I see you are a "newbie!" .... WELCOME to the forums!
I dont think ANYONE here is viewing "Interracial Dating" as a Negative...
The author posted people should NOT see color and date anyone... and all I have stated is.
1) DATE WHO YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO.
2) IF ONE IS NOT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE OF ANOTHER RACE, WHO CARES? I see this as no different than men who like "larger women" versus "smaller women.."
I DO however get sick of being accused of being a racist B/C I am NOT normally attracted to men of another race.
My son turns 23 in less than a month and his first GF was full Puerto Rican and his second GF was full Asian. I saw NO PROBLEM with this and adored BOTH young ladies!! In fact, they loved me too, as I would be the one smacking my son upside his head when he was not treating them as I felt he should! LOL..
It's who HE was attracted to.. Plain and simple!! HIS PERSONAL TASTE (which actually varies widely!)
I have 2 GF from this site who are black but only date white men. WHY? B/C that's what they are attacted to. I do not consider them predjudice of their own race.. They are attracted to who THEY are attracted to.
THAT'S why I said, TAKE THE RACE CARD OUT! Date who you find sexually appealing, as MARRIAGE IS "SUPPOSED" TO BE MONOGOMOUS AND FOREVER,---- AND THAT IS A LONGGGGG TIME TO BE WITH THE SAME MAN OR WOMAN.. ;)
Enjoyed your profile and loved the yellow!! I saw on the Steve Harvey show just yesterday lemon yellow is "IN" this season! Yellow has always been my "happy" color!
WELCOME to the forums and best wishes in finding what you seek!! OH, and PS.. I still believe in Fairy Tales as well! --- That's why I'm a Princess!! LOLOL...
to say you seek a black man/woman or you seek a white man/woman shows you have PREDJUDICIAL ISSUES...
WHAT IS BEING MISREAD HERE NGL?
There is no "grey" area in such a statement. The OP was not asking a question as in,
"Are individuals who seek only one race predjudice?"
He made a DECLARATIVE, and ended with a PERIOD.
I am a published writer so perhaps my level of understanding sentence structure differs? However, it appears the OP is educated and merely made a staunch black/white statement regarding dating and how one fills out profiles. As an accomplished advertiser with years and many published "ads" behind my belt, I am saying when you want to purchase a half gallon of vodka in South Carolina, you can't get what you seek at WalMart, so shop at the liquor store unless beer and wine suffices your appetite... and you won't be successful on any Sunday or after 7:00 PM Monday - Saturday.
GO FOR WHAT YOU SEEK--- and in DATING, it is "initially" SEXUAL ATTRACTION.... (otherwise most women would go for the short, fat, bald, guy who is typically shunned, but super sweet!)
Now you are saying you AGREE with him that women as myself who place WHITE on my profile are predjudice. I take offense to this. (Not to you, .... you know I adore you... :) But do not feel you are viewing this clearly as it IS a Black / White statement.) I am now being "reproached" for being sexually stimulated and attracted primarily to white men... I find this akin to being called "offensive" for saying MERRY CHRISTMAS versus Happy Holidays.
It is statements as this that continue the cycle of predjucide individuals.
I am unaware if Dr. Ben Carson is "available"... but I would date him if he were and he asked.
WHY? B/C I DO feel he is an "attractive" man--- and further I enjoy his insight as he is intelligent and didn't accomplish his measure of success riding on the coat tail of "racism".... He got all things on his own merit. And guess what? I bet he wouldn't bat an eye at me having WHITE on my profile.
WHY? B/C he would view me as a middle -aged white woman who filled out a profile who is articulate and self-aware enough to know what "usually" entices my sexual appetite... (Much akin to the lesbian woman who places "woman seeking woman" on her profile.. This dies NOT mean she hates MEN.. )
However, old Ben and I might have to part ways if we dated, as I think he is just a wee bit too staunch of a conservative. ;)
NOW: Dear ORIGINAL POSTER: Just addressing MY thoughts and did not take your post as meaning I personally as a white woman placing white men on my profile, am predjudice. I do not take high offense, as we "discuss" matters of interest as they arrive. I DO feel if you read some comments, you might actually have a clearer understanding of how NOT ALL INDIVIDUALS who place "white" OR "black" hold any more meaning to it other than, THESE ARE TYPICALY THE MEN I AM SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO, and with the pond being so enormously large, I am narrowing it down in hopes of finding what I seek.
