Can anybody relate to the point between wanting to be with someone in a relationship and wanting to be alone. I have seen that and experienced that. I used to always have a desire to have someone in my life. Lately, I'm finding myself thinking "what for." Being alone means not having to answer to anybody and setting my own path.
I am very happy where I am right now too.
Like my friend said:
If you married a good one, you are in heave.
If you married a bad one, you are in hell.
At least we are all still somewhere on this earth.
Yes, I understand that feeling. That's where I am at right now. I am a little discouraged with the quality of men I have dated as of late. I don't want to be bothered or waste my time anymore. I have a very blessed, active full life but i find myself torn because I know how wonderful it can be to share your life with the right person. Online seems so calculated and easy to rule out people vs the magic and mystery of getting to know someone and being pleasantly surprised? Any thoughts?
Several years ago I had a priest buddy of mine point out an evolving trend: more and more men are not dating. Nothing wrong with these men (women want to immediately jump to the emotionally wounded theory), they have just reached a point in their lives where being happy didn't require a relationship.
I, personally, took 18 months off and it was the happiest I had been in a very long time and led me into the greatest phase of my life.
There is nothing wrong with not dating and one should never be dating as a pursuit of happiness.
It is weird you have the same feelings I have recently been experiencing, but perhaps for very different reasons. Mine is not so much not having to answer to anybody, but more of a time for myself to seive through what is important, what is crucial, what is critical and things to ignore and/or discard!
As I am single, I find that I am able to work through this phase of life much easier and without distractions from a man or being in a relationship! So yep, there are those times even when you are with someone that either of you need to have some time alone - which is why it is acutely important that one finds a mate that is understanding and complete in themselves and not needing to be constantly reassured or clingy and needy!
When women are clingy and needy it is irritating, when men are clingy and needy [possessive and/or obsessive] it could be down right dangerous and fatal.