• Basic Problems in Dating a Millionaire and Tips for Solution Posted by Admin

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    Issues of discuss regarding dating especially with millionaire men and women have taken different tolls and divide of understanding among many people. Like many other arguments, people arguably never cease to lend their voices to the debate at every viable opportunity to share ideas especially on the reasonability of the decision of less wealthy individuals to go into love relationships with their wealthy counterparts. This among other things prompted the earlier investigative research conducted by millionairematch.com to have its own standpoint on the issue.

    If the resulting statistics from the study on 15,000 online respondents is thus anything to go by, most millionaire men seem not to get bordered about the figures in your (women’s) bank account. The statistics suggest that 79.6 percent of them wouldn’t give a damn about that while as much as 84.5 percent of millionaire women would always want to partner with another millionaire in love affairs. This could be traced to the fact that independent millionaire men (82.6 percent) find it easy sharing their wealth with the less fortunate while millionaire women (80 percent) are always careful with their wealth even after entering into a marriage.

    Aside this, many other issues have been discussed about this ‘exotic’ dating pattern, and some of these include what to expect if one is dating a millionaire man or woman. Dating a millionaire is not always fanciful as many think of it. Don’t misunderstand this, it is surely not a choice of torture but there definitely would be differences in lifestyles of wealthy men and their less fortunate partner and vice versa. Trust me, relationship issues are not what anyone wants wealthy or not, therefore these potential problems must be solved to avoid imbalances and at worst divorce. They include;

    Coping with Work Schedules

    If your partner is a self-made millionaire, you have got to cope with his/her busy work schedule. No one will tell you a better fact than this. A self-made millionaire could only make his money working round the clock. You have to cope with this part of him because that is probably what he is at his core. You are definitely not going into his life to change his work-life balance, you can only assist him in reframing his priorities such that he could shift more time to being with you. This relationship might usually be a less romantic type but you must maximize the fun as long as you can get some uninterrupted chunk of time with him. Make him or her understand that a good relationship requires a lot of work as well, and persuade him to ensure his work-life balance to make the love affair merrier.

    As the less fortunate partner in the relationship, the bulk of work in this situation lies with you. The primary aim here is to make him handle your relationship like he handles his business without necessarily affecting it. Make him use his attention, time and creative thinking as well as passion to meet your expectations. Retrace and reframe your requests to suit his understanding of life and make him invest in your relationship to get returns like he does in his business.

    Friends and Social Interactions Differences

    It basically balls down to the friends you both keep, and perhaps the caliber of people you interact with. You may start to feel his friends are stuffy, and he may begin to think yours are immature. This may be consequent of age bracket, financial statuses, social statuses and lots of other things that could provoke questions of inferiority or superiority as the case may be. No matter how complicated you might think the situation is here, you have got a simple solution. Get his match of friends to occasions he will be going with you, and go with him alone if you think he would be irritated with your choice. For example, you shouldn’t invite him to a girl’s night fun when you know it would be distasteful to his choice of outing. No matter how hard he tries to fit in, he might find it very uncomfortable. When it comes down to you fitting into his clique, my advice is that you shouldn’t overdo it. Instead of a boring time with his friends, it is better alone with him in the whiskey tasting activity. This way you would have shares of things to do as well and cherishing moments to reminisce about later. This will also set tones of understanding for your love affair. In case you however find it comfortable going out with him alongside his friends and yours, set your own rules to manage your expectations. You must not fall in love with his friends, and him with your friends.

    Pleasing Him Could Be Dreadful Owing To Choice

    Get this fact right here. It might be really difficult for you to treat him to his real value because he is financially advantageous. Getting him gifts and making up surprises might also be challenging because of your financial grasp. Here is the tip. Gifts isn’t about the cost, it is about the value. Get him that exact thing you know he loves regardless of how ridiculous the price may seem to you. He would surely understand you want to do more but cannot probably afford it. More importantly, the gifts you give to him is about the effort and not the price. Another advice for you is to get him creative things. He may have many designer wristwatches but what if you get him a totally different design (inexpensive) with pictures of nature around it if he is a nature freak? Or what about taking him for a date where you first met? You are trying to bring back a memory which he will so cherish.

    Struggles with dating a millionaire is actually common and fixable, but they all start with understanding the above facts. Focus on your love and try as much as possible to please yourselves. Guess what? Working past these issues is very attainable. Some of them get to happen even when you are not dating a millionaire. Commitment and sacrifices are key, and are the only way forward.

