A very simple question for all ladies out there! Dating Tips and Advices Forward to friends

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 04, 2012 at 08:42 AM

    Men and women are different.  Both pursue each other, just differently. A man pursues a woman in a very direct fashion. A woman is coquettish subduedly in her pursuit, but be clear she pursues.
    A relationship between a man and a woman works in different ways for different people.  For me, I like a man that is confident because I am confident.  I want to carry myself well, but not over shadow the gentleman I am with.  I want to be able to respect his role as the man.  For this to happen the man has to know how to develop his role.
    If this is a partnership, it is one similar to a dancing partnership, one has to lead and the other has to follow.  This doesn't mean be submissive.  A great woman dancer projects her individual style and finess, but the man has a particular role in being the lead.
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  • View author's info Posted on Apr 25, 2012 at 11:54 PM

    For me its a safety issue.

    Off the cuff and not really knowing 'SwissBrasilian', I would have to conjecture that he is not true to his profile words as he contradicts the very notion of finding someone special by referring to this site as a short cut for executives.

    I also think the fact that he lives in a remote area in Dominican Republic makes a female stop and think twice about engaging in this pursuit.

    Most women...any age...look to see if their is a future for them with the man they meet....

    and I think you will find it difficult to find such a woman who wants to live in a remote area in the Dominican Republic?

    I can hardly think of anyone who wants to live in a remote place anywhere unless there is second home in an urban setting.

    This is not a low self-esteem issue as 'easymantolove' suggests...this is an issue of proximity and the destination one might want to end up in.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 26, 2012 at 08:44 AM

    It just depends on the woman. Personally, I will check out a photo or profile, but I will not send a message or flirt . Rejection doesn't feel good and for me, I just have old fashion views when it comes to things like this. I am on another site and I have had over 3700 hits and many flirts and messages, but the men came to me not the other way around. I guess I am not confident or bold enough to approach a man first.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 15, 2012 at 02:48 PM

    I concur wholeheartedly!

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  • View author's info Posted on Feb 05, 2012 at 09:56 AM

    Let me add a males perspective to this.

    I'm looking for a partner.  Look at the word "partner" and try to understand what that means.  A partner is an equal contributor.  Maybe she can't contribute as much financially... or maybe she's 10 x richer than I am... but it means that some how we achieve something that is a partnership.

    By contrast, if I wanted a woman who wanted to just be pretty, be a good hostess to by business dinners, look good on my arm at social functions and just in general perform the non-equal womens duties, those women are a dime a dozen... on here and else where.  Successful men, especially those of us who are older are looking for more and if you don't come to the table with your A game on, you're gonna be on here a very, very long time.

    The next thing, which is about the pursuing part is this: If your self esteem is so low that you worry about reaching out to me, how are you going to survive in my world?  If you worry about sending a rejection email to me, how are you going to handle advances from some ding-dong vendor or high power government official?

    For the most part, on here, you're dealing with a different breed of man and that requires a different set of strategies and just being pretty isn't enough to land the guy you want.
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