3 dates, sex, or you are out Dating Tips and Advices

  • View author's info Recommended Author posted on Aug 25, 2012 at 19:23


    I have met many a man who has told me they expect sex within 3 dates of seeing a woman or they are "outta there."  They have suggested that if a man hasn't gotten "laid" by the 3rd date he is traveling down the road of "friends" or becoming a "meal ticket."  
    This viewpoint goes against my own values, but I'd be curious what men and women think of this rule.
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  • View author's info posted on Apr 26, 2013 at 13:35


    Okay...the counting dates thing is just stupid...

    BUT!   I could never fall for someone that didn't feed my sensuality in the right ways.  Maybe I am more physically connected than most but this whole friends first thing is bogus.  It takes me years to build those soild friendships because they come in part though building and sharing experiences together. I already know upon meeting him and having some conversation about it whether or not the chemistry is there and I am going to explore the relationship sexually.  I don't need just another friend and I am certainly not going to waste his time and money that way.  Wealthy men are BUSY working hard so you can date a millionaire!  If you are unsure about him after the first few dates...then let it go.
  • View author's info posted on Mar 30, 2013 at 18:11


    Not sure who I am quoting here
    " If a guy thinks he has to get laid by the third date, he is really more into dominating women, and stroking his own ego than finding that special woman. If a guy is a man, not an overgrown boy, he wants a real woman that he can love and respect, not seduce. If he finds the right woman then he doesn't give a damn about when they have sex. He is after something a hundred times better. Real love. He hopes that she is as attracted to him as he is to her, and that they have things in common. He hopes that when the time comes that they will be compatible sexually as well. Sex without love is fun, but like eating popcorn. It never really satisfies you. Because the key is love, like we always knew."

    I agree, if you want sex that soon, hire an escort.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 17, 2013 at 10:04


    You are so right. Sex is a wonderful gift from the Gods. But relationships last when there is a deep trust and friendship. And the right relationship makes living sheer joy. Sex alone will never do that. If a relationship is important, build it on a strong foundation and then, oh wow!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 29, 2012 at 14:14


    If a man has to have sex after three dates, just let him go. He could be a walking STD waiting to happen. No worth it. I say get to know him first.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 22, 2012 at 14:12


    I would leave before the edn of date #1 on such circumstances :)
  • View author's info posted on Dec 09, 2012 at 04:50


    Seriously, we are now counting for sex?  I thought that went out with high school?
  • View author's info posted on Nov 14, 2012 at 14:48


    Any man who approaches sex with hard and fast rules has alot of growing up to do. I hope to high heavens I never find myself with someone like that.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2012 at 23:45


    Life is short why wait to the third date
  • View author's info posted on Sep 27, 2012 at 04:03


    I think it just depends on two consenting adults, so go ahead, and put a limit on how many dates before sex if that works for you.. Me I'm all about the free love, I never push the issue.. Let's be honest here, sex is a part of a relationship.  I've had ladies jump me on the first date, and some wait 2 months. You just have to be able to respect sex for what it is...
  • View author's info posted on Sep 25, 2012 at 11:33


    Navog8or
    I concur.

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  • View author's info posted on Sep 24, 2012 at 23:25


    If a guy thinks he has to get laid by the third date, he is really more into dominating women, and stroking his own ego than finding that special woman. If a guy is a man, not an overgrown boy, he wants a real woman that he can love and respect, not seduce. If he finds the right woman then he doesn't give a damn about when they have sex. He is after something a hundred times better. Real love. He hopes that she is as attracted to him as he is to her, and that they have things in common. He hopes that when the time comes that they will be compatible sexually as well. Sex without love is fun, but like eating popcorn. It never really satisfies you. Because the key is love, like we always knew.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 30, 2012 at 19:25


    Women should not have sex with a man as a favor or a job.  Why count dates?  I believe it happens when you feel very close, passionate and want to experience that amazing feeling.  Soul mates may have that experience on their first date.  Others may take many more.  It all depends.  If you feel pressured to have sex, then it's probably not the right time or person.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 28, 2012 at 18:54


    If funny you broach this Orlando as its a constant topic of debate among me and my single friends.

    From my own experience (back when I thought that way) I think most women accept this to be the reality and I think most don't have a problem with it.

    These days, I prefer to build something more substantial without having sex cloud the issue... the drawback is that you wait and then find out the two of you are completly incompatible.  The pro is that you can take your time, make your decision without sex clouding the issue and if you part, you have a far better chance of parting as friends.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 28, 2012 at 16:26


    I think men expect sex sooner than woman.  I have to admit, I do feel the pressure after a few  dates that he has paid for.
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