  • Exclusive: Laura Govan Pens Book and Talks About Marrying Again Posted by Admin

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    Television star and now entrepreneur, Laura Govan is on top with an upcoming book and new business. Govan’s luxury accessory collection, Shop in Real Life, is not just a business for her. It’s proof that she can do anything. We got to chat with this beauty and former star of Basketball Housewives about her journey to writing Don’t Get Mad. Get Sexy. We also got the scoop about her upcoming episode on the hit show Millionaire Matchmaker in which she explains her desire to get married again.

    MM: Have you always been an entrepreneur?

    Laura: Well, I’ve always had a job since I was about 14 years old. Whether it was babysitting in the neighborhood or working for my dad, I always had a job. Becoming an entrepreneur was just the next step. Also, I feel like I had to at this point in my life. I had not worked in a really long time, because I was raising my kids. The situation with my ex came about. So, I had to refocus and figure out how to make money. I’ve always been destined to do something for myself.

    MM: How was the transition from being a full-time stay at home mom to a mom who is an entrepreneur?

    Laura: You know, I just had to make time and effort. I work when my kids are in school, and when they go to bed. You have to have scheduling, and it has to make sense. I don’t spread myself too thin anymore. I don’t say yes to everything anymore. If I can, I can. If I can’t, I won’t. For the most part I work around my kid’s schedules. That’s how the balance comes.

    MM: What inspired the name of your company, Shop in Real Life?

    Laura: I have a real life. I live in my own real life. It’s not so much about being foo foo or having a life that people think I live or what you see. That’s not always the case. I cry. I bleed. I’m a mom and I don’t always get it right. I’m not perfect, and that’s not what’s portrayed or shown. My life is real. I walk in the house, and my kids don’t give a damn about where I’ve been or who’ve I been with. When I walk in the house my kids are like, where is the food?

    MM: Did being on Basketball Wives help you create your brand and launch your business?

    Laura: There’s not many people who can do it without branding themselves on social media. It didn’t really reflect who I was 1000%. It reflected who I was at the time, but not really branded. It’s a gift and a curse.

    MM: What is something you have learned about yourself in the last few years, since the divorce?

    Laura: That I can do anything. I didn’t know then when I got separated after 16 years. I hadn’t paid bills in a long time. I had not done a lot of things in a really long time, but I believed in myself. There’s a lot I had to do on my own. I had to create this life as a single mom with my kids, and figure it out. People think I have a millionaire baby daddy, but that millionaire man doesn’t help me like that. I had to dig deep. I turned my entire life around by myself. It has made me feel amazing. Now, I can tell my kids, “How you think you are going to give up? I didn’t.” It’s a story to tell and I’m appreciative of that story.

    MM: What’s coming up next for you?

    Laura: I wrote a book and it comes out at the end of the year. It’s called Don’t Get Mad. Get Sexy.

    MM: Wow. How long have you worked on the book?

    Laura: It took me about a year. Most people ask me how did I do it? You were in a relationship for 16 years, and he had a baby on you. The separation was very open. All I wanted to do was protect my children. Don’t Get Mad. Get Sexy. really isn’t about him. I wasn’t mad at him. I was moreso like what is my next move. That was the question to myself. My biggest thing was that I wasn’t going to get mad. I wasn’t mad at him or myself. I’m just going to get sexy. Not in the sense of go show your breasts or something. I was going to get sexy in every way. Work on my mind. Work on me internally. All of my sexiness oozes out in the way I carry myself or speak.

    MM: Was it hard to revisit some of those tough moments?

    Laura: No, things like that are my therapy. I utilize it as a tool to get it out and tap into my emotions. It’s therapy.

    MM: Would you get married again?

    Laura: Oh gosh yes! And I want to have more kids. I’m going to have more kids. I’m going to get married, and I can’t wait.

    MM: What makes you unafraid to get married again?

    Laura: Who am I to deny myself of love and that butterfly feeling. God just closed one door. Another has to open and I’m going to open it. I just believe that why should I stop my life yearning for a feeling I know I deserve. I’m not meant to be by myself. I can’t wait until my husband finds me. I love love. I’m not bitter. I mean, at first I was like who are these people. I was walking around all angry. But Laura Govan loves love. Laura Govan loves being pregnant. Laura Govan loves to make love. Why would I deny myself of an experience that taught me how to do those things better?

    MM: You sound so grounded. What would you say to a woman who is in a place of recreating her life? Laura: The conversation I had with myself was, ‘okay Lord, now what? Where do I go from here?’ I literally wrote down on a piece of paper that I wanted to be an entrepreneur. Then I had to decide what it meant to be an entrepreneur. Did I just want to be a mom and show a great example of living life and who am I? And teach my kids there are phases to life, but the only thing guaranteed in life is death. No matter what you go through in life, it’s not going to be perfect you just have to live.

