Am I just a fantasy or do white men really like me? Interracial Relationship

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View author's info Author Posted on Nov 23, 2012 at 09:57 PM

Lately I have been getting a lot of attention from white males. Even when I go out in public or where ever.
I just want to know if its just because Im black that they are trying to date me?
Someone give me perspective please.

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View author's info Posted on Mar 20, 2014 at 08:35 PM

I think if you were a hooker, men would possibly think of you that way I think. Otherwise, I don't think we talk about the race of a woman we were with the same as if it were action figures we collected (she had Kung-fu grip!!!!)

I'm attracted to basically every race of woman out there and I've never thought it about it that way. Only thing that does suck and semi-supports your question is that when I described one woman I dated, I would always add the label of "She's a KOREAN woman" instead of just saying "She's a new woman I'm dating."

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View author's info Posted on Dec 10, 2013 at 12:47 AM

I've dated both races..more white I think simply because of the area I've lived in. I admit that many times I have felt like a novelty except when it comes to white men prefer and only date black women....At any rate I dont have it in me to pick and choose who I care about based on their skin color..I was raised better than that...

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View author's info Posted on Sep 15, 2013 at 06:58 PM

Did you really want an answer to that question or did you need your ego stroked, just asking.

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View author's info Posted on Jul 06, 2013 at 05:44 PM

A beautiful woman, no matter the ethnicity, will always be noticed by men. MsLovely, SuperiorDesign, and BeautieM are all head turners in my book.

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View author's info Posted on Dec 21, 2012 at 07:49 PM

Good advice superiodesign. I never thought to look for one who has already been in a long term interracial relationship. The education route though im sad to say is where i meet the most lustful white guys lol.

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View author's info Posted on Dec 17, 2012 at 01:09 AM

I think this is a valid question. I was reading an article, I forgot where from but I am sure you can google it, on why black women are so often called "sexy" but rarely "beautiful". Alot of my asian female friends struggle with this as well. Black female sexuality is considered exotic for some white men, and that can be dangerous.
I think dating older white men is one approach, but as someone who has gone that route, you will find amongst wealthy white men you are still, often, a NOVELTY and that is dangerous. If you are really concerned about this I would suggest 1) find someone who has dated black women (seriously) before. It is usually a gold star if the guy has married a black woman or been in a serious long term relationship...because he's less likely to see you as being some fantasy. 2) find someone who is educated and who you genuinely connect with on a personal level.
I love men who love black women (whatever race they are), but you have to find what feels comfortable between someone truly adoring this part of you and someone exploiting it. Trust your intuition.

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View author's info Posted on Nov 30, 2012 at 03:12 AM

Quoting mslovely300:

That why I only date older men (35-45) so I can find someone who is not just out for a good time and is also finacially stable so we can enjoy life.

you are a wise young woman !

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View author's info Posted on Nov 29, 2012 at 09:50 AM

That why I only date older men (35-45) so I can find someone who is not just out for a good time and is also finacially stable so we can enjoy life.

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View author's info Posted on Nov 28, 2012 at 06:07 AM

Quoting mslovely300:

Thank you for the compliment and no it dosent bother me at all, I love white men but sometimes I feel like they are never looking for something serious. At least the wealthy men anyway.

Your welcome. I guess that seems to be the overwhelming theme women run into now adays. Finding that man thats not a "Player" The only thing that comes to mind is, your in that age group where guys are still playing around, sowing their wild oats (I guess thats the old saying) so to speak. I also guess, LOL the only advise would be, be patient, the right guy will come along.

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View author's info Posted on Nov 27, 2012 at 04:34 PM

Thank you for the compliment and no it dosent bother me at all, I love white men but sometimes I feel like they are never looking for something serious. At least the wealthy men anyway.

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View author's info Posted on Nov 26, 2012 at 01:14 PM

no it's because your a beautiful young woman. I guess my question to you is, does it bother you "White Males are attracted to you ?

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