Age at least in my view is a number. I have met 28 years old women more mature than 50 and also found 40 year olds that havent figured anything in life about. What puzzles me is most women outside the US seem to be much more concerned about the inner world of the man than the numeric number. I will add, i have no issue with a woman that wants children, but i have found and also would guess there are just as many women that if they had the man of their dreams, they would be open to a life full of daily adventure, fun, no games, honesty and be willing to focus her life on the partnership. I guess i continue to be surprised by women that think a man thinks and acts in every way half his numeric age, and just might find some men take care of their body so that number again means nothing. I am in better shape than i was when i was 20. I guess I would love to hear feedback from american women, but also from others outside the US, that confirm my views and maybe give the US women some feedback why a 60 years old may be actually only 30 if you look past the number!!!!
It is my belief that the best age difference is 5 years plus or minus ones age if one is interested in a successful long-term relationship. An older guy with a younger woman seems creepy to me in these modern times, however an older woman with a much younger man can be quite interesting for a short time. :)
I kind of agree too. Your message did put an empathsis on age. It's not just women who are concerned about the age of the men that they date, but men too.
I am glad that you mentioned that you don't mind having kids. However, there are men in your age group that already had the marriage and the kids (And don't want to go through it again), but they still want to date the 18 to 25 year old women. And yet those 18 to 25 year old women do want the marriage and kids.
But I also think that the reason why people, like myself, put an emphasis on age is because I want someone that I can relate to. I cannot relate to any man, right now, who is 18 years old. At the same time, I can't relate to any man who is in his 60s.
That's my point of view anyways.
I was in a relationship with a 79 year old. I met him when I was 26. I'm 35 now. He taught me so much. That was my best relationship ever. Unfortunately he had a heartattack and passed away. Age has never been a deterant for me. I prefer older than younger
Dating or marrying someone within a certain age is a societal issue in America. There is actually a formula: (Current Age/2) + 7 = Minimum age to date/marry. Anything below that number gets societal disapproval, raised eyebrows, labels, and talk. It could be one doesn't care, but peer and family pressure can be great.
I'm certain if I had an 80 year old boyfriend, no one would bat an eye and say, "GOLD DIGGER!" LOL..
OR, if I had a 30 year old man, no one would blink and say, "Why would a woman date a man only a few years older than her son?" OR, "Why do youngmen like those older broads?"
Nobody goes by that number equation, unless they date people ridiculously out of their age range!
It is very seldom such age ranges SURVIVE long term. Not saying it can't happen or hasn't; just that it is very unusual. WANTING CHILDREN is the MAJOR factor.
60/2 = 30 + 7 = 37....
37 year old woman can still "safely" have babies...
60 year old men, should NOT have children. The risk of health and birth defects doubles when a man hits 50....
It's really simple...
Very few women desire a man "that much older," if she isn't seeking his wallet! And everyone bear in mind, the OP is 62 and seeking 32-48? (and "claims" to be wanting "love") Bwahahahahaha!
I'll say it straight up---
The OP's sole purpose for this post, since he is NOT using the forum to blog or respond, (2 posts), is a paid member who can contact women) etc...
Well, my brilliant advertising deduction makes it clear to me, he only used this post to direct young gold-digging traffic his way. It's his billboard! ;)
I am a 37 yr old america female; personally for myself it is not about specific number, but what I am attracted too. I prefer older I have not dated many, but the handful has always been at least ten years older. I don't think is about age, but knowing what one wants in life as well I have come across many who are very shallow in their expectations. however, this just my personal opinion and observations that I have encountered. As for women not wanting children after late 30's-40 I am turn 38 and have no children. Yes, I would love one, but never been married so unfortunately have not had.that blessing. It was just my preference in not to have a child out of wedlock and family atmosphere. If settle down at my age I am ok in having as well not having a child. interesting thread though as well great points mentioned.
I beleive that men put more of an emphasis on age than women. In most profiles, I see men requesting girls, 18-25 when they are 45-60 in age and to be honest, not capable of fullfilling anything an 18 year old needs other than a piggybank. It isn't really a venue women in their 30-40 age range can compete with, nor do most want to. If you cannot even order these girls a glass of fine wine at dinner, why would you want to date them?
It is very rare of ever that I see a profile of a woman asking for an 18-25 year old man. Age isn't just a number, it reflects on changes in our lives and the character we have been able to build. At 18, you haven't built anything, so why would you ask to date someone that age? Could it be you do not care or are truly not intersted in any actual relationship beyond the physicality but will not admit it publicly?