    You can check out Govan’s luxurious line at www.shopinreallife.com. Be on the look out for her book release at the end of this year.

  • Relationship Expert April Masini: 3 Common Mistakes Women Make When Dating Posted by Admin

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    Summer is almost gone, and you may still be looking for the right love connection. Maybe you think you found him, and need a few tips on how to keep the interest going. We couldn’t think of a better person to ask about getting your dream man, and how to create a lasting relationship than April Masini. Masini is a highly sought after relationship and etiquette expert. She has shared advice on CNN, Fox News, USA Today, Telemundo, Forbes, The New York Times and many, many more including her forum at AskApril.com where she has answered over 28,000 questions. Masini is also the author of 4 books including Think & Date Like a Man. In 2016, Masini served as TD Bank’s Love and Money expert giving advice on how finances impact relationships, and how to best cope with financial issues. We got the chance to ask our most burning questions including what are the 3 common mistakes women make when they are dating.

    MillionaireMatch: Recently, an article series was released about focusing on money and marriage (http://www.refinery29.com/trophy-wife-salary-comparison ). Most of the women in these articles expressed their discomfort of money talk with their now husbands who make more money than them. When is a good time to talk about money? How should a woman feel if she doesn't make as much as her partner?

    April: More often than not, it’s less about how much someone makes and more about what they value. What people spend on — equally, what they don’t spend on — tells you an enormous amount about them and their values. So, be honest with yourself. Are you a spender or a saver? Are you generous or thrifty? It’s important to understand how you feel about money and what you value — and then assess your dates' relationships with money. For instance, how would you feel about being in a relationship with a man who does very well, and can afford to stay at the Four Seasons, but elects to save and stay at a Holiday Inn? Or, how do you feel about a man who doesn’t tip well versus a man who is generous — regardless of his incomes and assets?

    And, are you a woman who spends $750 on pair of Manolo Blahniks or $100 on a pair of Jessica Simpson pumps. More importantly, do you spend the $750 whether you can really afford it or not? In other words, are you willing to run up credit card debt to buy luxuries? Are you someone who values “keeping up with the Jones”? Or are you someone who values having an emergency fund and savings for retirement? A spender married to a saver will be in for some very challenging times because your values are not aligned.

    Debt — and the kind of debt — tells you as much about someone’s values, as does the way they spend. For instance, are they contentious about debt, or cavalier? Is the debt because of medical bills, medical school tuition bills, or luxury items on a minimum wage salary? There’s responsible spending behavior and irresponsible spending behavior, and the way people handle money and debt, can transfer over to other areas of life too. So, reconsider debt and a credit score as just financial numbers, and see it as a window into other behaviors a date may have.

    At some point the subject of prenup agreements will probably come — whether it’s between the two of you or in relation to one of your prior relationships. This is a great topic to talk about and you shouldn’t shy away from it. It’s also important to discuss spending on any potential or existing children. For some people, stepchildren and the way money is spent on them can be a deal breaker. If one partner is saving for retirement or a vacation as a couple and the other is spending on their children — your stepchildren, prepare for problems!

    MM: What are 3 common mistakes women make when dating?

    April: 1. Not knowing what they want. Self-knowledge will save time, energy and money — for all parties involved! When you know you’re looking for a certain type of partner — whether it’s someone who’s funny, a health and fitness nut — or not, has kids, doesn’t have kids, is wealthy, is middle-class, is not interested in money or has homes all over the world — whatever it is you’re looking for, know it and be able to articulate it.

    2. What’s on paper isn’t the way he treats you, and that’s the make or break point. Believing a man is “the one" because he has everything a woman is looking for, as opposed to the way he treats her. Women may think a guy is “the one” because of how he looks on paper — what he has — but in truth, a man becomes “the one” because of what he does and how he treats her— not based upon what he looks like or what stuff he has.

    3. Falling for a man’s potential. The P word — potential — is a relationship killer. Men are not fixer-uppers. Don’t take on a guy thinking you’re going to change him, because you’re not. The only person you can change is you. When you talk about his potential, you’re talking about everything he doesn’t do or doesn’t have that you want a guy to do and have. Be brutally honest with yourself. Accept a man for who he is, not who you hope he will become.

    MM: Several versions on how to meet your dream man have been offered over the years. There are tons of advice books, seminars and workshops for women encouraging them to better themselves as they wait. How do you think it's best to be 'found' by the man of your dreams?

