There are real MEN out there. Most of them are married to real WOMEN. Those that aren't, they are looking for a real WOMAN.
Just like you discount all them male humans that don't live up to your unrealistic media driven expectation (tall, wealthy, confident, stereo typical masculine), those men discount you for not living up to their unrealistic media driven expectation (young, thin, stereotypical feminine).
Whenever you think the problem is there are no 'good' x available, that means it's your defintion of 'good x' that's the problem.