Sheesh ladies... go read "He's just not that into you!"
Just because true love is "right in front of him" doesn't mean it's the true love he wants!
Look it like buying an apple. You go into the grocery store, walk back to the produce section and stand in front of several bins full of apples. The apples are essentially all the same and even knowing that, you still pick through them all until you find just the one you want. Heck you may even hold one or two up, admire them, turn them around in your hand and then for whatever reason decide their just not perfect enough FOR YOU and put them back! It doesn't mean there's a damned thing wrong with the apple(s) you put back... in fact, if stand there and watch, the next person will probably buy that very one you admired and put back!
Guys are no different... we want the one that we want...
The difference is, while we're sorting through the bin, we might try to nibble on one we know we're not gonna buy!
I'm not sure if the ability for one to love another is the big question.
I've met and went out with many who state they are looking for real and true love.
However, once we met, they're ecstatic that I was as real as my pics, the person emailing and from our talks. Told they loved me soon after meeting, and then find them on some dating site looking for casual sex with 18-50 with talks of them giving towards their college fund. . Is it not finding true love or scared of finding true love? More casual pleasures because they fear getting hurt. I never allowed the chance for them to know the reason for me making it hard for them to continue pursuing me. Easier for them to be angry at me and them continue their lives in fantasy world because they had a chance with a real loving woman and lost it. So, they wander in the mist searching for something they proclaim to want but not strong enough to hold it. They're weak and I prefer to give my heart to someone strong.
Love will never be until you're able to be strong enough to handle the possible pain of loss.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! I don't expect love in return. I just wait for it to grow in your heart but if it doesn't, I am content it grew in my. As much as you give as much you will recive, even more... Good luck to all
LOVE I WISH PERSON MEAN IT WHEN THEY SAY IT. LOVE IS A BIG WORD TO ME WITH ALOT OF MEANING. IF I TELL SOMEONE I LOVE THEM IT IS GENUINE, IT COMES STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART.N0WADAYS YOU HAVE PERSON SAYING THAT THEY LOVE YOU AND THEY DONT. THEY WILL SING ON IT LIKE A SONG. IM A CANCERIAN AND I DONT MESS AROUND WITH PERSON FEELINGS. SO I DONT WANT ANYONE TO MESS AROUND WITH MINE. TRUE LOVE IS HARD TO FIND BUT I HAVE TO BE PATIENT. PLZ DONT LET ME WAIT TOO LONG LOL SERIOULY.
Once a person learns how to love and give in a relationship they become a magnet to attract others who seek the same person. Change your mindset to think about giving and serving your partner instead of measuring your expectations against their qualities. And be sure not to expose your expectations so you don't give yourself a false sense of security when they attempt to mold themselves to such expectations. Men are known to do that.
Also don't let them think it is all about you and what they can do for you. Instead find a partner who is a giver such as yourself, who will let you know what they want to do for you matching your desire to also give to them without any expectation to expect something in return.
Both dating partners want to feel valued, supported, appreciated, encouraged, acknowledged and affirmed. Not judged or criticised in order to attempt to change them or get them to move in your ways.
Nothing wrong with constructive critisism if done toward a partner who embraces and acknowledges it. A sign they want to change themselves for the relationship not just catering to a demanding partner to keep the peace.
If done the right way both can expect a longterm emotional and physical relationship because they want what the other is giving to them and can't find it in others.
it's not easy. i asked jim is he divorced & is he over ex during 2mo. before coming to him. he wad 17 months to forget her but he keeps talking about her. i dont know what to do with him. he doesnt deserve faithful sweet girl like ME...
i coudnt find out at the beginning that he's insane. hoarder. he's not honest
I like your way of thinking Danny........I am a tru believer that positive atrracts positive and negaitve atrracts negative. The book THE SECRET works and more people should read it. There may be many crazy people on this site but I think once you weed them out there are many wonderful people looking for love. I will never give up hope that LOVE really does conquer all. Being in love is the most azamzing feeling in the world.......I hope to find it again one day. Stay positive folks.......he/she is out there waiting for you.
because so many look at the outter shell first and not the inner shell. If you notice most men on here the max age is still years under their own age. WHY is that? Because they want HOT younger woman. They are not going in and looking at the soul of that person, not even giving it a try. They judge by that outter shell first. Its really sad.
Im not saying hook up with a ugly duckling who doesn't take care of herself but give the average a chance you might find true love for life and not until divorce.