    April: Have shared interests — and then show up. In other words, assume you have succeeded with number 1 above — specifically, you know the type of man you want — figure out what activities he likes to participate in and take them up. If your guy is into golf, learn to golf. If he’s an art collector, frequent galleries and gallery openings. If he’s into politics, get involved with campaigns and causes. If he’s into self-improvement, subscribe to a lecture series and join a gym. You get the idea…. I am not a believer in opposites attracting. That paradigm might be interesting for the short term, but for a long-term, committed relationship to be successful there needs to be shared values, goals and interests.

    MM: Men and women are using online dating more and more. How do you go from text messages to date?

    April: Have a time-limit rule, let it be known, and then stick to it. People waste far too much time and energy emailing and texting only to discover there is no chemistry face-to-face. Or worse, they spend weeks and months, even years, texting, emailing and calling — but they never meet in real life. If you are looking for a real life relationship, and not a cyber-only one, make it clear you have a rule about limiting time spent texting —— and when you reach the limit, stop texting. Just stop.

    MM: We all have gotten the memo that men are visual. Is there extra pressure for women today to look a certain way due to social media?

    April: Social media isn’t responsible for the fact that men are visual — that goes way back and an anthropologist can probably talk with more authority about how animals use appearance to attract mates — as do human beings. So, this is one of the few items that is not the fault of social media!! However, because of technology, it’s super easy to share your image and that creates a need to look good more often. Selfies, Skype, FaceTime, Instagram, and all other social media where your image is tagged is going to make your face and your body and your actions and the crowds you keep more public. So…. social media just enhances what’s already there — men are visual and they get to see you a lot more because of technology, including social media.

    MM: You get tons of emails and messages asking for your advice on dating. What's one question that comes up often from women? Why do you think that is?

    April: One of the of the tough questions that comes up is how soon to sleep with a date? I recently heard from a woman on my relationship advice forum, https://forum.askapril.com, who was accomplished, attractive and articulate — and she didn’t want to sleep with a guy until there was a commitment from him that they were a monogamous, committed couple. She’d been divorced and wanted a committed, long-term relationship, and she felt this “filter” of no sex before commitment, was going to help her to not get hurt and find her Mr. Right. After eight dates with a guy she really liked, she still didn’t have a commitment from him, and she didn’t want to go all the way on a weekend date/get together because of that — but she knew enough about men to know that they don’t want to have “the talk” about the status of the relationship. Unfortunately for her, and probably no surprise to anyone reading this, her guy moved on. Nine dates, no sex, and he was out. Sex and dating is definitely a balancing act, and expecting a commitment too soon is a big mistake that many people make. Besides, sex doesn’t necessarily imply a commitment. However, most men will feel rejected if you don’t sleep with them after about six serious dates. Is there an insurance policy that a guy you date and sleep with won’t break your heart? Nope. So there’s risk…. and you have to do what’s right for you — but understand that men want to know if you’re sexual, how important sex is to you, if you find them sexually attractive, and whether you’re sleeping with other men at the same time. So, when you decide to sleep with a dating partner or not sleep with them, try to empathize with what they’re going through, as well as what you are as you make your decisions.

    MM: Is it okay for the woman to make the first move? If so, should she prepare to lead the relationship?

    April: Sure, but it depends on how it’s done. For example, there is a giant difference between asking a guy his opinion about something (as a conversation starter) and asking a man on a date. I’m a firm believer that men are competitive and have the hunter gene in their DNA. All men want to win the prize. If a woman pursues a man — she’s made him the prize and taken his hunt away from him. In addition, many women who ask men out and have a great time, write me for advice when he doesn’t call. They think they had a great time, and don’t understand why he’s not picking up the ball. So, they ask him for a second date. Same thing happens — the date goes great, and he doesn’t call. Now, they’ve made the first move, but expect him to pick up where they left off and when that doesn’t happen they write me confused and upset. If you wait for a guy to make the move, you may be uncomfortable waiting, but you’ll know that it was his idea to date you!

    MM: Dating a powerful, successful man can be exciting for some. The entrepreneur, businessman, or CEO can be appealing. How do you grab their attention when their focus is on work and building an empire?

    April: Make sure you fit into his life. In other words, be the woman he would be proud to take to business functions and events. Imagine what he wants to call his friends and tell them about you — be the woman he can’t wait to show off to everyone he knows! What that means is — look the part, act the part, and know the part. Be interested and interesting. Read and learn about his business. Keep abreast of current events, and participate in activities he enjoys. Powerful, successful men are more likely to notice you when you’re at their golf course, or working out at their gym or with their trainer, or eating at the restaurants they frequent. If you’re looking for a powerful, successful man to date, go where they go and be available and engaging.

    MM: What's the number one thing men look for in women that isn't usually mentioned?