WRONG NGL.. LOLOL... :) When one starts out a thought claiming : IF ONE IS SEEKING A RELATIONSHIP, DON'T SAY BLACK OR WHITE.. (OR YOU ARE PREDJUDICE)
This is an insult to me, as I DO HAVE WHITE on my profile. WHY? I am not generally attracted to black men or men of another race. My "preference / sexual attraction / taste" is typically tall, white men with broad shoulders and blue eyes..... DATE SITES ARE AN ADVERTISEMENT FOR WHAT WE SEEK. Smart "advertisers" know what they seek and stick to the plan to be successful! So if I put "black" it would be portraying a "preference" I do not desire. That is about like me getting rid of the "HEIGHT" card... I do not care how good looking a man is... If a man is not at a minimum 5'10", (and actually I LOVE a man 6'2".... )
WELL, HE AIN'T GETTING A DATE WITH ME..
WHY? B/C I LIKE TALL MEN AS THEY MAKE ME FEEL PROTECTED AND TOWER OVER ME!! I embrace the fact I am a little woman! In fact on one date site I have if you are not close to 6" ,, don't waste your time. Guess what? Some men only prefer women with some "back" and big breast.. THAT AIN'T ME! I do NOT take it offensively. You can't help what you are attratced to. THE PURPOSE OF ME DATING IS TO FIND A MAN I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE THAT HAS A PERSONALITY I CAN ACTUALLY STAND! ;) (Tongue in cheek, but you get the drift!) If it weren't about SEX, we could date the nicest man alive!
The author also states: LOVE HAS NO COLOR, IT IS COLOR BLIND..
TRUE! LOVE has no color. But guess what? ATTRACTION DOES!!
CHEMISTRY and ATTRACTION see colors on NUMEROUS levels.. The "colour" of height, weight, bald, hair style, mannerisms, personality, dress style, education, politics and yes, even color of skin can count. Just B/C a black man might not be attracted to white women, or white women might not be attracted to black men, does NOT deem an individual is predjudice and to think that way is narrow minded in my view. I'm not, nor would I want to be attracted to any and all.
I SEE ATTRACTION! I LIKE "PRETTY PEOPLE." I'M SHALLOW THAT WAY! I typically am a sucker for BLUE eyes! Not many black men have the eyes, (face) I am attracted to.
HOWEVER, I would go out with a handsome black man ANY DAY OF THE WEEK OVER a heavy, short bald white dude!
But in saying this, I do NOT have black listed on my profile, as it is not the "typical look" I am SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to... I already find it difficult to reject white men I don't find sexually attractive.
Now if you will excuse me, my date awaits me.. Heehee~
Now THIS is one FINE specimen of a man and his "color" doesn't count! WHY? B/C.. HE IS JUST ONE FINE SPECIMEN OF THE MALE SPECIES! PRAISE JESUS HE ISN'T GAY! (BUT NOBODY TELL HIS WIFE ON ME! LOLOL... )
I guess for me, there just isn't a spot that says, "HUNKY PRETTY, BUT TOUGH GUYS!!" ;)
Gotta jump on the Hoping and BePostive bandwagon and say I agree with them.
I am gonna sound super corny here but I'll type it anyway. I look at it like we are all God's flowers and he loves every single one BUT I am prone to be attracted only to a few. I can have friends that vary in looks, beliefs, personalities and everything else but who I am attracted to is another story and to say I'm prejudiced is the farthest thing from the truth.
There is a new dating site for blacks only. Personally I don't care but what if there was a whites only site? I think they would be getting a lot of flack from the media for it even though there are many sites for different types of people.
MYKKO- First, WELCOME to the forum! Always great to collect others insights. It's usually fun to debate issues back and forth and see where others stand in their thinking! Very nice profile too BTW... ;)
So MYKKO- I see on your profile, your cut off date for a woman is 11 years YOUNGER than you.. WHY? Are you predjudice of older women? I mean, heck, another year and I am no longer in your league. Should I take this personally? Or are you just a man who knows himself well enough to know what he is attracted to, and you have found women your age or within 10 years of your age range, not so appealing to you?
SAME PREMISE HERE....
I'm sorry, but I must say I disagree...
Now before anyone goes throwing stones,,,, LOL..
Please allow me space to explore my thoughts here..
A person's SEXUAL PREFERENCE has NOTHING to do with color... it has to do with ATTRACTION!! And if anyone thinks dating isn't about sex--- GROW UP! ;)
What about gay people? They are sexually attracted to the SAME SEX... Are they predjudice against the opposite sex since they can feel no attraction to them on a physical level?
