#1 Dating Site for Successful Singles and Admirers

Home > Millionaire Forums > Romance > Older Man & Younger Woman Previous topic Next topic
Jump to:
Older Man & Younger Woman
Author
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Mon, Feb 06, 2012 15:21

I was having an argument with a friend, who said the only reason older man go for much younger woman is because of self-esteem issues or mid life crises...I disagreed
So I want to know what everyone else thinks before I state my opinion.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Sun, Jul 15, 2012 00:56

i must admit seeing older with much younger partners whether male or female can create comments. But if the chemistry and body launguage between the two reveal a mutually respectful, loving relationship then age is only a factor to onlookers...
you remember a few months ago hugh heffner and his then bride to be...they were being interviewed on television and he said something about her that showed he did not respect her and her response was her body language - she did this thing with her eyes which showed she thought he was an idiot - a month or two later their engagement was off..



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Sat, Jul 14, 2012 12:56

My two cents; I think an older man with a younger woman makes him look even older and less desireable. For the majority of older men with younger women, both parties are using the other. I find most Californian men want only younger women.   I personally think almost all older men are repulsive.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Thu, Jun 21, 2012 19:17

As one of the "older men" at 59 I thought it might be worth throwing in my 2 cents.  Older men are interested in Women.  If they are younger it can be fun to see that excitement in her eyes when you are able to keep your zipper up while making her dinner and sipping some good wine.  We've been around the block often enough to want to enjoy every aspect of her company and make sure that she has more fun than she ever had before and can't wait to see what you have in mind this time.  With all that, we can be interested in "younger women" because they are interested in us.  
As to the comment about reviving our sexual power please keep in mind that women in their 40's & 50's are usually much more exciting lovers and orgasmic than women n their 20's & 30's.  I guess 40-50 year old women are still "younger" than me so I might be more full of crap than I realized.  LOL



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Sat, Jun 09, 2012 04:24

Your friend is correct for the most part. Status, ego, and standards play a role in the man's
choice of women. To be able to have a youger woman on his side is a big ego booster for most older men.  
I am not certain if you have heard of "keeping up with the Jones', well in the case of an older man and younger woman  it like  "Let the Jones' see what I have".  I makes them feel good to have a younger woman, and I really don't see the problem with that.
But I prefer not to see the 18 year old girl with a 50 year old man, not a pretty sight.
If she is mature, that would be a different story and maybe a 50 year old man would be ok.
Do some reading on relationships and you will find the answer to your question.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Sat, Jun 09, 2012 01:51

older man cant make u feel youngn again.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Sat, Jun 09, 2012 00:19

I do enjoy the pleasure an older man can give, slow and gentle ....not in a rush but want to enjoy the taste smell and bask of the fruit..



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, Jun 01, 2012 01:35

Sigh.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, May 11, 2012 14:01

ETHAN.. Perusing the blogs here... and I have to say.. SMART THINKING! 
"Middle-age" is upon me in a few days and this means my time for dating anyone WANTING children of their own is going to be nixed! I wish it weren't true, as my heart says "Hey.. I would do that!" BUT.. my age depicts this is not a healthy idea.. 
Do I care about a number? NO, not really... BUT.. Statistics show otherwise! YOU MEN HAVE THE EASY PART! :)
FIFFICUS... TOO TRUE about the age thing.. I look at men in their 20's who write me and think.... DO MY CHILDREN KNOW THIS PERSON? LOL



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, May 04, 2012 14:56

How much "older" do you consider in this scenario? Is it all about ego? In my situation it is based on practical and biological considerations. I have no children...and I would love to have a child.  The reality is, whether you like this or not, that women above 40 years of age (especially 45) have significantly higher risks of having children with genetic defects and higher rates of infertility issues.  So for a 48 year old man like me, my ideal would be someone not too much younger than me...perhaps between 35-39, allowing enough time to establish a relationship...after all, don't want to have to rush this too fast.  I have no desire to be with someone 25 years old!  Don't want to be anyone's father either.
I realize that nothing is guaranteed in life. But for a man like me who wants his OWN child...not someone else's (unless I can have my own child as well), I cannot afford not to think about age.



Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Thu, Apr 26, 2012 23:49

This is always a dodgy subject and I agree with most ot the comments, however, there really is no perfect age! Its almost like saying I always go for blonde, or I don't eat greens... well hun, you have no idea what you may be missing!  Sometimes age can be discriminating (for all ages) and I often wonder how many times people miss a great opportunity of meeting someone really nice just because they specifiy a particular age range in their profile or blow someone off because of their age, I'm guilty too. 
We are all guilty of being judgemental in terms of age, yet there is no guarantee that a 20 or 30 year old is better in bed or an older woman better in the kitchen, that's simply pathetic and bull...
Sure, at a certain age gravity does set in and its not limited to either gender, it affects us all, however, it also depends on how you 'wear' it. Some people manage with ease to look crap in Gucci, Prada or Armani whilst others look a million dollars in Zara... 
It all relative. I asked a gay friend of mine what's the reason for younger men hitting on older women and he told me, "Darling, you don't have to prove yourself anymore, you're established, you don't want kids anymore, you know how 'it' (I guess that includes EVERYTHING) works, and men don't have to try that hard and bullshit around, you call a spade a spade and you're not afraid to say it and act however you feel, you know how to 'behave' or not as it may be in all situations, you can laugh about yourself and when you have sex you don't think if your butt is too big in a certain position you can just let go and  enjoy the ride...." lol Well I guess that was his point of view... I myself have a bit of a psychological barrier with men who are 10 or 15 years younger than me because I don't think, they're a few years younger than me, I tend to think they're a few years older than my kids...damn, I don't know any bedtime stories anymore....  Could be wrong and I could be missing out, especially as men die a lot younger on average according to statistics than women... 
I can't be asked in even thinking of being with a guy who has his midlife crisis - except for having a good laugh but I've been there, done that and I'm sorry, its a joke that wears off extremely fast and its very embarrassing even though I don't give a toss what other people think... 
As to older guys, well, I don't have a problem with older guys but yes, I AM happy to say that I am selfish enough to say that I do have a problem with older guys with small kids. I had my kids young and now I can be as active or as slouchy as I want to be, I'm free and footloose and full of life and ready to enjoy MY life without having to compromise and wait for school buses or deal with puberties... I do not want to play mum to someone else's small kids who had a great time with a much younger women, who subsequently left him with a bunch of kids to graze greener and younger pastures ... Mmmh, no sorry, nothing against kids but firstly knowing what I know now I don't want to risk screwing up innocent kids if the relationship doesn't work out and secondly I've brought up my children and I'm done being a mum. Nothing against grown up kids but I'm sorry, I don't want to play nanny, chauffeur, nurse maid, etc. and then become the guy's nurse maid, what's in it for me?  
Well, gues that will raise a bit of controversy again :) 



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Thu, Mar 22, 2012 18:02

From a psychological/biological basis men are wired to go for women who can produce their offspring and carry on their genes (survival of the fittest). That's why they are said to like fit, young, long haired women . Those qualities show that the woman is healty and will be able to produce.

Not that I agree, just pointing to theory.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Thu, Mar 22, 2012 09:10

Quoting Zariah870619:

Hi All,

I think the answer to that question is that it really depends on the man in question. Just like in many issues in life there are no one size fits all answers. Many people can display the same actions but they can all have varying reasons for displaying that one action. Not all younger women that date older men are gold diggers, not all older men that date younger women are dating because they're going through a mid-life crisis. It all just depends on the people in question.

@Zariah, very well said, as an "Older Man" I couldn't have said it better,, thanks.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2012 17:40

Hi All,

I think the answer to that question is that it really depends on the man in question. Just like in many issues in life there are no one size fits all answers. Many people can display the same actions but they can all have varying reasons for displaying that one action. Not all younger women that date older men are gold diggers, not all older men that date younger women are dating because they're going through a mid-life crisis. It all just depends on the people in question.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, Feb 17, 2012 23:08

Only older man can give you the answer you want to hear, look for one and ask ;)



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, Feb 10, 2012 06:14

In my own candid opinion, i can say that the reason why older men go for younger women is because younger women can help older men to revive their sexual power thereby making them look younger inwardly.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share