I have this theory that straight men rarely are a "friend" as  women think.  They are just a boyfriend in waiting.  I have asked dozens of women that if they went to their "friend" and asked him to sleep with her what would be the response.  So far I'm batting 100 percent.  Women said the guy would probably sleep with them.  I think that makes the case that men are not really a woman's "friend", but a boyfriend in waiting. What do you think? 

yea i dont have many male friends but all kinds of girl friends i want more guy friends its hard to find espcially only to be friends they always want more and they just dont listen

I'm beginning to wonder. I think it is almost impossible to have a male friend. it always ends up with him wanting to eventually sleep with you. I do have one male friend but he is gay. He is a true gem. I wish I could find more like him!

 


Platonic love does exist.  Distinguishing between romantic, sexual and friendly feelings, however, can be exceedingly difficult.

Male friends seem to be much more easygoing and spontenous.

Male Female friendship can be tricky.

I found that having male friends was healthier than females. At least in the past. Not to say that I couldn't have had female friends but the amount of drama was far less. Now that I am older it is easier to nurture friendships with women.  

There isn't a single one of my male friends who can say that I had anything more than a friendship with him. In fact, I am travelling to Miami to spend a week with a (straight) friend whom I have known for 20 years. He and I were never involved. This may be one of the rare instances.

It's a tough situation for men to be just friends with a female, but it is possible. Hopefully that male has totally different interests than yours!

On my case..they REALLY exist!!! My male friends are fun to hang out with, reliable, adventurous and respectful. I have no problem on defending it as my experience is so positive and even if we don't think alike we still can count on each other and call us great friends! My female friends are sensitive, sweet and great for some girl time and my male friends are adventurous, players and great for more heavier stuff.
VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!

I love having male friends...Unfortunately,I only have a couple. I made it very clear to my ,male, friends that I have no interest but a friendship. Some of them accept and some try to persuade me into a relationship. One thing I know, is that those that stick around are my true ,male, friends that care and respects me. Yes, I do believe that a male can be friends with a female as long as you keep an open communication with them.

I do have male friends, they are either gay, or we have some business/interest together and i am friends with their wives too, other than that, in my experience... not really.

I have to agree with 4Ever.  I think that your theory is flawed, Orlando. It does make for a good conversation and the percentages may favor your theory in the end but not anywhere near 100%.  How many of the women that you asked have actually asked their male friends if they would sleep with them given the opportunity?  And, it may just be wishfull thinking by the women when in reality the male friends would have no interest at all.

Orlando, some of us really have great male friends. I don't think every male friend is a
"boyfriend" in waiting. Since you love research and statistics, poll a sample size and do a study.

that is what i need right now is a guy friend

My personal experience - men do not  just  want a plain vanilla  "friendship", sooner or later, they want the "benefits or bonus" added.

I have lots of female friends and I have no desire to sleep with any of them.  Just because what she has between her legs is different than what I have doesn't make her attractive to me and just because she's attractive to me doesn't mean I want whats between her legs.
The benefit of friendship is that it allows you to accept a persons imperfections without being driven absolutely insane by them.

Theres always attraction between the two but only when there is mutual respect can there be friendship

Theres always attraction between the two but only when there is mutual respect can there be friendship

Yes. It comes down solidifying the understanding, "you are my friend. Nothing more, nothing less"
When the boundaries are forgotten, then the problems crop up.

Only if they are gay. I have found over the years that men that say they want to be 'just friends' usually have the same hidden agenda.