Great question! I've only been a member for 2 days but I wondered the same thing. So far, I have received a few winks but I would love to hear from people who have been on the site for some time...
I've been on here for a few years, only a few months as a paid member. As a paid member, I got a lot of scammers and winks. Now that I am on here as a free member, I have recently been in communication with hopes something will work out with us. He reached out to me as a paid member.
It's a numbers game, so to speak because it's not a game. But, you do have to reach out on a continual basis when your not a paid member, a wink or comment. If they like your profile, they will be in contact.
Hope this helps, it's not a lot of fun being alone for Valentines Day. :(
If I found love on here, I would not be on here. I just joined and someone that I sent a wink to responded right away that he doesn't make millions. I NEVER ASKED! So much for finding anyone with looks, personal and security.
Seriously, if every single picture in your profile is you either in lingere or a bikini how can you possibly be surprised that men come on to you for sex? That's what you're selling and that's what they are trying to buy.
I understand that you are trying to showcase your assets, but every. single. picture? Dial it down if you're looking for a quality relationship.
I've only been a member for a few days. But, I can say that I've seen two predators from other sites on here. It kind of puts a damper on the amount of genuine guys on THIS site. Though discouraging, I still have faith from the couple of prospects I've been conversing with. I wish you all much luck!