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  • View author's info Author Posted on Jul 18, 2012 at 06:09 PM


    Hi, I'm a single mom.  I am having a problem with dating because of it!  Just an hour ago I was having a chat with a guy who seemed really nice until he said "oh, you already have a kid... sorry I'm not interested."  What a douche.  Oh well, not all men are like that but I need to know where to look to find men who are not!!
    I am young (22 years old) and my son is 5!  We are so happy, except I'm kinda lonely.  I barely look like I've had a child, and I am a lot of fun.  I live a healthy lifestyle, and I'm mature.  Men seem to be looking for that, but they rule me out because I have a small family member... Their loss!
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  • View author's info Posted on May 21, 2017 at 01:31 AM


    good morning ladies. my profile is one of those that state my preference for wanting to date a woman with no children therefore i am drawn to this discussion. anyone who knows me or even spending one day with me will find it clear that i love children. i have so many nieces and nephews great and even a generation of great greats.  that i can not honestly name or count but they all know and love uncle Richard. i will not attempt to speak for all men these are my own words and maybe in sharing with you i can take away some of the sting when you encounter others whos preference seems to exclude you. AT 43 YRS OLD I HAVE DATED ALOT. I LIKE MATURE AGED WOMEN SO NATURALLY I HAVE BEEN IN MORE RELATIONSHIPS WITH CHILDREN THAN WITHOUT. ONE REASON FOR MEN PREFERRING NO KIDS IS THAT ONCE THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER ITS EASY FOR US TO GO ON AND FORGET THE WOMAN. (sorry) BUT THOSE KIDS OF YOURS TAKE A HOLD ON OUR HEARTS THAT MAKE TEARS FALL OF THEIR OWN ACCORD. ESPECIALLY WHEN GRANDKIDS ARE BORN INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.  also, i have noticed that with with all mothers and fathers having more than one child there is a special bond that is just natrually present with the firstborn. I do want children and i love the mentality of women who have already had children more than those who have not. i view children as arrows shot from an archers bow that we as parents are privileged to aim and direct and prepare to go farther than we were able to go. with that being said, i want my child to have that special bond with his/her mother. its really not as vile as you make it out to be.

     

  • View author's info Posted on Feb 10, 2013 at 11:51 AM


    I can see the disappointment of hearing an early 20ish have a kid. That doesn't necessarily register in the mind of a man in his early 20s nor in the mind of an older man who's trying to live out his fantasy of dating a much younger woman. Your age is viewed as youthful, carefree, full of energy, having that spark before life changes your views, innocent, freedom to travel at any moment, late night booty calls, etc. A child sort of ruins the fantasy that some guys have about dating a young woman.
    It's always best to make that one of the first things that you disclose after making communication. If he can't accept that you have a kid, then it's nothing lost. Your kid comes first. Men may come and go, but your child will always be your child. Don't let douches get you down or distract your ultimate goal which is to find a man who will appreciate you as a woman and mother.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 14, 2012 at 11:59 PM


    Quoting Orlando__:

    There are guys who don't have issues with children.  In fact, I look for women who have had kids because it shows they are other centered.  If somebody rejects you because of your child... screw them.  They are not deserving of you and your child deserve better as well.

    Agreed, I love my son so much that I'm a proud mother. If men those men aren't into it, they aren't the right ones.
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 31, 2012 at 02:50 AM


    I am new on here so just came across this post.
    Yes I agree if you are a mom that is who you are and should be celebrated our children are gifts.   Some of my best relationships friends started from the friends in my children's life so I am thankful for that.  Any relationship worth having should be accepting of who you are and what you already have and remembering deserving and not settling for.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 19, 2012 at 09:39 PM


    There are guys who don't have issues with children.  In fact, I look for women who have had kids because it shows they are other centered.  If somebody rejects you because of your child... screw them.  They are not deserving of you and your child deserve better as well.
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