in some way.  It might be due to unresolved issues, or that you have had a change of heart. Trust your actions and resist sinking into "what might have been or what might still be". It didn't work out for a reason, and, likely, more than one reason. Live in the present and look toward the future. Let history stay behind you.

5. Laugh your sorrows away

Instead of watching romantic movies and shows, we strongly urge you to focus on completely mindless comedies... the ones that make you laugh out loud. YouTube videos offer a comprehensive variety that will keep you laughing for days. Comedy clubs are also an outstanding reminder of just how much fun there is in "funny". It's also healthy to make an occasional joke about your past relationships. Look at it from a comedian's perspective and you'll find yourself laughing.

We hope our five-step program has helped anyone who got the relationship blues. According to our love experts, this little program will put you back on top. You'll be on fire and unstoppable again.