MEN-- Do you look at a woman's body size? If she outweighs you by 30 lbs, ARE YOU INTERESTED IN DATING HER? Well, there ARE some men who are ONLY attracted to women who are extremely over-weight. My ex knew a man like this in the Navy. He said if a woman did not weigh 300 lbs... his buddy was NOT interested! My ex, on the other hand, is only attracted to "little women." If a woman is too tall or too heavy, he isn't attracted to her physically, period. IS HE PREDUDICE OF "LARGE WOMEN?" NO, he can be friends all day long with women of any size, but he does not feel a desire to be intimate with a woman he is not sexually attracted to.
My ex also prefers brunettes... (Trust me--- I cured him on blondes! LOL) So is he predjudice of blondes and reds? No, but his PREFERENCE is brunettes. A brunette on the street will turn his head much quicker than a blonde. NOTE: I knew this 24 years ago and never considered him "predjudice." I just watched him closer when the dark haired girls passed by! LOLOL... ;)
Now WHY was he attracted to me, despite my hair color? Well, that goes far deeper into chemistry and pheremones... But I was NOT his preference, and still 24 years later, he prefers darker hair women.
NGL--- I see you have slim, petite, average, and athletic checked off.. WHY NOT HEAVY? If a woman weighed 200 pounds NGL, and she asked you out, are you going to go out with her and allow her to think there might be some "SEXUAL CHEMISTRY?" Are you predjudice of heavy set women? Now before anyone gets too upset....... RAY and I are BUDS!! I'm just USING THIS AS AN EXAMPLE!
WHY MUST RACE HAVE A SEPARATE CATEGORY WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION? WHY CAN'T SOME PEOPLE SEE RACE IS MERELY WHAT SOMEONE IS ATTRACTED TO, JUST LIKE HAIR, BODY SHAPE, ETC.... AND HAS NOTHING, NOT ONE THING TO DO WITH COLOR!!! I AM SOOOOO SICK OF THE RACE CARD BEING PLAYED!!!
I have many friends who are married to Hispanics.. (I grew up in south Texas--- VERY common) But I am not generally attracted to Hispanic men. Does that make me predjudice? NO.. It makes me a woman who is typically attracted to tall, muscular men, who happen to be white. And guess what? If they are heavy, not muscular, bald, dress sloppy or can't articulate themselves well,,,,, I'M NOT ATTRACTED EVEN IF THEY ARE WHITE!
Now, funny story-- As a little girl? I WAS attracted to several Hispanic boys.. I outgrew this attraction when I reached my latter teens... Another oddity? I once could not see any beauty in darker cherry wood or dark colors? That was 25 years ago. All I liked were pickled cabinets and white wash. NOW? Guess what color my interior of my home decor is? I went from pastel peach and sea foam green, to BOLD, DARK, ROBUST MAROON-- and you guessed it... DARKER COLOR WOOD VERSUS WHITE WASH!
SOMETIMES OUR PREFERENCES CHANGE--- AND SOMETIMES THEY DO NOT---
But for one to feel just B/C a person is sexually attracted to a particular race means they are predjudice is simply incorrect..
GET RID OF THE RACE CARD---
It has to do with SEXUAL ATTRACTION!!! And trust me--- SEXUAL ATTRACTION CAN'T BE FAKED! If it could... I doubt we'd have millions of gay individuals out there being ostercized and condemned for what they are attracted to!
Again MYKKO-- Very nice to meet you! WELCOME TO THE FORUMS! And best wishes with your quest on MM... ;)
If you are seeking a relationship let it be just that, to say you seek a black man/woman or you seek a white man/woman shows you have Prejudicial issues.If he or she looks good to you its just that. Only in america are we labeld white and black. Germans dont call themselves white and aboriginals dont call themselves black "Only in America". Love has no color its color blind. When you see a beautiful baby you see a beauttiful baby not black or white. For those of you that to continue to seek a relationship based on colors leads only to failure. If you claim to be a christian and you see another christian do you call them a white christian or a black christian? So be very careful when you call yourself a christian and you see colors because the "TRUE LOVE OF GOD KNOWS NO COLORS". Michael James
Michael,,,In an "Ideal World" you are exactly right. However this is a topic than can be discussed for hours upon hours....Racial tension has been in this country for a long long time. I'm glad to say though, I do see a change happening (at least where I live) all for the better to bring us together as one. I personally, see all kinds of beautiful women where I live of all races, colors etc,,, and to me, beauty is beauty I don't care about the rest of the stuff. I want to be with a beautiful women with a warm and loving heart,, period !