I think you can say the same thing about men. I know plenty of men that still want a 25 to 35 year old as their first choice for obvious reasons. I am 44 and I tend to mesh well with men 35 to 45 because we often tend to have the same jokes and reference points. If I met a spectacular man and he was older I'd be open to it but he'd need to not act old.
Well said Hoping4love2000! Most of the men in their 50's and older on MM want women in the 25-30 yr age range. They say they want the woman to be financially well off as themselves, they believe this will protect them from gold diggers. What about the divorced women who came by their money by way of the ex-husband? A woman's income doesn't necessarily dictate that she is going to be looking for a man with money to "take". If anything it seems to me that since these men have the money they also have the upper hand and can very easily break off anything that doesn't seem right. I agree about the younger women who date older men who are through with raising families and want to enjoy the fruits of their labor with travel and cultural pursuits. They go along with it to be wined and dined and taken care of and then change their minds when the clock starts ticking. Find a woman close to your own age if you really want love and "happily ever after", you have a much better chance at succeeding.
Although I respect your opinion, I do not find this to be true. I have many offers and relationships from men in their 50's (me being 42). They do not expect me to have wealth, although they do expect me to have financial responsibility. Maybe it is my education and profession since they know that a college professor is limited in income. I can say that the one difference that MIGHT set me apart is that I have not wanted marriage. I approach things in a non traditional way. I have been particularly happy in open and long distance relationships. I have my own life and want some independence. Normally the man does not use the freedom, but he likes it being there. They feel pretty committed. I get the "L" word. The fact I don't (or at least haven't) want marriage maybe making it easier. I am open to marriage if I meet the right person, so we will see what happens.
HI SCHOLARGIRL-- AND WELCOME TO THE BLOGS!!
I too have dated many older men. (I am 46 next month.)
This blog is about men ONLY interested in "far younger women." not men who are realist! I think the woman who respnded to me just missed a word in her initial sentence, (Most of the men in their 50's WHO WANT young women) You are no referring to "these" men. This particular man is in his 60's and is considering more children and wants to know why he can't land a 30 year old easily, and faults the women on the age issue!! LOL
I agree with you completely--- Most "sensible" men in their 50's etc... DESIRE a woman DONE with children! We've all, "been there, done that!" and ready to enjoy our lives on another realm!
Personally, men don't ever care what my value is financally. I just tell them upfront, I'M BROKE! ;)
NICE BIKE! You need to get that picture of your new one! ;)
I think age difference depends ONE MAJOR FACTOR.
BY 36, you may feel you are old enough and self-aware to know if you want children. (and you very well may be) But I have seen MANY women around their 40's... (Something about that old time clock ticking! LOL.. ) CHANGE THEIR MIND... This may not happen to you of course, but you still have YEARS to make a final decision. You appear "free spirited" so this may never happen in your case, however, 2 things I note about your profile.
1. It does not say DON'T WANT CHILDREN--- EVER... so it does not appear you are adamant about NO CHILDREN?
and 2. If you will date young men of 28 / 30 / 32 / 35.... Well, even if they think they don't want children ever-- They still have YEARS to change their mind.
I find dating after 45 much easier. It's a no-brainer for me. If a man is of "good" age to have children and does not already have them, I DON'T DATE HIM. (I consider men at 40 to be of age to rely on him NOT changing his mind.) I don't want to be left at 50 or 55, by some man I love that I got with when he was 30 who SWORE he didn't want children ever.. and then 10 years later has that yearning,,, and yes ladies,, SOME MEN DO YEARN FOR CHILDREN TOO.. In fact, I've known couples who have split B/C the WOMAN said NO to kids! LOL...
Ive also seen "bad dating." I had a friend from HS.. He is raising 2 boys and is SNIPPED! NO WAY is he having more children! .. Well he dated a woman 28 who had never been married and had no children... 2 years later, it didn't work! WHY? B/C she still had to LIVE LIFE... And part of her future is to possibly have children. I told him I didn't feel sorry for him... He should have known better!!
People may "THINK" age is "just a number".. but at the end of the day----
CHILDREN RULE OUR LIVES--- EVEN SOMETIMES BEFORE THEY ARE CONCEIVED!
People need to date responsibly.
And the original poster here.. 62 says NOT SURE IF HE WANTS MORE CHILDREN?? OMG!! That is INSANITY! Men start increasing for birth defects at 40! (as do women)
Good to see new members posting ladies!! WELCOME TO THE FORUMS! Hope to see you around more. The blogs get stagnent with lack of members. BEST WISHES TO ALL OF YOU IN FINDING WHAT YOU SEEK! :)