How do you make a long distance relationship work? Long Distance Relationship

  • View author's info Recommended Author posted on Aug 26, 2012 at 08:22


    I have never been able to make a long distance relationship move beyond email.  Does anybody have suggestions on how to sustain a long distance relationship?
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  • View author's info posted on Sep 22, 2016 at 07:05


    I think distance is not the real issue.  I think the kind of relationship is the issue and how you really feel about the person.  If you are after a physical relationship and that is of importance to you and how you give and receive love then the distance will be a problem probably sooner rather than later.  If you want to take your time to get to know someone then emails, phonecalls, texts and weekends away will keep you going until one person makes the discovery that being closer together will take the realtionship to the next level and a move is on the cards.

     

    You can live next door to someone and never make time for them.  Many married people  may as well be in different countries the amount of quality time they spend together.  But their are some who have to make it work and they do because they fall for someone in the army or who works abroad for whatever reason and then a love letter is the greatest thing in the world which will bring you closer in ways you could not imagine as you read and read again the letters of love.  I was always told you make the time for the people you want to be with. 

     

    The world is a big and wonderful place!  With beautiful interesting people!  The question is would you really settle for an ok to bad relationship with someone close who you could see every night (not that you probably would see them every night!) or an out of this world love adventure with someone where you may have to travel to see her and make a bit more of an effort?

    Never settle! You will find ways to make it work for both of you if you really want to. I agree with lovetospa and Abby_frecs!

  • View author's info posted on Feb 10, 2013 at 14:31


    how to make it work?
    well,it takes two to tango.everything is possible if two are ready to give their best to make it  work.
    there are also normal relationships in which happens that one of the partners has to leave the country  for  lets say a year or a two,still they remain together without any problem. So,as I said earlier, its all up to you. and him/her.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 16, 2013 at 10:21


    Where there is a will, there is a way, as they say. I moved around the globe a lot, for work, for studies and most of my relationships were at least for some time - long distance. I even tend to like it that way. Before i used to be too busy with my career to really focus on a relatioship, but even nowadays - i write, mine is a monastic work, so i still need times just for myself and away from anyone else.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 06, 2013 at 19:07


    Vanina, its personal choice, for some  people people matter more than other stuff like $, stuff, job, which can be changed btw. take care :) I hope all of us find what we are looking for :)
  • View author's info posted on Aug 30, 2012 at 18:42


    HI there!
    Well... having long distance relationships is, indeed, very hard. I personally had two, and I must admit none were easy.
    Distance is a tricky factor, because one starts thinking, moving and managing a non-real registry, moves from "reality" to "virtuality". Then, idealization kicks, and one starts projecting one own´s wishes and desires of this other being as if they were real, but in fact, those might not be there. 
    Not having the real touch and not being able to be there when the other one needs us, is also another difficult step to overpass. I spent so many nights talking on the phone at ANY time, cause of the time difference, emailing, chatting, sending txtx, bbms... but those were still not enough when I was feeling poorly...
    Still, there are lots of lovely things in such types of relationships, at least for me, diverse cultures, language learning, travelling, experiences exchange... and yea, sometimes there might be love and passion as well!!
    I would say don´t give up easily. If you feel a real connection, just take the chance and fly, meet, spend time together. There´s nothing to regreat. That´s what life is about, isn´t it?
    Take care and best luck!
  • View author's info posted on Aug 28, 2012 at 19:08


    If you are that intrigued by the person you will move beyond emails. You have skype, telephone conversations, making trips to each others country to share in their experiences and life. At some point somebody has to make a decision to move.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 28, 2012 at 09:18


    HI Orlando!
                    I've got a really experience about long distance romance... I must confess I like more  foreign men than argentinian men.
                    Once met a dane and we had great chemistry between us. He lives in Miami. Were nights of endless telephone conversations! and chat. Once a month one of the two we travel to meet (it was an expensive romance!! haha!)
                     Then he moved to Argentina, but I had known the man who who would be the father of my children. But the dane was happy to be in my country. He found a wife and has a kid actually.
                     That experience left me many unforgettable memories. To meet someone and not have the opportunity to be around whenever you want make things more romantic! But if you're looking for a wife I don't recommended because one of the two should leave their current life to start living in the country / city of the other one.
                     (I'm sorry for my poor english! I hope you understood)
    Vanina
     
                    
                    
                   
  • View author's info posted on Aug 27, 2012 at 22:16


    Hi Orlando:  First move from email to phone conversations, then it's simple, invite them to your city for a weekend ( staying in a hotel of course)  If there's a connection, you will find a way to make it happen!
    Good Luck!
    Blanca~
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