    April: Intelligence and a sense of humor. Yes, I recognize that’s two things. But, I think they are both worth mentioning. There’s this myth that men like dumb women. They don’t. That said, nobody likes a know-it-all. But everyone likes to laugh.

    If you want more of April Masini, follow her on Twitter and Facebook. Don’t forget to send her your burning questions!

  • Cheat sheet for cheaters:Signs that your partner is cheating on you Posted by Admin

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    It’s every person-in-a-relationship’s worst nightmare—infidelity.

    You think you’re happy. You plan your lives together. After all, you’ve invested so much in the relationship—emotionally, physically, and even financially (Hello, joint bank account).

    But then you have this nagging feeling that won’t go away. Your natural instinct seems to be warning you that your partner is cheating.

    Here are some telltale signs to look out for and help you determine your next move.

    • Sudden impulsive behavior. Having an affair can make people feel young and reckless again, and this can manifest in a sudden desire to do things that you already relegated to your younger selves. If you know your partner to be someone conservative or introverted and all of a sudden he/she wants to party every night, you should be really curious about his/her motivation.

    • Jealous no more. All of a sudden, your partner is teasing you about how other people are checking you out or how your mailman has a secret crush on you. This, coming from your usually crazy jealous partner. This is definitely a red flag which indicates that your partner is ridden with guilt, and is trying to justify his/her extramarital attractions.

    • The confused treatment. Every time you probe for details, your partner seems at a loss. Sure, it could be stress from work or lack of sleep. But it could also be that your partner is confused by his/her own string of lies and that he/she is having a hard time keeping up and making it consistent.

    • Mobile at hand, all the time. This physical sign is easily one of the most common manifestations of a cheating partner. Unless your partner’s job requires him/her to be on the phone all the time, you should be at least curious when your partner is seemingly attached to his/her mobile device.

    • Bleak future. If your partner is no longer as interested in long-term planning with you or is not as concerned about the direction of your relationship five years from now, it’s a sign that something (or someone) in the present is keeping him/her distracted.

    Infidelity in a relationship is a serious and sensitive matter. How you move forward is a decision that no one else can make for you, so approach it with a clear heart and a focused mind especially if there’s a lot at stake.

    If and when you do find out that your partner is cheating on you, what should you do? How will you move forward?

    Watch out for our next blog post on dealing with the fact that your partner cheated on you.

  • Relationship Advice 101: Handling Conflict Like A Pro Posted by Admin

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    A strong and stable relationship is not built on the absence of conflict. Conflict is inevitable—whether it’s about deciding which restaurant to eat in on your anniversary or visiting the in-laws this weekend.

    The key to a smooth-sailing relationship is the couple’s ability to manage conflict in a mature and healthy way.

    Of course, this sounds easier said than done. When you or your partner is emotionally charged, the hardest thing to do is be rational and calm. But if you want your relationship to work out and you want your partner to be THE one, managing conflict should be part of your ready set of skills.

    Where to begin? Here are some expert tips.

    No yelling and no name-calling. Raising your voice and calling your partner a ‘twit’ is not going to diffuse the tension in any way. If anything, it’s just going to give your partner another reason to be upset and to prolong the argument. Stick to the issues, and as much as possible, DO NOT yell. (It may also help to think about the other people in the house who may get dragged into the argument if you turn up the volume, kids most especially.)

    Try to focus on where you went wrong (and right), not on who did wrong (or right). Try to isolate yourself, and your partner, from the situation. This is important to avoid finger-pointing and blaming.

    If you can, try to be the first to apologize. Even if your partner does not seem ready to do so. Even if you feel and you know that you are right. Apologize for making your partner upset, and then proceed to explain your side of the story. Apologizing is also a sign of how much you love your partner because you are more interested in reconciling than proving how right you are.

    If the anger is too intense that you cannot control it, walk away, for a short while. Sometimes, creating physical space between you and your partner while emotions are high is the best option to better resolve the conflict. When you walk away, however, know that it should be temporary (and not too far away; don’t go on an island holiday in the middle of a conflict), and that the intent is still to make up with your partner.

    Do not bring up mistakes from the past. Otherwise, you’ll never stop fighting. Focus on the issues today. And keep in mind that both of you are guilty of doing or saying hurtful things in the past but you’ve chosen to stay together and move on anyway. If that’s still what you want, then focus on solving the problem now.

    Relationships, particularly the romantic type, really do tend to get difficult after the honeymoon stage. But they don’t have to be, if you know how to handle the tricky situations that can ruin the foundation of your relationship. Always focus on the long-term; don’t sweat the small things. And be realistic—your partner, and you, are not perfect.

    So stop fighting, kiss and make up (*wink, wink*)!