Relationships and love affairs are types of deals.
In order to prove my point we'll start with a simple familiar contract. Will you marry me ? You say yes. I give you a ring in contemplation of the marriage to follow. If for any reason we decide not to marry you return the ring to me. That's the legal binding contract.
Second contract: I own a used car dealership. You come in to buy a car from me. I have you fill out a credit application. I see the following on your credit application. You make $1200 dollars per month ( by the way you couldn't finance a car if that's all you made per month, but I want to keep the number low in this example so you can see my point ). Been on your job 5 years, your rent is $500 a month, your furniture monthly payments are $300 a month. You have $1000 for a down payment on the car, and another $500 in the bank. I sell you a $6000 car with a monthly payment of $400 month. These are the terms of the Contract. I want a total of $2000 down. You give me your $1000 cash, go to the bank get me your other $500, and you are to borrow $500 dollars from your mother that totals your $2000 down payment. As the Car Dealer I already know that the moment you sign this contract You MUST default on it at some point. Which means I get to keep all of your money, and I get my car back (repo) to sell again. Why MUST YOU violate this contract. Because you only make $1200 per month. I've put you on a contract which takes away every penny that you make ( rent $500, furnisher $300, car note $400,that's $1200 your total monthly income, plus you now owe your mother $500, which you cannot possibly pay all of your money is gone). On top of that you need car insurance, gas, food, none of which do you have money for. Mom's is on your back for her money, and I know that before you'll starve to death, and loss your place to live you'll do what ? Let's all say it together NOT PAY THE CAR NOTE !!. Which I knew the moment you signed the Contract.( foot note : this type of contract is what cause the housing market to crash, it's illegal, but that my dears is story for another day ).
Third Contract: THE LOVE CONTRACT/ RELATIONSHIPS. The terms of the relationship are whatever is agreed upon by the people in the relationship ( open relationship, monogamous, bondage what ever. The number one cause of the breakup of most relationships is that the parties never discuss the terms of the relationship. ( Danger Will/ Willamina Robinson, Danger, smile).
Example: You go with some friend s to a night club ( by the way you don't like them, friends insisted, smile). You meet a nice guy there, and the two of you start dating. He likes to go to the club four nights a week and you go with him ( hate every minute of it, smile ). Months pass the two of you move in together. On the first night he gets ready to go to the club and YOU say I think we should stop going to the club, You know I never liked going there in the first place. YOU just broke the contract. Wait, what are you talking about knowitall, WHAT CONTRACT? You see by continuing going to the club and never saying that you didn't like going. You entered into a contract with him, which said that going to the club 4 nights a week was ok with you, it became a part of your relationship. You now don't have the right to unilaterally change the contract without him agreeing to the change. It's not fair. You see you can enter into a verbal contract, or you can enter into an assumed contract by not having said that you don't agree with the contract. I see people on the site all of the time upset about what someone wants them to do in order to go out on a date. Don't be upset, it's a negotiation, thats their offer, make a counter offer if you like, otherwise just walk away from the deal. In business and love my position is there is no deal that I won't walk away from if the terms are not acceptable. Tell the truth some of you have enter into some of these contracts haven't you. Especially that LOVE one (smile). Now you're thinking knowitall go away, we don't like the things you have to say (smile). Yes but you're reading them, that's whats important (smile)